posted March 21, 2012 03:40 PM            

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Wait, let me back up.

Hi, my name is Cara and I’m a 21 year old woman. Every 28 days, give or take, I have a period. And it fcuking sucks. Today, was one of those where I take from the 28 day cycle. I wasn’t due for another period for at least a week, but considering that my period is pretty much permanently irregular, I get to wake up a lot of mornings in a pool of my own blood. Hmm. Lovely.

I then proceed to dump my sheets, my underwear, and my pajamas in my laundry room in a tub filled with cold water, with the hopes that this time I haven’t ruined them permanently.

What next? Well, a shower of course! To wipe off the smell of rotting blood from my body! Squeaky clean and towel fresh I have about a two minute window before the volcano of blood begins to erupt again from my vagina.

What will it be today? A piece of chlorinated toilet paper cardboard with a string that I get to shove up my hole wherein the blood will sit and rot until the next time I can shove another piece of chlorinated cardboard up the same hole? Or, a plastic lined toilet paper diaper attached to my underwear that causes rug burn to my vaginal area when I walk? Well the later requires less coordination, and it is early, so I guess I’ll be sitting in a period diaper today. The best ever.

Of course, I could always just get birth control, and lessen this whole sh!t. But
1) I can’t afford it
2) I can’t ask my dad to pay for it because, guess what? Just like the men who run my government, my father correlates birth control with sexual promiscuity! Thus, sitting on my rotting blood, undergoing severe cramps that have on more than one occasion caused me to black out, it is! (Not that birth control is such a walk in the park either, our bodies have to learn to deal with the hormones and other chemicals and consequences that birth control entails.)

Then, I get to go to class, where I have to pretend that I am not a leaky faucet of blood and tissue. I get to sit in Calculus, and if heaven forbid, I need an additional pad, I have to be discrete about it, so as not to offend the men’s gentle sensibilities to the fact that I am the one dropping tissues and blood from my body through my vagina.

I once asked a male to take me to the pharmacy so that I could pick up (GASP) pads, or as we like to call it “feminine products” (again, so as not to offend the gentlemen’s overly sensitive natures) and had him equate me talking about my period to him talking about his erections.

ARE

YOU

F*CKING

KIDDING

ME

No.

This is nothing like your f*cking erection’s. I don’t derive any enjoyment from this. I can’t mentally control any ounce of this entire process. I can’t masturbate my problem away. My period does not end in orgasm.

It stays. For at least five days in my case. Draining blood out of my body. Causing me severe cramps, making me irritable -not because I’m uncomfortable (which mind you, would be reason enough) - but because my hormones are all over the place, bloating me up to two sizes larger than I normally am, I have to actively fight not to smell like a fish market, and on top of that, you want me to be hush-hush about this? Because it’s icky for you?

And this is not an attack on that one man, this is an attack on ALL MEN who on top of sitting on their throne of gender privilege want me to stay quiet and be content about the fact that five days out of every month I get to undergo this happiest of joys.

And then, these very same men have the audacity to get annoyed because we don’t want to listen to their f*cking complaining about traffic? Or whatever other meaningless story they happen to tell us while our bodies are actively fighting against us? Then we get to be the butt of their tired-ass jokes? Sorry, I am most certainly not sorry.

I repeat NO. I say women come out of the period closet and say, “You know what, this happens to me. Every. F*cking . Month. And it’s terrible. LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT MY MORNING.” Because the truth is, if I live in a country where Viagra is covered by medical insurance, but birth control isn’t, I can no longer keep denying that I live in a country that is actively waging a war on women. And if I live in a country that is actively waging war on my sex, the least I am going to do is break patriarchal social propriety to inform anyone and everyone of the sh!t biological process I was BLESSED enough to be born into.

Hello, my name is Cara, I’m a 21 year old woman, and today I’m on my period. Let me FCUKING tell you about it.

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posted March 21, 2012 09:02 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Ami

I realized that reading this I read the message she was trying to convey -- and I forgot the details. Now that I am noticing the details and analyzing what she said.. I'm thinking that she should see a doctor.
But you probably don't know her so there isn't much point in me saying this.

It is not uncommon to get your period early. But I think it is very uncommon to wake up in a *pool* of blood (unless she is exaggerating?)
On the first day of one's period.. the flow shouldn't be heavy at all. It usually starts with brownish spotting and then slight bleeding.. Then the flow increases on the 2nd-3rd days.. and it dies down on the 5th-6th days... It's somewhere along those lines.

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Sounds like good counsel, Betty!

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posted March 21, 2012 09:09 PM            

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posted March 21, 2012 09:47 PM            

This whole post is written in exaggeration and sarcasm to highlight the conclusion at the end. Please read before commenting or agreeing.

posted March 21, 2012 10:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
T was your nickname 26T... years ago?

Because I remember a similar thread and me saying something similar about being OK with my period.. and 26T giving me a thumbs-up for it.

I always thought you were 26T/26Taurus.

My nickname was probably Lauren or Coral Frequency then.

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Yeah, that was me before the LL crash.

That's strange. Maybe I was thumbsuping to something else you said, if I did. Or maybe the fact that you were okay with it and it must be nice to be. That is the more likely reason for a thumbsup to that - like "lucky you". It would be nice to be able to not have to suffer so much every month, so maybe I was saying I was happy for you.

I have shared my period struggles often here over the years. I've been dealing with this at varying pain levels since my periods began.

I've tried meditation, hypnosis, changing diet, changing outlook or attitude towards it and nothing has helped.

Mostly I just have to lay down and deal with it and wait for pain reliever to kick in, but mostly take it easy for the first couple of days.

posted March 21, 2012 10:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Frozen Queen:
I seriously don't know what to say when people can't understand sarcasm. There's a reason I bold-ed the text at the end.

This whole post is written in exaggeration and sarcasm to highlight the conclusion at the end. Please read before commenting or agreeing.

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I did read the whole thing and got the exaggeratiing about a "pool of blood" and a few other thiings, and heard a bit of sarcasm, anger in it.

posted March 21, 2012 10:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Frozen - I am not retarded.. so I do understand what she is getting at... but I can still criticize the way she decided to word this.. which says -- "ungrateful person".

OK? So you think you have it so bad because you are a woman in a man's world?

OK! Do you know what I have to say to that?

GET OVER IT!!!!

Because frankly feminism has achieved a lot and it continues to achieve things now. We are not now where we were 50 yrs ago.. so things are progressing.
There is no reason to cry about it and write dramatic posts about being in a pool of blood.. to draw attention.
If you want to do something for the sake of feminism.. go and get a career in PHILOSOPHY for example.. because the classes are usually 80% or more.. male!!
Talking about your period with random men because you just *feel* like it --- will not practically change the world or the patriarchial society we live in in any way. So actually - it is quite pointless.

ALSO - for the record.. I understand that some people out there just like to focus on the negatives.. but to be frank most MATURE people - male or female... do not have such an issue with periods. My dad bought me pads and tampons and he didn't care - when I was younger!
She is 21 yrs old.. so maybe she is basing too much on guys who are YOUNG and STUPId. As people mature - they see things differently.

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