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Topic: Toxic Shame
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Yin Moderator Posts: 3089 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 11, 2013 10:06 AM
A really great discussion on toxic shame here: http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/f26/the-toxic-shame-thread-the-cause-of-sa-for-most-98335/#post1523829 IP: Logged |
Hera Moderator Posts: 5117 From: the OR Registered: Sep 2010
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posted January 11, 2013 10:20 AM
Thank you! I believe this is my deepest issue, or the strongest.. While I made progress on other fronts, this one still needs lots of improvement.. IP: Logged |
Yin Moderator Posts: 3089 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 11, 2013 10:34 AM
I hear you, Hera. IP: Logged |
SaturnineMoth Knowflake Posts: 1597 From: *The Land of Oz* Registered: Aug 2012
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posted January 11, 2013 10:47 AM
Yes, thank you, Yin <3I don't think I've read such a detailed article accounting the effects of shame in relation to social anxieties. (I'm going to share this with my cousin/sister as well; she's going through a long period of hiding right now...) Kaufman's writings helped me deal with issues from my childhood that I had repressed but had come back to me in my early teenage years. Biggest struggle for me has always been (may always be.... but that's the kind of thinking/mindframe you're supposed keep out of, aye lol)... making/maintaining nonshaming relationships.... (opening up enough to them in general is hard enough, at times)... toxic shame leading to toxic relationships.... it's a hard rut to get out of... by being determined to turn my introversion into extroversion, most the time, it ends up feeling like I'm on that boundary, borderline area... and yes... narcissism... heh... it's great that you've shared this with all of us though~ by bringing awareness, and sharing compassion with each other (all of us whether dealing with SA, or toxic shame, or even general guilt/shame) we can all benefit from this article, greatly so, I believe! ^^ thank you, again~ <3 (sorry for hectic writing, I'm under time restraints atm... and, it is a sensitive subject - where I keep most my demons, actually... but I loved the article~ and will look into the rest of this support forum~ so I really mean it, thank you for sharing Yin!!) IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 39375 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted January 11, 2013 10:58 AM
quote: Originally posted by Hera: Thank you! I believe this is my deepest issue, or the strongest.. While I made progress on other fronts, this one still needs lots of improvement..
Me, too. I hate it ------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Yin Moderator Posts: 3089 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 11, 2013 10:59 AM
Hey, no problem SMoth. I'm struggling with the subject as well and feel like I have like-minded people here I can share it with. IP: Logged |
ail221 Knowflake Posts: 2791 From: Mary Margaret Blanchard's home Registered: Feb 2012
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posted January 11, 2013 11:02 AM
Interesting read thanks!IP: Logged |
libraschoice77 Knowflake Posts: 593 From: NYC Registered: Aug 2010
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posted January 12, 2013 01:17 PM
Thank you for sharing this Yin, good to know there are people on here who understand.IP: Logged |
downtomars Knowflake Posts: 1144 From: NY Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 12, 2013 01:35 PM
Wow, I didn't know there was a name for it. Thank you, Yin, for posting this. Now I have to research this some more...IP: Logged |
bridgetostars23 Knowflake Posts: 260 From: virginia, usa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted January 14, 2013 05:08 AM
That was amazing. It's true for me, as soon as I go into hiding or isolation I feel scared and I forget why I feel scared and I just assume I'm supposed to feel that way and it is harder to leave the house. Realizing that is not just a chemical imbalance is cool. It makes me feel like I can take steps to work on it.IP: Logged |
Sorcha Knowflake Posts: 752 From: Registered: Mar 2012
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posted January 21, 2013 05:09 PM
Ugh. Yep, toxic shame is a hard one for me too. If you are looking for reading material beyond that site, John Bradshaw has a good book called Healing the Shame that Binds You.It deals with toxic shame and shame in general. IP: Logged |