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Topic: Faking Orgasms
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sand
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posted December 12, 2012 10:41 PM
  
 Whoever thought of it in the first place is a dumba$$! #randomthought IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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posted December 13, 2012 12:12 AM
It was "invented" so women could keep a man's sensitive ego intact....lol. men take it so seriously sometimes IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
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posted December 13, 2012 01:28 AM
^Yeah and who actually says "are you done yet? this is boring" or something similar 
(I have before tho so...)IP: Logged |
sand
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posted December 13, 2012 02:12 AM
^ppl trying to act cool! IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted December 13, 2012 12:57 PM
People fake many things, faking orgasms shouldn't surprise anyone.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted December 13, 2012 01:02 PM
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Originally posted by cappy1277:
It was "invented" so women could keep a man's sensitive ego intact....lol. men take it so seriously sometimes
i'd rather have a woman be open and honest with me then smile and pretend everythings great and go behind my back and tell everybody i suck in bed lol, that wouldnt save my ego lol.
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sand
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posted December 13, 2012 01:30 PM
Or be subject to bad acting?  IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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posted December 13, 2012 02:29 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i'd rather have a woman be open and honest with me then smile and pretend everythings great and go behind my back and tell everybody i suck in bed lol, that wouldnt save my ego lol.
I have been known to crush my man's ego a few times...he calls me insensitive but I don't beat around the bush...lol. I tell it like it is and what needs improvement. Of course he has a huge ego and I am sure women in the past have told him that he is great in bed with no need for improvement but they were libras...lol  IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 13, 2012 02:56 PM
Not possible to fake it if you just keep repeated action for a long time. It's not possible to not achieve orgasm, even if there were no variation or innovative action. Of course, with excitement, it arrives much faster.IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted December 13, 2012 03:39 PM
It's silly. If you fake it, how will the dude know he's not doing it right? He'll do the same thing over and over again. Sure recipe for fiasco. And unavoidable headaches. Besides, a man who previously did manage to bring a woman to orgasm can tell the difference. IP: Logged |
libraschoice77
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posted December 13, 2012 03:48 PM
Oh I have had no problems letting past boyfriends know they need to improve or fix performance, I value my pleasure thank you Lifes to short to be stuck with a dud lover, or one that refuses to be retrained lol Dont get me wrong, I am very loving and generous with my partners, and I just expect the same in return. And there is a big problem if its not reciprocated. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted December 13, 2012 04:41 PM
Aww, so cute.
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Lexxigramer
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posted December 13, 2012 06:22 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Not possible to fake it if you just keep repeated action for a long time. It's not possible to not achieve orgasm, even if there were no variation or innovative action. Of course, with excitement, it arrives much faster.
Untrue.
Marathon man wham bam two hours is uber boring to say the least.
Studies show that orgasm is rarely achieved by intercourse alone.
So lots of women are faking or lots of guys are clueless.IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted December 13, 2012 08:05 PM
I find it depressing how many men will believe porno over what women say, though even then I'm a little mystified as I thought (but not sure) porn showed women getting wet, and yet men don't seem to get a clue when she can't get that way with him. But there is that common belief many men have that as long as they're big enough or pump away long enough that it can't help but happen. (I have met a handful of women who do say they need a guy with a lot of endurance or that size is a big deal to them, though in the latter case I've met women who preferred small as well as those who preferred very large.) Actually, what was upsetting to me was when I got spam of "MAKE HER BLEED!!!" I asked men about it who I felt able to talk about those things and they were embarrassed by it, but I was downright disturbed that guys wanted to hurt me via sex, especially as many men who showed sexual interest in me.  Though over the years I've felt a little better as I still get a spam on "adding inches" but they don't make it scary like that (but then I delete virtually all of it without opening). When I was 14 a guy gave his girlfriend (a friend of mine) a porno western (no pix, but extremely graphic sex scenes as well as general machismo and like how large he was, "like a bull," and beating up a guy in one scene to have the beaten guy's girlfriend so turned on that she jumps him along with another woman, but he's man enough for both...) and we took turns reading it to each other and laughing, though after an extreme anal scene with disturbing dialog we stopped laughing and held an emergency meeting on setting limits with guys early on. All in all I'm not surprised that a study I came across said that while men easily attained orgasm by adulthood (and with another in their 20s), the very large percentage (I think approaching 2/3) of straight women never had by age 30 (many married by then)...but virtually all bisexual and lesbians had. Again, no surprise to me. IP: Logged |
ail221
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posted December 13, 2012 08:22 PM
Few women experience orgasms through penetration and even fewer women have experienced the wonder of female ejaculation. Reminds of that episode of "friends" and Monica drawing Chandler a chart of spots to touch in numeral order for pleasing his gf.IP: Logged |
sand
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posted December 13, 2012 10:01 PM
^yep and when men realize this it might not be such a huge blow to their ego and they can delve deeper into their partner's sexuality. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 13, 2012 10:44 PM
If it doesn't happen, then either (1) man is incapable of making it happen, (2) woman isn't attracted to man, or (3) the people are incompatible. Then people move on and find those that can make it happen, right?Never had much complaining to me on my end. No, I don't remotely have a "big" one, nor do I claim massive "endurance," whatever that means. But I do well enough to please my wife. Thankfully she thinks so, and her appetite may be a tad excessive to me, but that's a separate matter. In the end, my story is that its part of being compatible. Can't get an orgasm, why stay with the guy? Why even bother faking it? When I was a kid, some girl whom I don't find attractive proposes sex, would I say "why not" just to appease her? I said "no, thank you very much, but no thank you." Why would I fake pleasure? When it sux, I say it sux. Period. Why would women ever desire any man? What for? If I were a woman and men can't give me an orgasm, I would not want a man! That wouldn't be rational. IP: Logged |
mockingbird
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posted December 13, 2012 10:59 PM
quote:
Originally posted by PixieJane:
All in all I'm not surprised that a study I came across said that while men easily attained orgasm by adulthood (and with another in their 20s), the very large percentage (I think approaching 2/3) of straight women never had by age 30 (many married by then)...but virtually all bisexual and lesbians had. Again, no surprise to me.
That is one of the saddest things I've ever heard. I, er, taught myself by 13 and couldn't imagine not having regular orgasms.
Point of fact, the few times I've tried, my body overrides that impulse and has made sure that my dreamlife makes up for it (remembered because they generally seem to wake me up). ------------------
If I've included this sig, it's because I'm posting from a mobile device.
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Lexxigramer
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posted December 13, 2012 11:32 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
If it doesn't happen, then either (1) man is incapable of making it happen, (2) woman isn't attracted to man, or (3) the people are incompatible. Then people move on and find those that can make it happen, right?Never had much complaining to me on my end. No, I don't remotely have a "big" one, nor do I claim massive "endurance," whatever that means. But I do well enough to please my wife. Thankfully she thinks so, and her appetite may be a tad excessive to me, but that's a separate matter. In the end, my story is that its part of being compatible. Can't get an orgasm, why stay with the guy? Why even bother faking it? When I was a kid, some girl whom I don't find attractive proposes sex, would I say "why not" just to appease her? I said "no, thank you very much, but no thank you." Why would I fake pleasure? When it sux, I say it sux. Period. Why would women ever desire any man? What for? If I were a woman and men can't give me an orgasm, I would not want a man! That wouldn't be rational.
Then you got lucky if it is indeed true for you.
And your claims are exceptionally rare.
Attraction does not automatically equal orgasm.
And big penis more often than not does not equal skill or lead to orgasms in women.
Again,
you got very lucky with your wife.
Also,
it must be a straight man ego trip thing that makes him paranoid he is not the orgasm god to women.
I detest it when a man asks, "was it good, did you come?".
Ugh.
I am like,
I enjoyed, why do YOU NEED validation?
I do not ask if you came.
And even if I did orgasm, then the guy(s) usually get all offended when I continue with self pleasuring myself to 2 to 6 more orgasms.
They look all depressed or angry even and say things like;
"didn't I satisfy you ?"
Ugh ugh ugh again.
Intercourse with or without orgasm is like foreplay for me.
Afterwards I can bring on super intense multiple orgasms.
Being an orgasm addict I want to take advantage of that primed moment after intercourse to have even more pleasure.
I discovered orgasmic delight at age 4 when I would hang by my arms from the jungle gym, and by slowly raising both legs at the same time, it would cause wild orgasms.
My mother beat me when she realized what I was doing in my innocence.
So after that I had to sneak and use trees and the bar in my closet to hang from.
Soon after I discovered that slow ab crunches would cause orgasms and later, that simply doing controlled Kegels, that I could orgasm ANYWHERE!
As far as from intercourse, orgasms only happened when I was on top where I controlled the rhythm and timing, not the bucks and thrusts of the man intent on his pleasure first.
And yeah,
without sexual release,
I will have orgasmic release in dreams and will wake shaking with the pleasure!
Point being;
just because orgasm rarely happens during intercourse, does not mean it was not pleasurable!
And does not mean I do not orgasm.
Women need to stop faking and men need to get over themselves.
Just have fun.PS.
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Why would women ever desire any man? What for? If I were a woman and men can't give me an orgasm, I would not want a man! That wouldn't be rational.
I find this shallow attitude very sad.
Sure sex/orgasm is great, but if that is the only reason for desiring a person and their company,
then pray you or your partner never becomes unable to have sexual relations or orgasms. ------------------
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 13, 2012 11:41 PM
No, I'm not gifted in any way. I don't have great looks. I don't have a big penis, and in fact I consider it small, but I'm glad its never been an issue before. I don't have special skill. I'm just the average guy. And I don't take my cues from fake porno. I'm just myself. I have no idea if my life is rare, but it works. That's all I focus on. All I want to do is please my Mrs. And she wants it a tad much for my tastes.My Mrs. likes me. That makes me lucky. I'm able to please her perpetually. That makes me lucky, and it makes her lucky. I just have to keep myself fit to keep up with that nonsense at my age. But mine still works. And in that aspect, I'm extremely lucky, because there are good guys out there who turn unlucky way too young. IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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posted December 13, 2012 11:44 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
No, I'm not gifted in any way. I don't have great looks. I don't have a big penis, and in fact I consider it small, but I'm glad its never been an issue before. I don't have special skill. I'm just the average guy. And I don't take my cues from fake porno. I'm just myself. I have no idea if my life is rare, but it works. That's all I focus on. All I want to do is please my Mrs. And she wants it a tad much for my tastes.My Mrs. likes me. That makes me lucky. I'm able to please her perpetually. That makes me lucky, and it makes her lucky. I just have to keep myself fit to keep up with that nonsense at my age. But mine still works. And in that aspect, I'm extremely lucky, because there are good guys out there who turn unlucky way too young.
Yay again for you!
However your use of the word "nonsense" in reference to sexual union is disturbing.
Nonsense?
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I just have to keep myself fit to keep up with that nonsense at my age.
And you say:
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And she wants it a tad much for my tastes.
Hmmmm.....
things do not sound as perfect as you claim them to be.
In my opinion those two statements indicate a potential problem.
Good luck to you in those areas.------------------
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cappy1277
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posted December 13, 2012 11:56 PM
Some women are incapable of orgasming....medical conditions, medications, anatomy to name a few. Not all women need to orgasm during foreplay or intercourse. It's man's notion to say that we do because they think that every task should have a conclusion. Women are wired differently. Sex should not be a means to an end...the physical act is to bring two people together through a spiritual connection. I'm not so concerned with orgasming as I am maintaining that connection with my significant other. To share that connection through physical contact I.e.: kisses, embracing, looking into my eyes etc means so much more than an orgasm. IP: Logged |
SaturnineMoth
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posted December 14, 2012 12:17 AM
agreeing w/ everything ^  IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
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posted December 14, 2012 01:02 AM
quote:
Originally posted by cappy1277:
Some women are incapable of orgasming....medical conditions, medications, anatomy to name a few.
Men also experience sexual dysfunction for same/similar reasons.
quote:
Originally posted by cappy1277:
Not all women need to orgasm during foreplay or intercourse. It's man's notion to say that we do because they think that every task should have a conclusion.
I agree. quote:
Originally posted by cappy1277:
Women are wired differently. Sex should not be a means to an end...the physical act is to bring two people together through a spiritual connection. I'm not so concerned with orgasming as I am maintaining that connection with my significant other. To share that connection through physical contact I.e.: kisses, embracing, looking into my eyes etc means so much more than an orgasm.
Yes!  ------------------
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Hera
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posted December 14, 2012 07:15 AM
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Originally posted by cappy1277:
Some women are incapable of orgasming....medical conditions, medications, anatomy to name a few. Not all women need to orgasm during foreplay or intercourse. It's man's notion to say that we do because they think that every task should have a conclusion. Women are wired differently. Sex should not be a means to an end...the physical act is to bring two people together through a spiritual connection. I'm not so concerned with orgasming as I am maintaining that connection with my significant other. To share that connection through physical contact I.e.: kisses, embracing, looking into my eyes etc means so much more than an orgasm.
But if it comes, even better! I haven't been able to do it with another person (sexual hang-ups post sexual abuse) and with the partners I was in love with, the contact in itself was enough, but now I don't really think like that anymore. It did somewhat become a purpose on its own because I really want to get over my hang-ups and be able to enjoy intimacy fully. I never faked it and never will and fortunately the men I was involved with were interested in self-improvement. It was hard in the beginning to talk openly about it but now it's not really an issue. My current partner is truly amazing, got me so damn close the first time, then we talked about it and got down to improving, exploring etc. Hopefully it will happen, eventually. My body is capable of wonderful things, even ejaculation heehee.  I am one of the lucky ones, if only I could share it with another. Now I am a bit more worried that he didn't orgasm either lol, until now. I think Virgo Mars is becoming my favorite, outrunning Scorpio Mars. They really do want to make every effort to please YOU. IP: Logged |
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