posted November 27, 2012 08:25 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
Am fine with it. It's the women that are mostly not.

I used to be like that though and would even manipulate situations to my favor so they wouldn't but I'm too old for that now.

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posted November 27, 2012 08:29 PM            

although dates were simple then and tended to involve chaperons, men were gentleman and ladies were ladies~ no loose values/morals...

I think it's hard to trust anyone these days who date people in numbers~ If you didn't have to question their morals (you know they are sexually exclusive), and/or you have the same priorities, or expectations for one another.... then it would be alright.

But, definitely not for me.

I could understand a girl of good moral (this is in my opinion, and not to offend anyone who partakes in multiple suitors), having casual dates set some time apart, but not just not night after night out.... i'd question her character and motives. Even if she were a complete girl scout at heart I'd have to wonder why she was needing the attention/affection of so many men.

But, if it was a date with Tom on Monday, they went to have lattes at a new shop for an hour, a date with Dick to the cinema for two hours on Friday, and say she was invited out by Harry the next Wednesday for Wing Night at 10-Midnight~ IDK --- maybe that would be fine so long as each one of the gentleman courting her weren't opposed, and she was open about how intimate she was within reason (I don't think it would be wise to kiss and tell each Tom, Dick,and Harry about the other), but to stay on good footing, you wouldn't want to lead the other two men on when she was set on one already.... It's hard to say which scenario is appropriate, and which is not... It's not for everyone, and I respect that some people are comfortable with those multiple dating situations.... Problem is still - in my mind.... I have to ask, "why are they so desperate?"

I hope that was somewhat understandable~ lol
--- and not too judgmental or old fashioned.

I'd personally feel like I was already cheating on someone if I'd accepted a date from another guy/girl after just having one with someone.... I don't like doing anything that will cause regret or guilt~ best to avoid those actions ime.... <3 stand by your decisions, and what you -feel- is right for you~!

posted November 27, 2012 08:31 PM            

I feel like if I go out on a date with a guy and then at the same time, he's going out on dates with all kinds of other women......idk.....it would make me feel like i'm on some kind of dating show and I wouldnt like that. I wouldnt want to be 'picked' by him, if i found out he was taking a different girl out every night of the week and sort of auditioning them. Okay, it's not usually exactly like that, but that's the feeling i'd get from it.

Maybe because I don't approach dating that way, so I couldnt imaging being with someone who did. On the rare occasion I found someone I was interested in, i'd be focussing on getting to know that person.

posted November 27, 2012 08:33 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i've noticed that lots of girls my age do it, i guess it makes sense for them considering most of them have tons of suitors, but its not my thing..

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Is it insecurity on your part or principle?

posted November 27, 2012 08:39 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
Is it insecurity on your part or principle?

Do u think you can't do the same and are getting the short end of the stick in the bargain?

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posted November 27, 2012 08:43 PM            

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I'd personally feel like I was already cheating on someone if I'd accepted a date from another guy/girl after just having one with someone....

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I wouldnt feel like I was cheating on them, but I know what you mean.

I also think movies and tv shows perpetuate this mindset of dating multiples, maybe? Like that's the norm and exciting and how things should go. Not sure. Maybe they are. Just doesnt feel right to me.

I had a guy flirting with me once and later found out he was ...um..."seeing" someone else. Maybe he thought he was just dating her and it wasnt serious, so he could flirt with me too, but I later found out something was definitely going on....however "light" he thought it was and so, I lost all respect for him. It actually ****** me off pretty badly. & i didnt even like him in that way and never would have dated him. I felt sorry for the girl he was involved with and she ended up hating me.

posted November 27, 2012 08:44 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
Just noticed everyone here for now has some Taurus. We are a possessive bunch.

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posted November 27, 2012 08:48 PM            

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Originally posted by T:
I wouldnt feel like I was cheating on them, but I know what you mean.

I also think movies and tv shows perpetuate this mindset of dating multiples, maybe? Like that's the norm and exciting and how things should go. Not sure. Maybe they are. Just doesnt feel right to me.

I had a guy flirting with me once and later found out he was ...um..."seeing" someone else. Maybe he thought he was just dating her and it wasnt serious, so he could flirt with me too, but I later found out something was definitely going on....however "light" he thought it was and so, I lost all respect for him. It actually ****** me off pretty badly. & i didnt even like him in that way and never would have dated him. I felt sorry for the girl he was involved with and she ended up hating me.

Anyway, when i'm interested in someone, i'm usually not interested in dating other people, is the point.

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posted November 27, 2012 08:49 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
Just noticed everyone here for now has some Taurus. We are a possessive bunch.

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posted November 27, 2012 08:52 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
possessive as fuk! with people and personal belongings..

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posted November 27, 2012 08:53 PM            

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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:
--- same --- I don't share well. lol

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posted November 27, 2012 08:55 PM            

Keywords are: I own

posted November 27, 2012 08:57 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
especially food, i dont share my food

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rofl - that too~

funny thing - my exbf was a terrible cheater~ I didn't get fed up wit his bs until I caught him sharing the food I made for him with one of his mistresses~ !!!!!

true story~

I freaked the f-k out and left~ (almost 4 years of putting up with his nonsense~ and food was his downfall!)

posted November 27, 2012 08:57 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
especially food, i dont share my food

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posted November 27, 2012 08:58 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
especially food, i dont share my food

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or drink.

"germs"

posted November 27, 2012 09:03 PM            

*shaking head* yep. I know.

& i don't like lemons or fruit in my drink because they have usually been handled a bit before reaching your glass.
*pretend gagging face*

shudders

*you also don't know how well they washed the fruit beforehand........... pesticides!!!

posted November 27, 2012 09:08 PM            

--- sorrrry!!!

posted November 27, 2012 09:09 PM            

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Originally posted by SaturnineMoth:
lol we totally derailed aquaguy's thread~

--- sorrrry!!!

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posted November 27, 2012 09:10 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
Am fine with sharing my food coz I don't wanna get fat. #leotalking

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posted November 27, 2012 09:12 PM            

@ aquaguy - wanna cookie??? *madewithloooove* promise it'll cheer you up! ^^

--- just don't give it to anyone else or there will be hell to pay~ <3