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Topic: Does this sound like mars square venus in action?
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aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted July 02, 2013 08:28 PM
  
I have this aspect and I wonder if its somehow related to what happened to me today. Here's the backstory, I had been talking to this girl for awhile and I tried asking her out and she rejected me. My advances were either ignored or rejected, so I kind of gave up. She said she only wanted to be friends and I agreed. We had kind of fallen out of touch until she texted me today and
invited me over to watch movies. So I went over to her house ( this was the first time I went to her house btw). When I got there we went to her room and watched movies and she um made it very clear fairly early on that she wanted to get intimate lol. It was very unexpected and awkward for me and I wasn't feeling it. She rejected my advances when I was feeling it but when she made moves on me I wasn't feeling it. Somehow this seems related to mars square venus, what do you think?
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Faith
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posted July 02, 2013 09:21 PM
Sounds like you just don't like girls who try and take the lead. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
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posted July 02, 2013 09:56 PM
^Not exactly. I just wasn't expecting that to happen at all. To say i was caught off guard would be a huge understatement. she is a sag and is umm..very bluntIP: Logged |
asclibrasagsun
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posted July 02, 2013 09:58 PM
You guys have an obvious biorhythms issue. That's biological. You're out of sync with each other.
For some reason when I read this I thought it was more Moon Square Venus than Mars Square Venus.
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted July 02, 2013 10:10 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
Sounds like you just don't like girls who try and take the lead.
That seems like it has nothing to do with it.
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Ami Anne
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posted July 02, 2013 10:11 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
^Not exactly. I just wasn't expecting that to happen at all. To say i was caught off guard would be a huge understatement. she is a sag and is umm..very blunt
I think you felt like you were being used and no one likes that.
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11nahyt
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From: the future
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 02, 2013 10:27 PM
Hmm. I've been in that situation. Me and the guy had Venus opp mars in synastry and composite.. Another guy was Venus/square mars synastry. and when the guy liked me, and went out of his wayyyy to show it, I wasn't really into him.He, idk , annoyed me?? But once he backs off, and seems to not be that interested in me, suddenly he becomes a shiny new toy for me..and i start liking him..wtf!..I think harsh Venus/mars is the cat/mouse game aspect. I also read somewhere, I think cafe astrology, that harsh Venus/mars in synastry tends to play out this way too. Bad timing. Sexually. I kinda like this aspect, because I actually like to chase,and be chased LOL IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
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posted July 03, 2013 12:47 AM
I imagine it'd be your synastry/composite which leads to being out of sync like that!IP: Logged |
Swift Freeze
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From: One World
Registered: Nov 2009
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posted July 03, 2013 05:47 AM
I imagine, considering you have some degree of Aspergers, that when she said, "lets just be friends" and you agreed. That it quite literally means, lets be friends. However, in this particular instance, she didn't mean "lets just be friends" forever.Maybe she wasn't quite sure how she felt about you, maybe she wasn't quite sure where she was, what she expected or what she wanted. Maybe she just wanted to test you, to see if you only wanted to have sex with her. By being okay with being just friends, you may have passed this test that filters out the men who only want her for sex, and someone who might actually care. It seems that if she invited you over, and decided to make a move that, at least in this one particular instance, she wanted to be more than 'just friends'. I can understand how that would come across as confusing. Maybe it felt awkward because you genuinely were not thinking anything was going to happen. Either way, it seems she finds you attractive. So don't try and over complicate things by trying to categorise your relationship, "Are we friends? Are we more? What do you want?" It's probably best to just let her figure out what she wants without pressuring her, and you can do the same. If you are uncomfortable with something, fair enough, you don't have to do anything you don't want to. ------------------
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Faith
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posted July 03, 2013 06:49 AM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
That seems like it has nothing to do with it.
I can think of a few stories that aquaguy has told us about girls expressing interest in him, and he reacted with disinterest. I can't think of any story where the girl pounced and he said, "Heck yeah." I've been around Sweet Peas too long. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted July 03, 2013 09:35 PM
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I think you felt like you were being used and no one likes that.
I thought the same thing. What this seems like to me - is ... she wanted (maybe still wants) to be just friends.
However she likes that *you* like her.
Maybe she had a breakup or something else happened that upset her.. and she wanted attention from you to cheer herself up. It seems a bit odd - that she suddenly shifted to liking you, messaged you out of the blue - and quickly tried to make things physical.. when you had never even been on a date before. I know that I am a girl ^ but even if I was a guy - I would feel highly uncomfortable with someone behaving this way .. *eek*
So I completely understand your reaction. She doesn't seem genuine. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted July 03, 2013 09:38 PM
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Sounds like you just don't like girls who try and take the lead.
I mean... honestly - this isn't just a normal situation with a normal girl taking the lead.
She literally asked him to come over and tried to get physical with him as soon as he got there (out of the blue!) o_O... This is like taking the leading in - bootie-calling someone ... rather than 'dating'. Does anyone want to be a bootie call - really? IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted July 03, 2013 09:42 PM
Actually Aqua Guy something similar-ish happened to me.. with a Gemini guy :\ lol
Very unexpected.
His Moon is conjunct my Sun in Aries and conjunct transiting Uranus - and it was just plain odd.. how he hit on me suddenly.. when for such a long time he was being a snob.
I never liked him romantically but I was always nice and he was always a snob.
Two days ago - he says to me "I thought we've always liked each other" and asks me to "come over" (when he didn't even invite me to his birthday party)..... like no thanks :\IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted July 03, 2013 09:56 PM
Well, did they even meet before she rejected him? Can't she change her mind based on his live impression, without being suspected of having something seriously wrong with her?You know-- just being spontaneous. Also, in case I gave the wrong impression earlier... I don't think it's a big deal if aquaguy wants to take the lead. People are entitled to their preferences. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 03, 2013 11:07 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
I mean... honestly - this isn't just a normal situation with a normal girl taking the lead.
She literally asked him to come over and tried to get physical with him as soon as he got there (out of the blue!) o_O...This is like taking the leading in - bootie-calling someone ... rather than 'dating'. Does anyone want to be a bootie call - really?
I felt soo used, I went home and cried. not really j/k but it was really weird. IP: Logged |
freebrainstorms
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posted July 04, 2013 11:30 PM
i have fallen into that trap. when a guy is really obviously interested in me sometimes i shy away just out of fear or because he took me too off guard and i didn't know how to handle it...or just because the intensity was too strong and i didn't know what to do at the time, and then later on er....pounced? it sounds like she's just letting you know that she's interested now and is feeling brave enough now to do something about it and she knows that you're into her so she's trying to be the brave one and own up to letting you know how she feels. cat and mouse game yes. confusing? yes. do i also have natal venus sq. mars? yes...IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 05, 2013 12:46 AM
After thinking about this experience and others I have had in the past I have come to realize I have serious f*cking issues when it comes to intimacy and my own self esteem. I now see that I have always been my own worst enemy. I always self-sabotage .. alwaysIP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 05, 2013 01:22 AM
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Originally posted by Faith:
Well, did they even meet before she rejected him? Can't she change her mind based on his live impression, without being suspected of having something seriously wrong with her?You know-- just being spontaneous. Also, in case I gave the wrong impression earlier... I don't think it's a big deal if aquaguy wants to take the lead. People are entitled to their preferences.
You can't just reject someone and assume they are willing to do whatever you please..
He has feelings too.
It's obvious she just wanted sex..
She was probably using him as a rebound... She felt really undesirable and aquaguy came on her mind, she remembered how much he once liked her. I'm sorry that happened to you aquaguy, you don't need to be head f*cked by this girl! IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted July 05, 2013 10:54 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
After thinking about this experience and others I have had in the past I have come to realize I have serious f*cking issues when it comes to intimacy and my own self esteem. I now see that I have always been my own worst enemy. I always self-sabotage .. always
Knowing is half the battle, though. Good for you, figuring this stuff out.  ! IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted July 05, 2013 11:04 AM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
You can't just reject someone and assume they are willing to do whatever you please..
He has feelings too.
It's obvious she just wanted sex..She was probably using him as a rebound... She felt really undesirable and aquaguy came on her mind, she remembered how much he once liked her. I'm sorry that happened to you aquaguy, you don't need to be head f*cked by this girl!
Now that you put it that way I feel kind of bad that I ever did that to guys, back when I was single. I wasn't as forward as aquaguy's date but definitely changed my mind a few times. Oh well...at least one guy did the same thing to me, he had me on this dump-and-then-seduce-out-of-the-blue cycle for years. I just figured, romance is messy. 
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freebrainstorms
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posted July 05, 2013 09:15 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
After thinking about this experience and others I have had in the past I have come to realize I have serious f*cking issues when it comes to intimacy and my own self esteem. I now see that I have always been my own worst enemy. I always self-sabotage .. always
ditto....lol IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 07, 2013 10:36 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
After thinking about this experience and others I have had in the past I have come to realize I have serious f*cking issues when it comes to intimacy and my own self esteem. I now see that I have always been my own worst enemy. I always self-sabotage .. always
Hmmm, I don't think so. I think you knew this girl wasn't stable and that you might well be a sponge that she decided to use to mop around. May be someone ditched her,maybe she found out the guy she was crushing into doesn't like her. Having said that, if I were you, considering that she gave me a chance to refuse her sorry a$$ I would never have gone to her house. Next time DO NOT accept any invitation from women who've refused to hang out with you. That's all. IP: Logged |
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