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Ami Anne
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posted May 28, 2013 08:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It is weird but I have been in an evolution in developing character. I guess everyone is. However, I see how Randall handles LL and it is with the utmost character.

For me, my mother was a Mal Narc, as most of you know. It was funny but she always put me down in the area of character because I aspired to it, as a child.

I was not a goody two shoes kid, but I think my grandmother taught me about your reputation and character and I loved her so much that I wanted to be like her and she was very much like this.


My mother used to laugh at me and call me uppity if I wanted to have ideals and values such that I was afraid to.

I didn't want to be ridiculed etc but somehow now I have seen where I need to go and I appreciate that.

I don't think you can have any true success w/out character. I think that is how God set it up.


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T
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posted May 28, 2013 08:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think it might be something people are born with. I've also known Mag Narcs that try to "develop"it (like sociopaths learning how to emulate emotions, but never actually feeling them and instead doing it for their own benefit). It usually never works out well for them to anyone who is aware. So I tend to notice it might something people are born with....or not.

If you have grown up with a Mag Narc or Sociopath parent, you have an advantage in potentially learning how to spot them more easily and quickly too.

Character might or might not be something that is inborn, but it's definitely something certain people can fake.

Too bad we can't say these things for sure. Everyone is so complex.

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Ami Anne
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posted May 28, 2013 08:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It is not inborn. It is a choice. It is a cognitive choice by definition of choosing behaviors that may( and will ) differ with your wants, needs and desires.

If it were easy, everyone would do it. It is hard, so few do and history usually remembers them and quotes them like MLK.

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posted May 28, 2013 08:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, thinking back on some people I have known, I tend to think that it's not as simple as being a choice and only a choice. There is much more that plays into it, especially over time and with age and lifestyle (not even counting genetics). I'm thinking of hardened criminals that have had to adapt to their environments in prison, and/or might also be dealing with things like PTSD and other disorders, but were probably born with ' good character'.....and got screwed up along their way.

A lot plays into it for each individual. There's no black and white answer, especailly to these types of things.

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Ami Anne
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posted May 28, 2013 09:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I have found my way, so i can only speak for myself. Blessings to you, T


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posted May 28, 2013 09:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You too.

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Ami Anne
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posted May 28, 2013 09:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by T:
You too.

Thank you, T

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posted May 29, 2013 05:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ami Anne... Sometimes I think NarcMoms tried to "absorb" who YOU are, and want to "inject" their own poisons into you. You can't be "your own person" around a NarcMom... It is one of the most PAINFUL childhoods a kid can have.

Sometimes Pain can be Homeopathic.... What was made to "kill" you, only processes you into the best "parts" you can have. Afterwards, it's like "gift-wrap".... YOU are the one who gets to take the bows, the tissue, the cords off and look inside each box.

Pandora had a box full of stings and bad things. She was "set up" to fail by those who were god/authority to her.

Then the angel came and said that there was one more thing clinging at the bottom of that vessel, after all the nasties were released. In the bottom was Hope.

Ami Anne, you were "primed" by your mother to be and obey 'authority'.... even to follow them with INCREDIBLE show of the Best Loyalty. Who would not want such a person in their life? You have incredible qualities.

I know how fiercely you love God! And so do I. THAT'S OUR BOND, Ami Anne. Any Soul that can fight that hard for something or someone has earned my deepest admiration.

Personally, I'd love to see you 'untether' yourself to 'man's-religion' --- not reject it. The Word calls us to be Rooted and Grounded "In Him"... In God, and God Alone. SOMETIMES...... Religion can "get in the way" of our relationship with God. God will NOT punish you, abandon you, or hate you for 'existing' outside of a dogma/institution, etc.

Just like an astronaut on a Space Walk.... I wish you'd try to just unclip the tether from the Spacecraft. Without moving or budging away from it. I'd like you to see that it's all about "Space" --- that's what your astro-suit and the space-craft moves in. Church is not God. Religion is not God. Religion 'can' be ABOUT "Man's Belief" in God, but the RELIGION itself is NOT necessary to have God be your All-In-All.

Be "identified" with Christ! --- and not "Man's Religion".... Religion can come in after the fact; Be involved in religion AFTER you have become deeply "secure" in God's Love for you. Otherwise, "the men" will CONTROL your thought-life.... The things THEY say and do, may or may-not, represent 'everything' YOU want to be....?


Sometimes people are like Diamonds. May have a lot of crust and crap all over it. And we may try to display our dirty diamond in a setting to try to hide the dirt and enhance what we think others find beautiful about it. But if we agree, then we're not BEING the Diamond.... We're being the look of the diamond, and not the GEM itself....

Your mother crapped all kinds of stuff all over your beautiful fiery gem. But I think I can see the original.

I LOVE this Sheena Easton song....

(music) Sheena Easton - When He Shines (1981) [3:15] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5r6En6uPtQ

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Ami Anne
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posted May 30, 2013 10:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wonderful post, Mirage dear. I need to study it and Happy Birthday

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