posted December 18, 2012 08:49 PM            

She was, at one time, trying her level best to become a police office at the college we mutually attended. Saw her in November and she said she was dropping every class and heading to Florida due her GF's manipulations.

The young lady I saw today was not that person I used to know. Sadly, she did go to FL and it did not last, she lost everything in the move as well. She had nothing.

What was worse her eyes no longer were alive.

She'd lost weight and of course had returned to the GF and went on to detail some..err..sexual stuff and her GF getting jealous over it.

Found the whole episode depressing tbh, I had a Chinese Self Test to take today along with a Marketing test to take and found I had gotten wrapped up, in my mind, in her situation.

I realized I'd been emotionally hijacked.

Had things to do, seriously, as much as I was invested in her fate, there was nothing to be done.

posted December 19, 2012 02:49 PM            

I feel your pain. It can be mind boggling when you are just carrying on with your own life, and suddenly a brief encounter and WHAM!! The "emotional vampire", as I call them (or maybe it's my own fault) has sucked out my joy.

I have had comments lately though, from those that are close to me, that although I am always very supportive and have good advice, I don't seem to be dragged down or sad ever. Somewhat amazing, as I am pretty sure I was once that girl you just described..

posted December 19, 2012 03:13 PM            

Thanks, I don't mind my friends dumping their situations on my b/c they believe I can counsel them well.

What I have come to learn is if one has weakness, a major one, it will come back to haunt.

She said something like:

"I'm not looking for a relationship, not even with you"

Which was fine with me, I never, not even once, thought about that sort of thing. My friend is very much a lesbian and if that is her choice, fine.

I respect it.

It's more like her personal flaws are just creating a tragedy in her life, I can see it coming..perhaps she can as well, or perhaps not.

posted December 19, 2012 03:39 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Sounds to me that you really like her.

I stopped being an emotional landfill a long time ago. I realize that its part of being a friend, but I've got enough problems of my own, and they deal with real life problems, not about misdirected relationship issues.

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As a friend YTA, it pains me a bit to see a once vivacious "alive" friend put themselves through this stuff.

When she went to FL to live with her moms (retired FedGov worker with lots of $$$) and her mom (adopted) got on her about goals and reaching a degree she rejected it all.

Which I can see if there was some compelling and positive vision she was going for, there isn't, she will wind up being pimped out.

Eh, on the one hand, there is compassion, on the other hand life does throw distraction bait at you, how one deals with it is the mark of either advanced maturity or over weening compassion.

posted December 19, 2012 04:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:

Mandarin Chinese is very difficult to learn

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posted December 19, 2012 06:07 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Language of true oppression

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Actually and intellectually!

It just does not stick, that and the way things are spelled looks like English, but is pronounced way way differently.