posted January 31, 2013 12:27 PM            

I agree with you both, but nobody's take on things is 100% correct, for us.

Keep on, keepin on!

posted January 31, 2013 01:00 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
well no one can help you do that but yourself, they are only there to offer advice and listen/talk.

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Good for you, seeking help. Go you

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posted January 31, 2013 04:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
I don't understand how she can be in a position to validate your experiences with women, since she's not there and doesn't see what you're doing.

If she joined you in categorically placing the blame on the women, because they "don't appreciate good men," I think you are probably overpaying her...to say that it's always the girls' fault is an effective way of demonstrating that it isn't.

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posted January 31, 2013 05:40 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
I don't understand how she can be in a position to validate your experiences with women, since she's not there and doesn't see what you're doing.

If she joined you in categorically placing the blame on the women, because they "don't appreciate good men," I think you are probably overpaying her...to say that it's always the girls' fault is an effective way of demonstrating that it isn't.

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This is one of the things, was she genuinely agreeing with AG, or simply sympathizing with him?

Dunno

TBH, I've found the young women in AG's demographic to be rather..independent, free thinking, and very opinionated.

All of which make for interesting people imo.

posted January 31, 2013 06:13 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
@Padre, i agree with you theres lots of good girls in my generation... but lots of those good girls tend to have very questionable taste in guys.. alot of it stems from issues with the father. she was not just sympathizing with me, what i have been saying is common knowledge among people in psych and counseling fields...

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posted January 31, 2013 06:59 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
^i know that . i was simply saying all that because some people here try to deny that its even a problem

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Here's the thing, the difference between one person, and millions, is well, millions.

It does not matter what the macro is doing, our reality is micro.

Young people making "wrong' choices..nah..that's never happened before in human history..c'mon man

posted January 31, 2013 07:11 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
i have been seeing a therapist/life coach to help me with some of my aspergers related issues and its been very helpful. Anyways today she randomly asked me "how would you rate your love life on a scale of 1 to 10?" and i said "0". She asked "why do you think that is and what are you doing to change it?" I told her that i think that it is partly because of my general aspie quirkiness and partly because most girls my age dont appreciate good men and i have kind of given up on dating as a result.. her response that followed nearly made me crap myself... she didnt
argue at all, she simply said " you are
absolutely right". She told me that she has noticed it alot from her clients and personal experience... she admitted that she didnt understand it either but told me there are actually some women out there who appreciate decent guys. she also encouraged me to not give up and to try not to get too frustrated. this actually made me feel somewhat better about the whole thing.

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posted January 31, 2013 07:25 PM            

The disconnect you feel with women....I do often feel with society or people in general.

posted February 01, 2013 10:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
I don't understand how she can be in a position to validate your experiences with women, since she's not there and doesn't see what you're doing.

If she joined you in categorically placing the blame on the women, because they "don't appreciate good men," I think you are probably overpaying her...to say that it's always the girls' fault is an effective way of demonstrating that it isn't.

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O wow, Faith! You've got Hillary-Power!

Aquaguy, I'm with Faith... Asperger's being treated by a LifeCoach? That's not "therapy"??

I admire your openness very much. I like authenticity.... And you are helping educate us about an important stigmatized issue-- mental health.

Be VERY very careful. MANY people are out there with trick-education certificates-- Nowadays, seems to be a way to make 'extra-cash' on the side.

IMO, this is being pushed as an irresponsible "short-cut" and substitute for earning an honest thorough training in psychology; it is deflection... is being "mistaken" by the public for competent psychiatric treatment. I think this is just plain wrong! The sophistications of the human psyche needs to be more deeply understood.

The deceptions and laziness in today's psychiatric service-providers are hurting and ruining the health of a vulnerable society.

Don't take shortcuts with your Life, and understanding your own psyche--- Life is too long, and too short.

Study astrology more... it could save your life to understand how you're made!

posted February 02, 2013 01:26 AM            

Now, this isn't to say to you "you're a lost cause and let's all give up on you Aquaguy" - you're a regular member here on LL, but seriously? This outstanding "issue" never results in... anything really. Aquaguy disagrees with Faith and Faith CLEARLY disagrees with Aquaguy (which at times is understandable)

posted February 02, 2013 02:38 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
^no , she is good ... she has been helping me with lots of stuff. she is not treating my aspergers, just helping make strategies to deal with issues i face as a result of aspergers. its even looking like i might be able to go to college for free because of her... i'd say these sessions have been money well spent.

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posted February 02, 2013 08:25 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Faith! I know Aquaguy gets on your nerves sometimes, but why not just accept how he is and leave it alone? For one he's an Aquarius and they won't change, not for anyone. It only results in you beating a dead horse.

Now, this isn't to say to you "you're a lost cause and let's all give up on you Aquaguy" - you're a regular member here on LL, but seriously? This outstanding "issue" never results in... anything really. Aquaguy disagrees with Faith and Faith CLEARLY disagrees with Aquaguy (which at times is understandable)

My point is not "let's get along, hearts and flowers everybody." But more agree to disagree and REALLY leave it at that.

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Hi hanna,

This post was from a few days ago. It wasn't my plan to launch into a whole series of confrontations with aquaguy. I actually like him for a lot of reasons, and he knows it. I just cannot stand to watch women getting verbally shoved...so when he posted this and then ANOTHER attack piece, the day after, I responded.

If he was personally insulting me, I could drop it.

When he derides all women, I want to hold a mirror up to his bigotry, I want to defend our sex.

On the Gen Y thread I asked him to stop attacking women, and he said I was right and that he just gets carried away sometimes. I will think of that as a truce. If he continues dumping on us, as Pixie Jane said, I will keep shoveling back.

posted February 02, 2013 11:10 AM            

I have a much harder time with woman, than men. My Sun has two trines to Neptune and two sextiles to Pluto.

My Moon has a conjunction with Mars( 9 degrees) and a trine to Saturn ( 8 degrees) but can be said to be Unaspected, by many Astrologers. That means I was unmothered. At any rate, to get off myself, the chart shows this, for each person imho

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