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Ami Anne
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posted January 26, 2012 03:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Why Do We Accept Abusive Relationships?
By amiann | Published: January 26, 2012

I think there is a mundane reason and an astrological reason. They converge, as does everything when you study astrology. Have you ever had a relationship which everyone told you was bad? Everyone seemed to see what you could not. It may have gotten to the point where you could not even discuss the relationship with anyone, as everyone turned against you, if you chose to continue. You knew you are doing wrong. You knew you were being ridiculous, but you knew it in your mind, only. Your body and soul felt, differently. You put your mind on the shelf, all the while knowing you were walking in to danger. Why? There would be a mundane reason and an astrological reason. The mundane one could be that you have low self esteem. This may be true. However, the mundane reason is of the earth. The astrological chart is of the heavens.

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Ami Anne
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posted January 26, 2012 03:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am a counselor. I would never counsel without the charts, ever, not since I discovered the charts. Back to our topic. There are astrological reasons for the above question. A woman, for example, may have been abused and , indeed, have low self esteem. On this the mundane and the astrological agree. However, the chart can show your abuse, in detail. If one wants to go one step further, one can see the parent’s impact. A woman who is in an abusive relationship was abused, most likely. One cannot make a doctrine out of it, though, as I am sure some woman were not. Either way, if there is an abusive relationship, it touches on the most primal parts of the human being. We, all, have a natural insecurity, from the uncertainties of life. The abusive relationship pulls on our need to belong, and more so, on our need to validate our right to exist. We, all, question ourselves, at the deepest level. I think, even the most secure person. The abusive relationship manages to get in to this space and pull on it, as one would tug on a cord.

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ariesdragon
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posted February 09, 2012 07:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ariesdragon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for sharing ur wonderful words

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hippichick
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posted February 10, 2012 11:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ami you are such a smart and deep lady,,,I just love reading your posts!

Thank you for bringing this topic up, cause it is often an underground topic.

MY issues have always stemmed from my Virgo mom..very emotionally abusive in my early years, then she married a man who was worse at it than she....so ofcourse, I have always attracted emotionally/mentally/verbally abusive men. My former marriage is a prime example. I just seem to keep attracting men who act in such a way.

But I will be 50 soon and I have learned this about myself. I do not have low self esteem, just an energy thing for me and is is what I have been brought up with (funny, tho, the little Pisces girl always knew all of them were full of crap and all the bad things they said about her were not true.)

Hence my relationship now. The Virgo does not mean to emotionally abuse me, neither did my mother, but I LET THEM, well until I became more aware and started calling them out on their **** . Thing about Virgo, tho, one has to be very clever as to pointing out their faults, cause they are not aware. My mom in her mid 70's is finally recognizing her faults of critisizm, etc.

Anyway, abuse in anyform is wrong, and it is up to the "victim" (for lack of a more approptiate word) to re-gain their power back and learn and progress.

Thanks again!

Lovely topic!!!

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hippichick
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posted February 10, 2012 12:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hippichick     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
O,, and my mother was emotionally abused by my grandma, her mother, (but my dear granny, now passed, raised me and my brother for much of our early childhood and was always so kind and supportive of me..again age enlightened her.)

My grandma's mother, of what I remember of her, was also very emotionally abusive to my mother and my grandma...

I have stopped this family trait, tho...While my daughter's dad was never abusive to them, he was to me, but they seemed to have turned out ok. My eldest has PTSD like me, but she has balls in her relationship and calls her girlfriend out on crap. My youngest, the Aqua, wont let any guy push her around.

I have always been very supportive of my kids, no tough love for me. People tend to judge me on my parenting style, but what they dont understand is that we three had to stick together just to survive back in those days...hence I stopped the chain of my maternal heritage.

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Ami Anne
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posted February 10, 2012 08:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you Hippi and Aries. That was really sweet of you to write on this thread!

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posted February 20, 2012 05:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SaggiMC     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by hippichick:
O,, and my mother was emotionally abused by my grandma, her mother, (but my dear granny, now passed, raised me and my brother for much of our early childhood and was always so kind and supportive of me..again age enlightened her.)

My grandma's mother, of what I remember of her, was also very emotionally abusive to my mother and my grandma...

I have stopped this family trait, tho...While my daughter's dad was never abusive to them, he was to me, but they seemed to have turned out ok. My eldest has PTSD like me, but she has balls in her relationship and calls her girlfriend out on crap. My youngest, the Aqua, wont let any guy push her around.

I have always been very supportive of my kids, no tough love for me. People tend to judge me on my parenting style, but what they dont understand is that we three had to stick together just to survive back in those days...hence I stopped the chain of my maternal heritage.



sounds very much like a *spiritual Lesson* that you Soul needed to learn on many levels.

How many times do you here of a woman who was beaten by her man, goes from one man to another who does exactly the same thing. This smacks of NOT learning the Lesson, otherwise it wouldn't have to be repeated.

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posted February 20, 2012 05:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SaggiMC     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I am a counselor. I would never counsel without the charts, ever, not since I discovered the charts. Back to our topic. There are astrological reasons for the above question. A woman, for example, may have been abused and , indeed, have low self esteem. On this the mundane and the astrological agree. However, the chart can show your abuse, in detail. If one wants to go one step further, one can see the parent’s impact. A woman who is in an abusive relationship was abused, most likely. One cannot make a doctrine out of it, though, as I am sure some woman were not. Either way, if there is an abusive relationship, it touches on the most primal parts of the human being. We, all, have a natural insecurity, from the uncertainties of life. The abusive relationship pulls on our need to belong, and more so, on our need to validate our right to exist. We, all, question ourselves, at the deepest level. I think, even the most secure person. The abusive relationship manages to get in to this space and pull on it, as one would tug on a cord.


and what kind of things do you look for astrologically?

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posted February 23, 2012 11:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for juniperb     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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