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posted September 10, 2012 09:05 AM            

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if a girl does it? is it?

what about for a guy as well?

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posted September 10, 2012 10:24 AM            

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We always choose from those who like us.
We usually choose by who we like back. I don't think that's settling, no.
Grand, all consuming, passionate and crazy romances are fine. Unrequited love can be magical albeit sad, but when you get to a certain age, you crave stability. At least I do. Being with someone for whom you have steady, lasting, and deep love , with whom you share common interests, someone, who is your best friend is a lot more valuable to me.
Lack of fireworks does not equal settling.

Also, lately, I'm realizing that I'm in charge of my own happiness. I CAN be happy if I choose to be happy. I like having a partner I can be happy with but it's all up to me.

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posted September 10, 2012 10:43 AM            

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I like to try to never settle cos I worry i will regret in the future.

But that is so difficult to find someone who you like and who is equally crazy for you. Ever more difficult is to find someone where both have same mutual feelings of love and there is easy all-sharing communication AND same shared activities. I don't want someone whom we both love but who cannot communicate with me freely nor one whom we both love but both have not much common interest.. Yes, my tarot reading lately has given me a brand new perspective on what i need to look for in love. So I think life is just so freaking d i f f i c u l t now.

And I thought my expectation is high... my tarot reader has set my expectations even higher now.

I don't think there is a difference between girl and guy... to me, there are always more ppl loving us than we loving them. Its pretty clear to me... then again, this can be Leo-ish ego speaking..

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posted September 10, 2012 10:54 AM            

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I'm not one fond of saying that i'd libra it up when it comes to things like this... You've gotta take an inch if you'd like to get the foot, sometimes.

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posted September 10, 2012 11:51 AM            

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note to self: stop having conversations about relationships with your 12 year old libra sister. damn she knows what settling is. how?

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posted September 10, 2012 12:06 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
note to self: stop having conversations about relationships with your 12 year old libra sister. damn she knows what settling is. how?

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It's all that Disney and Degrassi that they watch.

That and the other one... Glee.

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posted September 10, 2012 06:58 PM            

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It depends. If you don't like any of them, and they aren't good marriage material, and are just taking what you can get because you don't feel like you deserve a good person/can't find one, yes, it's settling.

If you like one, and you're compatible, and that person would be a good spouse, not settling.

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posted September 10, 2012 07:09 PM            

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Neither man nor women should settle for a relationship if they really aren't interested in the relationship simple. If starting a family and getting married are extremely important for you, the same thing still applies. Settling creates regret, and sometimes regret leads to worse things.

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posted September 10, 2012 09:42 PM            

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I just did this.

I joined a dating site and my strategy was wait for people to contact me and only go on dates with those who seemed eager to communicate with and get to know me. I did not message anyone else. The main criteria was how much of a "match" the site said we were and how interested in getting to know me the person seemed.

Got myself a new man friend this way who plays no games. Comes highly recommended from me.

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posted September 10, 2012 10:29 PM            

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Originally posted by C1ND3R:
It's all that Disney and Degrassi that they watch.

That and the other one... Glee.

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she doesn't watch tv lol! but i suppose it's something similar. facebook perhaps..

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posted September 10, 2012 10:34 PM            

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moon square venus

There can be a distinct tendency to become friends (and lovers) with people too readily, simply because there is a strong need for approval and a hunger for receiving affection. As such, these people may get involved with people who seem to really like them, and they don't consider whether they actually like them back! It's somewhat of a weakness, as these people are very charmed by the idea that someone seems to really like them and appreciate them. Generally, one of life's lessons for these people is to learn to discriminate more and to get in touch with what they truly want and need.

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posted September 10, 2012 10:38 PM            

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Originally posted by RegardesPlatero:
It depends. If you don't like any of them, and they aren't good marriage material, and are just taking what you can get because you don't feel like you deserve a good person/can't find one, yes, it's settling.

If you like one, and you're compatible, and that person would be a good spouse, not settling.

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i'm not even sure i have a checklist like that. usually i just pick the hottest one. they are nice to me and i'm quite lucky in that regard.

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posted September 10, 2012 11:03 PM            

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Pick the hottest one

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