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Topic: Venting Publicly Versus Privately (i.e. in a journal)
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teasel
Knowflake Posts: 5072
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 04, 2013 12:53 PM
  
Why do you think this helps? I know that support from others can make me feel better, but I also feel embarrassed when I actually vent "out loud" on the internet. I used to keep a journal - "morning pages" - but then I thought about the fact that I wanted to keep a diary to look back on, and I never went back to read my vents (I'd done it before and it stressed me out, although it's one reminder of how much negativity I feel, or how much time can be wasted on bad experiences versus good ones). I hardly write anything down now, but I've started to carry around a notebook with me, to vent there, rather than saying some things out loud. I'm asking this because I started the other thread, and then wondered why the thread on the other forum really took off. I suppose part of my curiosity is that the posts there aren't "chat", so they aren't usually looking for responses - that would be a single thread for the one vent. IP: Logged |
ail221
Knowflake Posts: 2935
From: Mary Margaret Blanchard's home
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted February 04, 2013 12:59 PM
Venting privately has helped me; writing in a journal. I have kept a journal in the past for about every two years of my life ranging from my pre-teen years 10-11 until I was about 20. It helped me vent without other biased opinions. When I stopped writing was when I starting publicly venting which was worse for everyone  I should go back to journals.IP: Logged |
SaturnineMoth
Knowflake Posts: 1811
From: *The Land of Oz*
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted February 04, 2013 01:37 PM
I've never done well at venting... privately or publicly (moon opp saturn?!)... (when upset my words kinda all jumble together, "jarble blarble fobble fop".... and nothing ever is what I mean it to be....) so, I tend to bottle those up for other means of expression... ^^; (creative writing, perhaps~ lol)  But, I do get it (I think)! I think the public venting helps because we all want to "be heard" to have a voice... even if nobody responds (saying it's an online medium being used to communicate, I mean... course!) lol Then, it's easy to be somewhat anonymous and yet be heard at once~ ^^ and what is said will matter in some small way... that's kinda fulfilling and serves to release tensions/nervous energies that people would otherwise build up and keep to themselves or (or) find potentially destructive/self harming release for otherwise... not always though... just stating possibilities besides venting publicly... so there's a benefit to doing things in this manner as opposed to others for some.... right? oh well, that was sort of my impression anyway! lol >.<; my mind is a bit of a mess lately, chaotic... hopefully I worded things right~ ^^; blarble, blarp... nervous energy indeed! lol IP: Logged |
MillyX
Knowflake Posts: 478
From: canada
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted February 04, 2013 01:58 PM
I like venting privately because if I do vent publicly I feel like I'm annoying everyone, nobody wants to listen about my bad day and insecurities. Also when I vent in my journal, no one will judge what I wrote.
But venting publicly or privately still feels good. It's unhealthy to keep everything inside, you'll crack sooner or later. IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 227
From: A Lion Pride
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted February 04, 2013 02:12 PM
I vent to people, though not on something like a forum. And I ask too like I'll be all CAN I VENT TO YOU OMG?? and I get carried away in emotions and stuff, so venting is fun and easy. Once every so often I might just write stuff down as a form of venting and what I write is terrible (since I'm not filtering it, #LibraMercury, with the intent of providing it as something to read) so I quickly burn said writing. IP: Logged |
Lexxigramer
Moderator Posts: 1398
From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted February 04, 2013 02:33 PM
I have vented here because I really do not have anyone to vent to in my offline life.
The feedback has helped me keep my sanity.
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Odette
Knowflake Posts: 1335
From:
Registered: May 2012
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posted February 04, 2013 08:18 PM
I vent a lot publicly to friends and family and also on LL.. I don't feel embarrassed at all. I find it really helpful and I try to help others when they vent.
Props for starting the other thread Teasel!!  IP: Logged |
Faith
Knowflake Posts: 3595
From:
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted February 04, 2013 08:44 PM
I selectively vent here. I'll talk about general things that bother me.But for the most part I don't vent anything really personal...neither here nor in a journal. I vent over email, on the phone, or in person with friends. IP: Logged |
Faith
Knowflake Posts: 3595
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Registered: Jul 2011
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posted February 04, 2013 08:45 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
I have vented here because I really do not have anyone to vent to in my offline life.
The feedback has helped me keep my sanity.
((Hug))) You help us keep our sanity too! IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 506
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted February 06, 2013 08:42 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
I have vented here because I really do not have anyone to vent to in my offline life.
The feedback has helped me keep my sanity.
^^ Double-dittos! This is what it's like for me... I like to write and 'pretend' that people will really give a sh*t... I vent at 'myself'... I type at the spirits of the air and ethers of the internet. I feel flustered and surprise when someone responds. And I understand that that's just the way it "is" and I've accepted that. I 'imagine' that i'm being talked to-- and every once-in-a-while i am... but then it was just "coincidence": I THOUGHT I was being spoken-to, but it was about someone else and not me. Then I'm embarrassed... feel so foolish, vain, and put myself back into place. Girls don't get a say-so; what could i possibly have to say that could be actually mattering and important to anything... So I just 'pretend'... become my own company. And if I can help someone along the way, it's divine and all I could wish for. But otherwise, i'm an airhead girl---and girls have nothing to say, in my world. So, I air-walk...and sing within, with my heart.  Walking in the Air [3:31] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1qms9N6gDs
A MOOD APART
Once down on my knees to growing plants
I prodded the earth with a lazy tool
In time with a medley of sotto chants.
But becoming aware of some boys from school
Who had stopped outside the fence to spy
I stopped my song and almost heart.
For any eye is an evil eye
That looks in onto a mood apart.
--Robert Frost
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peregrine
Knowflake Posts: 520
From: Finding my place in the cosmos
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted February 07, 2013 10:08 AM
i thought that's what the hate threads were. dunno y people take them personally i just saw them as venting. doesn't mean it's you personally they dislike just someone irl with your placement.IP: Logged |
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