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RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Registered: Sep 2011	posted September 12, 2012 06:53 AM - IP: Logged
doommlord Moderator Posts: 1687 From: israel Registered: Dec 2011	posted September 12, 2012 07:34 AM all i have to say is....its YOUR event and you are the one allowed to make changes you did not make a last minute change or gave her false promises so you are ok in the end its her problem and she should have talked to you and try to reach an agreement insted of stooping to emotional munipulation keep strong! IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 38229 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 12, 2012 08:00 AM I am gonna ask you a really honest question, as why bother to deal with things if one is not honest( with oneself) is my motto. In that vein, I want to ask you this. Did you do this purposely to exclude her to "pay her back"? ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Registered: Sep 2011	posted September 12, 2012 08:24 AM - IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Registered: Sep 2011	posted September 12, 2012 08:35 AM - IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 38229 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 12, 2012 09:00 AM I went through a mess, recently. I don't know about anyone else, but there is no other way to learn other than doing your best, making mistakes, getting wise counsel and learning those lessons, one painful one at a time. YOU ARE DOING THAT. Go Gurl ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Registered: Sep 2011	posted September 12, 2012 09:05 AM - IP: Logged
juniperb Moderator Posts: 5482 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009	posted September 12, 2012 09:20 AM quote: I had to tell her no because we're already at our limit, and now she's mad and trying to make me feel guilty about it. She's saying things to make me feel bad, like going on and on about how much they'd been looking forward to it, had cleared their schedules, etc. I'm not letting her do that and straight up told her that invitations are for the people to whom they are sent, and if you can bring a guest, it will usually say "plus-1", and that she should have asked first. Emotional manipulation or the tenacles of emotional blackmail like this only works if one doesn`t stand their ground. You did and should feel ( as Dad confirmed)you handled it right. ------------------ We dance around the ring and suppose, but the secret sits in the middle and Knows Robert Frost IP: Logged
ail221 Knowflake Posts: 2026 From: Mary Margaret Blanchard's home Registered: Feb 2012	posted September 12, 2012 11:18 AM Well she kinda proved you right initially because she is bring tension into the event that you originally didn't want. It's your event and you have the right to deny her, you didn't make any false promises nor did you imply she could bring a guest especially some one who is not of get significance; her boyfriend is not her fiance or husband. Honestly my empathy level is very low when it comes to rude people. Personally I'd tell her if she'd still like to come alone she may but she wasn't allowed to invite a guest and it didn't explicitly said so therefore if she is truly upset by this she can choose to not participate and someone else will take her place. IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 38229 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 12, 2012 11:45 AM I, honestly, think that life is like this over and over because people have a flesh(ego). You just have to find some way to deal with it to keep your balance. I suppose that would be the definition of maturity ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Registered: Sep 2011	posted September 12, 2012 04:21 PM - IP: Logged
doommlord Moderator Posts: 1687 From: israel Registered: Dec 2011	posted September 12, 2012 04:34 PM quote: Originally posted by RegardesPlatero: That's basically what I said--that I would hope that she would still come and that there are no hard feelings. I honestly didn't want to hurt her, but I just can't have more than ten. from my experience with aries mars...and i live with one..... she will probably let go of it in a week at most IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Registered: Sep 2011	posted September 12, 2012 04:38 PM - IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 38229 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 12, 2012 04:39 PM Very little water may be the problem. This is the hardest void( low element) by far. It makes them very easy to take offense, like super easy, in my experience. ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Registered: Sep 2011	posted September 12, 2012 04:43 PM - IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 38229 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 12, 2012 04:49 PM The water void,many times( not always as some water voids work on this and overcome it)However, the typical water void is clueless about how others feel. They can be really abrasive because they have low empathy. They simply cannot put themselves in others shoes, so they cause problems for people/groups. I do know a few water voids who are super sensitive and have overcome this void, in some way. However, often low water or the water void can be low empathy. They create problems and blame other people. They do not have introspection to realize that THEY elicit this response from others. It did not fall out of the sky sigh ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 38229 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 12, 2012 04:55 PM Whenever I discuss water void, I will have some water voids, angrily, defend themselves, making my point ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
PixieJane Knowflake Posts: 1239 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010	posted September 12, 2012 09:02 PM I think it's polite to ask about bringing other people even to a party (unless they're hanging up fliers and passing them out everywhere in which case I assume they're after quantity, probably because they figured a way to make a profit out of enough people showing up), and it seems obvious that a team would definitely be by invitation only. Without knowing any specifics that's all I can say. IP: Logged
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 4573 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012	posted September 12, 2012 09:06 PM quote: Originally posted by Ami Anne: Very little water may be the problem. This is the hardest void( low element) by far. It makes them very easy to take offense, like super easy, in my experience. seriously? my experience is that watery people are the ones who take offense easily. IP: Logged
C1ND3R Knowflake Posts: 1490 From: Dorsia Registered: Aug 2012	posted September 12, 2012 09:15 PM 3 words: "SPACE IS LIMITED" IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 38229 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 12, 2012 09:34 PM quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: seriously? my experience is that watery people are the ones who take offense easily. Well, you have to look at it more specifically, maybe. Water people can be overly sensitive. However, the water void has LITTLE sensitivity. The root is quite different in these 2 situations ime. ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Registered: Sep 2011	posted September 12, 2012 09:36 PM - IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 38229 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 12, 2012 09:37 PM Let me explain it better A person high in water such as a cancer moon and Mars, which I am, may take criticism to heart. However, a water void may be oblivious to emotional cues, so step on other people's feelings, get people upset and not know what happened, as they have little sensitivity. I could guess some water voids on here, but won't ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged
RegardesPlatero Moderator Posts: 4367 From: Registered: Sep 2011	posted September 13, 2012 08:08 AM - IP: Logged
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 38229 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010	posted September 13, 2012 08:36 AM Well, one guy who is a friend of a friend is a water void. He causes problems like this among his group of friends, as he is a know -it -all in addition to being clueless about human feelings. I know one girl who is a water void and a total doll. However, she has a 12th House stellium so a full water house. ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/ IP: Logged

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