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posted June 13, 2013 04:32 PM            

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...that if she have decided to leave your father she would have left you and your siblings with him, what would you think?

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posted June 13, 2013 04:41 PM            

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"One down, one to go." A guy told me that his dad burst in on him and told him his mom just left because of him and his thought was, "One down, one to go." He was abused pretty bad, though.

I believe that's what I really would've thought, too, as well as "Can I live with Granny now?"

Of course this sounds more of a threat than an intention, though I'd have viewed it as a promise. As I fantasized living by myself since I discovered Pippi Longstocking (who lived alone) by the time I was 6 I might offer to help her pack (being truly helpful if before I was a teen, snarky otherwise but still hoping) which would horribly backfire (at least with my mom) as neglect would probably then switch to violence.

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posted June 13, 2013 05:02 PM            

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I'd think she is tired of me and wants to be left alone.

Would that mean that I'm worthless?
Heck no.

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posted June 13, 2013 05:03 PM            

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What if granny is worse than mommy?

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I'd think she is tired of me and wants to be left alone.

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What if she wasn't upset with you before saying that?
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posted June 13, 2013 05:38 PM            

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The question is what would *I* think if *my* mom said that, not what would someone else think if his or her mom said that. I can't speak for others because I don't have their experiences, circumstances, or natal chart. How others would react would of course be very different from how I'd react.

But since it was brought up, I was very independent, and I think my chart is part of the reason why, so I'd still hope she'd leave even if Granny wasn't a viable option for me. I did runaway from home after all.

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posted June 13, 2013 05:40 PM            

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Well in that case, my Polish friend, I would take it as a lesson - it may be hard to learn, because God knows how much it hurts to be rejected by your own parent (trust me, I know), but in the end, I'm my own person, and I am thankful to them because they made me and I am alive.

Besides, there are other people on Earth, some of them are really nice and can encourage you and support you. They're called friends :] and they're basically the family you wish you had.

Be strong, know your worth, keep your head up.

And most importantly, don't let yourself drown in negativity, and keep your heart (at least a little!) open.

There's always light around you, and inside you. ~

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posted June 13, 2013 05:45 PM            

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My mom did that all the time when she was mad at my dad.

Really did not bother me.

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posted June 13, 2013 07:53 PM            

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It sounds like it was meant as an insult.

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posted June 13, 2013 08:02 PM            

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The mother could simply feel unappreciated and taken for granted and hoping for some sign of appreciation. It's a poor way to get it, but lots of people have unhealthy and counterproductive ways to try to meet their needs.

Of course, she could just be trying to hurt everyone around her with a, "I don't need you, you were all a mistake," too. Don't know.

But after she's said it a bunch of times it's going to lose its power regardless.

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posted June 13, 2013 09:55 PM            

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PixieJane: The mother could simply feel unappreciated and taken for granted and hoping for some sign of appreciation.]

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This too

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posted June 13, 2013 10:19 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
...that if she have decided to leave your father she would have left you and your siblings with him, what would you think?

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I think you would feel afraid and not safe, as if your life did not have stability

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posted June 14, 2013 09:37 AM            

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Cappy I've heard much worst from my mum.

Used to feel like my heart is on fire

Doesn't bother me anymore now.

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posted June 14, 2013 06:55 PM            

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I appreciate you concern Doux but I wasn't looking for sympathy here. To be honest, it doesn't really matter whether she loves me or not. We will never be close anyway.

Pixie, I admire your strength.

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Cappy I've heard much worst from my mum.

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Yeah. Being called a w***e etc was way more irritating

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posted June 15, 2013 01:15 AM            

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Well my mother wouldn't have said that. Despite everything, she and I did love each other. My father, on the other hand, would have made my day if he would've said so. Good riddance! And stay gone!

Parents can really screw you over. It is important not to identify with their take on you or the world and start making your own judgments as soon as possible.

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