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Topic: What the Hell?
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mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 01:44 AM
I know that this is cryptic, but what the hell?What is wrong with some people? How do they wrap their minds around being such pathetic little sh*ts? How are they OK with themselves while they screw person after person over - while they fcuk over people who gave them the benefit of the doubt, who helped them? /intentionally vague rant over Edited to Add: And, no - it's not about anybody on this site. I'm just venting my spleen on here because I won't vent it in a more personal venue because I'm still going to try to work something out with the horrible @ssholes in question. IP: Logged |
RedScorp Knowflake Posts: 4934 From: The Sun Registered: Jul 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 01:51 AM
It happens. Moral and ethical compasses are like, assumed in everyone but morals and ethics are something rare, to be worked on. I don't expect people around me to always be saints. People will f!ck over other people and be fine with it, it's just life.Now that doesn't mean you have to take it or become jaded and cynical, but still, it will happen no matter how absurd it may seem to you. IP: Logged |
mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 02:02 AM
Nope.These people have no fcucking excuse. None. This isn't a "he said, she said" or "opinions may be different" situation. This is people caring more about spending their money on good drugs than on their goddam responsibilities - and these are people with a child who are fcuking old enough to know better. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1335 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 02:05 AM
Maybe they lack empathy so they do not understand the impact their action have on others. Self-centredness... quote: People will f!ck over other people and be fine with it, it's just life.
I agree.. more or less.. I mean if it's a one off thing or something that has happened now and again.... that's normal. But if someone is on a roll hurting people left, right and centre - then I'm not actually fine with it. IP: Logged |
mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 02:06 AM
The reason I gave them so much fcuking leeway is that I didn't want to see that little guy suffer more than he already is with fcuk-heads like them as parents.When it's all said and done, at least $7,000 will be gone because I kept fcuking letting them get away with being @ssholes. Lesson learned. The next person who tests me is out on the goddam street as quickly as I can legally put them there. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1335 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 02:07 AM
quote: people caring more about spending their money on good drugs than on their goddam responsibilities
Not everyone can control themselves. Even if this person is not psychologically ill.. and they are able to recognise how horrible their behaviour is - they might not have the will power to change... specially if they are addicted to said drugs. Sorry you are going through this!! IP: Logged |
RedScorp Knowflake Posts: 4934 From: The Sun Registered: Jul 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 02:08 AM
I'd like to just say I wasn't excusing anything! Rather, that it will happen because that is life. Don't question why it happens - that's wasting your breath, ya kno?IP: Logged |
mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 02:08 AM
^ These people, actually.Three "adults". IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1335 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 02:08 AM
quote: Lesson learned. The next person who tests me is out on the goddam street.
Yes. You have to draw a line. I agree. You can't help people to the point where you feel drained.. and all they do is take, giving nothing in return. Your own survival and personal happiness should come first. I have to TELL myself this as well ^ - as I have a strong instinct to help people and they are not always deserving. So I completely understand. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1335 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 02:12 AM
quote: Rather, that it will happen because that is life.
yeah.. I see what you mean... kinda like 'don't cry over spilt milk'.. Although that's easier said than done - sometimes ^^ IP: Logged |
mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 02:13 AM
quote: Originally posted by RedScorp: I'd like to just say I wasn't excusing anything! Rather, that it will happen because that is life. Don't question why it happens - that's wasting your breath, ya kno?
I'm sorry, but that's absurd.I lurk around here more than I post (3 children, a household, etc) and I like you, but that's absurd. The human condition is to question. For what it's worth, though, I'm not so much questioning why they're doing it - it's because they're drug-addicted @ssholes with no concern for anything but feeling good and acting like the world owes them something for simply existing while they put a small person for whom they're responsible through hell - it's more a question of "How in the hell do people rationalize such behavior?" I mean, few think of themselves as the "bad guy" - they always have a "good reason" for what they do. What in the actual fcuk is their "good reason" in their heads? IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 1335 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 02:16 AM
quote: "How in the hell do people rationalize their behaviour?"
They either don't rationalise at all.. because they are focused on *other* things.. OR - if they do rationalise, perhaps in their minds they are worse-off than you are, and they feel entitled to their behaviour. For instance - I know several people who have been through negative things in life and who feel as though the world or God owes them *something* to compensate for everything they have been through. IP: Logged |
RedScorp Knowflake Posts: 4934 From: The Sun Registered: Jul 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 02:24 AM
quote: mockingbird: I lurk around here more than I post (3 children, a household, etc) and I like you, but that's absurd.
Hahahaha! That's good, I'm glad! And don't feel obligated to apologise. If you have something to say, then SAY IT DAMN IT! I won't be offended/take it personally. quote: What in the actual fcuk is their "good reason" in their heads?
Yeah that's hard. But if they're drug addicted, then that's it. They don't even need a good reason - they simply aren't in a correct state of mind. Or rather, their mind is UNreasonable now because of an addiction. What I've found with addicts is...they repress any moral compass they may have. They can have a kid, but they'll try to ignore crying, put off any "I'm hungry"s...and you may question, HOW???!! But that's not a good question to ask when dealing with someone who isn't in a good state of mind. Their how is their addiction. If you ask them, they won't have an answer. IP: Logged |
peregrine Knowflake Posts: 520 From: Finding my place in the cosmos Registered: Apr 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 02:25 AM
quote: Originally posted by mockingbird: Nope.These people have no fcucking excuse. None. This isn't a "he said, she said" or "opinions may be different" situation. This is people caring more about spending their money on good drugs than on their goddam responsibilities - and these are people with a child who are fcuking old enough to know better.
Curious what sign? If that's okay to share. Sounds like someone I know. Selfishness mostly. Oh they can even use the kids for people to take pity on them. IP: Logged |
mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 02:27 AM
^ And, so, there you go, I guess.The next time someone out there has to deal with their hard@ss, @sshole landlord, I'll refer them back to this post. This is how s/he got that way IP: Logged |
mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 02:30 AM
quote: Originally posted by peregrine: Curious what sign? If that's okay to share. Sounds like someone I know. Selfishness mostly. Oh they can even use the kids for people to take pity on them.
A Leo with a Libra Moon and a Libra - I don't know the rest of their charts. And a Pisces, but I think she was more just caught in the wrong place at the wrong time and dragged along into the situation. You know, like a Pisces. IP: Logged |
peregrine Knowflake Posts: 520 From: Finding my place in the cosmos Registered: Apr 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 02:37 AM
They will be fine if you put them out. (ok I don't really know but in my situation their money just fluctuated and they would get leech-y when it did.) I think my uncle was married and had a child to a Leo. He was taurus. He also had 4 poorly educated children. Though he drove benzes and lived in hotels. Landlord-ing is hard. Oh my mom is a Pisces! I remember u r 1. She was her landlord actually. I booted them out. Though I can and have gone overboard with this booting out business in the past. IP: Logged |
RedScorp Knowflake Posts: 4934 From: The Sun Registered: Jul 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 02:56 AM
quote: peregrine: Though I can and have gone overboard with this booting out business in the past.
Mean, mean fixed signs. IP: Logged |
mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 03:00 AM
*sniff, sniff*Yeah. I'll just have to wait a few years for my Taurus daughters to evict people for me Or maybe my Cancer daughter with a 1st House Mars. That, or bake them something. Or maybe be really apologetic while she forcibly evicts them. *thinks about the Cancers that I know* Or burn the property down in a fit of sullen rage. IP: Logged |
peregrine Knowflake Posts: 520 From: Finding my place in the cosmos Registered: Apr 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 03:09 AM
^have u seen pacific heights? Michael Keaton as the renter from hell? Yeah I am a taurus with a h1 mars. I also have sh1t on one of my power hungry renters (she rents 2 floors so kinda thinks she can have her way) so she better behave or the IRS is getting a call. It would be a lose lose situation but the scorpio in me gets to destroy things. Just joking about that last bit. IP: Logged |
peregrine Knowflake Posts: 520 From: Finding my place in the cosmos Registered: Apr 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 03:10 AM
quote: Originally posted by RedScorp: Mean, mean fixed signs.
I am a fixxy pixie! actually 'twas a very scorpy revenge tactic but I'd rather not explain myself to look good and moral. Idrgaf. IP: Logged |
RedScorp Knowflake Posts: 4934 From: The Sun Registered: Jul 2011
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posted February 03, 2013 04:14 AM
Mean Scorpy revenge... I've done that before, except it was a slice of my birthday cake with my break up letter below it. I was a bit dramatic back then, you know... #HighSchoolScorpy IP: Logged |
ail221 Knowflake Posts: 2935 From: Mary Margaret Blanchard's home Registered: Feb 2012
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posted February 03, 2013 11:51 AM
quote: Originally posted by mockingbird: *sniff, sniff*Yeah. I'll just have to wait a few years for my Taurus daughters to evict people for me Or maybe my Cancer daughter with a 1st House Mars. That, or bake them something. Or maybe be really apologetic while she forcibly evicts them. *thinks about the Cancers that I know* Or burn the property down in a fit of sullen rage.
Burn down the property in a rage, after moving all personal items out.- head nod IP: Logged |
juniperb Moderator Posts: 5940 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 03, 2013 12:09 PM
Generalize , blame it on their charts and move of with a sigh and swift kick to self...Just smarting off Mbird. You did your best to help a couple who`s nature of self preservation trumps nurturing the off spring.. Sad but happens all too often. Don`t let it jade you tho stop you from helping other souls who need a hand up . ------------------ We need to listen to our own song, and share it with others, but not force it on them. Our songs are different. They should be in harmony with each other. ~ Mattie Stepanek IP: Logged |
mockingbird Knowflake Posts: 1074 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 04, 2013 06:48 AM
Well, I was mostly joking there near the end. But, as far as helping people out goes: Nope. Sorry.I can't afford to. It was a slightly different matter when I was working, but I've been staying home since having Zoë and we just don't have that wiggle room. That amount of money is *something* to me - it's needed for the day-to-day running of our household, and now it's been snorted up their noses. Oh, well - at least his will be a rental investment loss come tax time. ------------------ If I've included this sig, it's because I'm posting from a mobile device. Please excuse all outrageous typos and confusing auto-corrects. IP: Logged |