posted March 21, 2012 10:57 PM            

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Originally posted by T:
I'll never be able to embrace it or find anything womanly or beautiful about it. I don't care about blood either. Or i'm not grossed out by that in general. Even if I had easy periods, I wouldnt like it. I just think it's effed up that women have to deal with this. That's just my feeling on it. Doesnt help that mine are extremely hard to deal with every single month.

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Oh I heart you T! You took the words right out of my mouth. I have had horrible periods since the moment they started and thankfully I don't throw up like I used to when I had the pain however it's still pretty bad.

Maybe it's my Mars in Aries speaking however it feels like having my period slows me down which I sort of hate. I want to be on the same page as the boys and I consider it kind of unfair that I can't be because of this constant pain I feel every 28 days. The pain is so excruciating for me I need to take days off from work. It even impacts my ability to function normally again which drives me up the wall. I don't consider my menstrual cycle gross however it's just a major annoyance. I don't want children and if I could I'd choose to never have my period again which bodes well with my disinterest in reproducing. I guess it's just all apart of being a woman, so ok.

posted March 21, 2012 11:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Ami

I realized that reading this I read the message she was trying to convey -- and I forgot the details. Now that I am noticing the details and analyzing what she said.. I'm thinking that she should see a doctor.
But you probably don't know her so there isn't much point in me saying this.

It is not uncommon to get your period early. But I think it is very uncommon to wake up in a *pool* of blood (unless she is exaggerating?)
On the first day of one's period.. the flow shouldn't be heavy at all. It usually starts with brownish spotting and then slight bleeding.. Then the flow increases on the 2nd-3rd days.. and it dies down on the 5th-6th days... It's somewhere along those lines.

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posted March 21, 2012 11:28 PM            

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Originally posted by NativelyJoan:
Oh I heart you T! You took the words right out of my mouth. I have had horrible periods since the moment they started and thankfully I don't throw up like I used to when I had the pain however it's still pretty bad.

Maybe it's my Mars in Aries speaking however it feels like having my period slows me down which I sort of hate. I want to be on the same page as the boys and I consider it kind of unfair that I can't be because of this constant pain I feel every 28 days. The pain is so excruciating for me I need to take days off from work. It even impacts my ability to function normally again which drives me up the wall. I don't consider my menstrual cycle gross however it's just a major annoyance. I don't want children and if I could I'd choose to never have my period again which bodes well with my disinterest in reproducing. I guess it's just all apart of being a woman, so ok.

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Yes, yes!!! Exactly to all of that! I feel the same way. I also get extremely wiped out - feels like a truck hit me, more drained than I used to around that time and it sucks having all of your energy sapped like that each month. It's gotten in the way of so many things over the years. It would be one thing if it happened a couple times per year, but every month? sucks.

But yeah, part of being a woman, i guess.

posted March 22, 2012 01:03 AM            

As for potential energetic or emotional imbalances, I've come up with many possibilities over the years in that department too. I think it's a combination of a number of causes. It might just be too complex to fix.

posted March 22, 2012 02:23 AM            

i remember when i first got my period i was 13, it wasnt painfull or anything but i was so uncomfortable, and so worried that i couldn't sleep for a week and for the first year or so i hated it, couldn't stand it, would count the seconds till its over.. when i got older i was ok with it, no pain so no worries, but when i hit 18 the pains started and to this day the first 2 days are like hell!!

posted March 22, 2012 09:58 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Natively Joan and T- Is it possible that you lack iron?
I take iron tablets and I eat a lot of stuff that is high in sugar and drink energy drinks when I have my period. I don't feel energy zapped. My Sun is in Aries - but my Mars is in Cappy.

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I appreciate your concern and advice Betty. I'm part vegan and consume many products high in Iron, Fiber and Vitamin's especially Vitamin D and C, Magnesium, Potassium and Calcium because I'm lactose intolerant. Making sure I consume the appropriate amount of Vitamins within my daily diet is very important to me. I actually can't consume any drinks that have caffeine or stimulants in general because I have a lot of anxiety.

It doesn't help that I'm Air/Fire dominant with less than 4 percent earth. There's not much to ground all the nervous energy I have so I find ways of staying centered through meditation and yoga. I drink herbal tea 3 - 4 times a day in order to have better health and to stabilize my nervous energy.

When my period comes my energy doesn't necessarily get zapped, it's just I'm in so much pain and feel like crap and find it hard to function normally. The energy is still there but it's almost trapped without an escape. And with having Moon and Mars in Aries that energy NEEDS to escape somehow.The culprit in my situation is probably related to my excess nervous energy which makes it hard for me to relax and what would be mild pain turns into unbearable pain because I become highly anxious. I guess we are all different and find different ways to deal with what we've got.

posted March 22, 2012 10:33 AM            

Besides that my Taurus boyfriend would always know when I'm on my period because he used to say I get cranky when I'm on period. He will always know.Strange!

And now about the topic, I totally can relate with you but I had this kind of feeling when they started ,when I was 13. Now its been like 10+ years and mine happen every 24 days, i mean if my periods start on 1st of a month, 5 days of those periods and then again on 24th. so I get only 17-19 clean days in a month. you can imagine! Besides that I have a messed up hormonal system which makes my hair fall excessively and give me estrogen-related acne, but I never complained about being a woman. I love it, this is what I am and I love being a woman, even though I'm the most masculine woman of the Zodiac and I have higher testosterone levels in my blood.
As far its about men, I don't understand why we should not hush-hush about it and why can we not just take it as a personal matter? when we don't like men staring or talking about our boobs, why do we want to discuss our periods with them? :/

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Pity from an Aries is worse than their contempt \m/

posted March 22, 2012 10:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
There is no reason to cry about it and write dramatic posts about being in a pool of blood.. to draw attention.Talking about your period with random men because you just *feel* like it --- will not practically change the world or the patriarchial society we live in in any way. So actually - it is quite pointless.

ALSO - for the record.. I understand that some people out there just like to focus on the negatives..
She is 21 yrs old.. so maybe she is basing too much on guys who are YOUNG and STUPId. As people mature - they see things

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posted March 23, 2012 02:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Sounds like good counsel, Betty.

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posted March 24, 2012 10:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Frozen - I am not retarded.. so I do understand what she is getting at... but I can still criticize the way she decided to word this.. which says -- "ungrateful person".

OK? So you think you have it so bad because you are a woman in a man's world?

OK! Do you know what I have to say to that?

GET OVER IT!!!!

Because frankly feminism has achieved a lot and it continues to achieve things now. We are not now where we were 50 yrs ago.. so things are progressing.
There is no reason to cry about it and write dramatic posts about being in a pool of blood.. to draw attention.
If you want to do something for the sake of feminism.. go and get a career in PHILOSOPHY for example.. because the classes are usually 80% or more.. male!!
Talking about your period with random men because you just *feel* like it --- will not practically change the world or the patriarchial society we live in in any way. So actually - it is quite pointless.

ALSO - for the record.. I understand that some people out there just like to focus on the negatives.. but to be frank most MATURE people - male or female... do not have such an issue with periods. My dad bought me pads and tampons and he didn't care - when I was younger!
She is 21 yrs old.. so maybe she is basing too much on guys who are YOUNG and STUPId. As people mature - they see things differently.

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I agree. She shouldn't complain about anything that she think seems unjust. Anyone who complains about anything are immature and ungrateful.
If you don't like it, kill yourself.

That seems about the gist of your posts, am I right? Cause that's straight what I read, and not just from the one I quoted.

posted March 25, 2012 05:37 AM            

PS.
Peroxide removes blood stains from color fast fabrics and mattresses.

posted March 26, 2012 11:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Venus:
i think Cara (the girl who was quoted) and FQ are right.. women SHOULD be able to talk about their periods without bing labeled as "disgusting" "inappropriate" "immature" or the oh so common "wh*re"

why are menstrual cycles such a taboo?! they are 100% natural, have been occuring since the dawn of time.. its ok if a guy sees you holding a pad, or if you accidently wet your pants with blood, its not the traumatizing experiance we make of it..

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posted March 26, 2012 07:49 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
It's like breastfeeding, too. It's fine to have them on display in other fashions, but feeding a baby?

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Oh teasel!! I've been meaning to post this for ages but always forgot! Thanks for the reminder

posted March 26, 2012 07:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
Frozen Queen {{{hugs)))
I totally caught the sarcasm in the Cara story,
and her frustration which to me sounded valid.
Sarcasm and anger was justified in my opinion.
I do not feel she was exaggerating.
I can definitely relate to all she said,
and my situations were/are far far worse....
but I still can totally relate to what she said.
It is frustrating enough to have periods,
but when they are abnormal gushers, it is indeed a nightmare.....which hers sound like.
And yeah, men can be real creeps about periods and the jokes just go on and on.
Her words are not about self hatred but frustration with the situations and the insensitivity of people.
I do not hate myself.
I hate what my body does, I hate that it betrays me always.
It((my body)has never been normal.
I would not have minded as much if things were normal.
Normal women periods sound tolerable.
But for some 43 years, since age 9,
I had to deal with, with rare exception,
the sudden, often filling shoes,
bloody bright cherry red down the legs gushers, or pools blood in bed, to tell me it started......and tampons would on the worse days of each 14 to 21 days of bleeding,
(followed by if lucky, 1 week without bleeding or at least only spotting)
fill up in a minute or less....so there I would be shoving in up to 60 or more a day plus having to use diapers not merely pads.
And I went to school, worked a job, and did things like normal folks but yeah,
doing it all with a bloody mess and diapers for 14 to 21 days was a fraking nightmare.
The 26+ lost pregnancies were at least physically, (emotionally no)easier to deal with than the periods from bloody hell.
Being pregnant was better than bleeding like a gutted animal for two to three weeks at a time.
Swimming was a rare pleasure to say the least.

So walk in my old bloody shoes and tell me I had no valid reason to complain.
Rant over.

PS.
Peroxide removes blood stains from color fast fabrics and mattresses.

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Thanks Lexx and thanks for the peroxide thing because stains are the worst!!!

posted March 28, 2012 09:28 AM            

It's like some scary conservative party is attempting to derail the progress of the past 100 years and I can only hope that enough women are going out to the voting booths to prevent such atrocities from becoming law in this country.