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posted June 14, 2013 02:40 PM            

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posted June 14, 2013 04:35 PM            

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When someone sh*ts on one of my kids. My father was a raging alcoholic and wasn't there for me growing up. I accepted it as a kid. Til I had my first son and my father did the same thing to him that he did to me - starting making promises and then *poof* disappears for a time to sort thru his 'problems' or whoever he was mad at. He started saying he was gonna take my son fishing one day (my son was only 3 months old) and was gonna start a savings acct for college for him. Then he got ticked at my mom over something really stupid and I didn't hear from him for about 9 months. So I quit speaking to him after that. That was 14 yrs ago. He'll never see my children for as long as I live and put them thru what I went thru. He's lucky he got to see his grandson once before I disowned him. A friend of mine on occasion blows off our plans when her husband feels like doing something else and doesn't always tell me. Last summer she made plans to come visit myself and my children and after the 3rd time she pulled a no call-no show I had a little talk with her. She was warned if she ever let my kids down again that was the end of our friendship. Or at least have the common courtesy to txt or call and say she is cancelling. She hasn't done it since. She is like family to me as I've known her for over 20 yrs and spent many vacations with her and her family. I refer to her dad as my dad and she is like a sister to me. Bottom line is this: even if you are family, DON'T crap on my kids!!

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posted June 14, 2013 04:42 PM            

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Wow, thanks for that heartfelt post. I am hurting right now and that is why I did this thread. You really helped, Friend

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posted June 14, 2013 04:48 PM            

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Aww really? Your welcome Its actually really nice to hear that my pain and suffering can actually help someone else out. My father is the only family member I've ever cut off contact with. All bc of a mother's instinct to protect her children. I've put up with way to much from others (mars cancer here) but I won't stand for my children to be mistreated. Sending prayers your way ami xx. May you find healing thru your pain.

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posted June 14, 2013 05:10 PM            

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When both set of parents disrespected my upcoming marriage out of simple prejudiced. Well, two sets of middle fingers promptly went up and we assured them that they would never ever hold their grandchildren. Won't give us the time? *You* don't have the correct time. *And* we don't need a dime from you because all you have are dimes and we have the dollar bills.

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posted June 14, 2013 05:19 PM            

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I'm mistaken. When I cut off contact with my father, I also cut off contact with his side of the family as well. I only speak to my half brother. I love when I go to the dr or take my kids there and they ask about any past medical issues that run in the family. Cuz I have little knowledge of what runs on my father's side. They will specifically ask which side its on and question my 'dads' side. I have to explain 'uh I don't know, I haven't talked to my father in yrs' lol

For yrs I've questioned myself as to whether or not I made the right decision. As I've got older I don't question it anymore. Now that my kids are getting older they will ask about why they never see their grandpa. I've explained it to my 15 yr old as he is old enough to understand. When the other 2 are older I will explain to them as well. For as much as I think family is important and wish to instill that in my children, I know that I am sparing them from someone's rage and anger problems and empty promises. So I've put this matter in God's hands and I don't feel guilty for it anymore. Maybe this will help, maybe it won't.

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posted June 14, 2013 05:28 PM            

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YTA, you rock.
Ami, are you still in the process of accepting that your mother is not a good mother?
Virgo, stay firm!

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posted June 14, 2013 06:19 PM            

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Thanks Ian
Shy Vi
I'm so cappy

Yep, I'm so cappy!

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posted June 14, 2013 06:26 PM            

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I hope you get over it soon. It's so not worth your energy.

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posted June 14, 2013 08:15 PM            

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When I went one way, they went the other.

Did not bother with the phone/christmas card stuff, was to busy carving out my own life.

TBH, did not really miss them as long as I sort of knew they were doing fine I was fine as well.

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posted June 14, 2013 09:17 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
I hope you get over it soon. It's so not worth your energy.

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Yep! xx

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posted June 14, 2013 09:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:

When I went one way, they went the other.

Did not bother with the phone/christmas card stuff, was to busy carving out my own life.

TBH, did not really miss them as long as I sort of knew they were doing fine I was fine as well.

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posted June 14, 2013 09:43 PM            

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Who in your family, Padre?

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The whole lot AA, some moved out of state, (Parents) Brother moved in with a GF, no extended family in the region.

Was on my own so to speak, did not really have time or desire to dwell on it all as there was to much to do in my own life.

So for me, the cutting of contact, not hearing from them, any of them, for a couple of years at a time was..just normal.

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