posted December 28, 2010 03:13 AM            

This shows us that another aspect of Tantric sex is vulnerability. Both partners being willing to show their real selves, their strengths and weaknesses. This is often difficult for men, who are brought up with the ‘cowboys don’t cry’ mentality.
Of course men have emotions, although there are women who believe they don’t because many men often equate emotions with vulnerability and weakness.
Tantra is also about balance. This includes the balance between the masculine and feminine within all of us, the balance between the inner and outer, between the light and the dark. No other aspect of human life is filled with such contrast and extremes as sex. No other act expresses the lowest and highest of who we are. Nothing else can be so loving and at other times, so ugly. By creating a space that allows us to acknowledge and touch the darkest parts of ourselves, we are able to bring balance to those desires that otherwise may seem perverse. We diffuse them and take their power away.

Non-judgemental
This brings us to another vital aspect of Tantra, that is that Tantra is non-judgemental. Whether you are gay or straight or bisexual, whether you are monogamous, single or a swinger nothing is considered taboo or perverse.
We need to examine that idea carefully because it definitely does not mean that acts of sexual violence, incest and child molestation are acceptable.
One of the prime ideas that Tantra holds is that we are an expression of the God & Goddess in the world. When we make love we are celebrating the energy of the Divine.
I come together with my partner as a physical manifestation of the highest joy there can be. This means we are absolutely open and honest, no games, no manipulation. And nobody does anything that is not 100% okay for themselves; nobody is forced into anything unacceptable, there is only respect and love.
Tantra is about how you do, not what you do
Unlike many philosophies and religions, Tantra celebrates pleasure and acknowledges the beauty of the body. In our world we have made our genitals dirty and a separate part of ourselves.
My nose is always my nose, there may be times when I don’t like it, and I might think it’s too big, but it’s always my nose.
But my genitals are different, we call them ‘private parts’, or ‘down there’. We hide them away and only let them out under very strict circumstances, often with great embarrassment.
Tantric ritual and practice accepts the beauty of our genitals as part of a beautiful body, designed to give and receive, to share pleasure.
Tantra also encourages lust, not only in a sexual sense, but lust for life, for the full enjoyment of sensual living and feeling. This includes the wonderful taste of food and drink, exploring flavours and textures. Music, flowers and exercise.
Friends and family, emotions, even our fears and our tears, all are part of being human. To deny any part of ourselves - physical, mental, emotional or spiritual - is to deprive us of our humanness and our joy.
To go back to the principle of lust for a moment it’s important to understand that Tantra is not about free sex with many partners. That’s more a lifestyle choice than anything else, but because Tantra emphasises intimacy it’s generally possible to have the deep connections we yearn for and the truly fulfilling experiences only with one partner.
Joy and laughter
Above all else, the goal of any Tantric experience is joy, happiness and laughter. So much in our world and our lives is so serious. We even take sex so seriously, being a good lover is so important, having bigger and better breasts and penises and orgasms is so important.
No. What is important on the Tantric journey is to be open, to share and most of all, to love. For love is a choice that we make, every moment of every day.
The wonderful world of Tantra offers many possibilities on how to live, to love and of course, how to have great sex.

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Being loved by all is little fun
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~Robert Brault

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posted December 28, 2010 10:51 AM            

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posted December 28, 2010 11:29 AM            

I can't do it with just anybody though. Maybe it's that vulnerability thing. Because you are incredibly vulnerable physically and spiritually during sex.

Great article Char, really makes you think about the deeper aspects of intimacy.

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Tantra also encourages lust, not only in a sexual sense, but lust for life, for the full enjoyment of sensual living and feeling. This includes the wonderful taste of food and drink, exploring flavours and textures. Music, flowers and exercise.

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posted January 06, 2011 04:50 AM            

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Originally posted by blonderiverkat:
Awwww that was beautiful charmaine...reminds me of my honey and myself...I am lucky, he is an awesome musician, and we have great sex...best of both worlds!lol

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Best of both worlds, nice!