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Topic: How do you get over someone..
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Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 09:45 AM
  
I don't think suppressing it actually did anything.. LOLHow do you get over someone you're still in love with? How did you do it?
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 11, 2013 09:48 AM
Time and only time imo------------------
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Ceridwen
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posted July 11, 2013 09:48 AM
How much time?IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
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posted July 11, 2013 09:52 AM
I wish I knew how to get over this person. Anyway, Everyone's clock is different. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 09:54 AM
4 years is enough.
I want my life back...There has to be another way...
Like homicide 
LOL I'm kidding, seriously thou! IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
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posted July 11, 2013 09:59 AM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
4 years is enough.
I want my life back...
Oh.. Hmm.. Try meeting new women elsewhere. Have you thought about traveling to a different place? I mean, maybe when you meet women abroad, it'll change your perspective on your life and perhaps, if she's the right person, you can find a middle ground on what to do with your life with this person beside you. Don't know how good my advice is, but I feel like a person should always try to get out of the place they're living in for a while. (You could go to a different state you've never been to before) IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:09 AM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
I don't think suppressing it actually did anything.. LOLHow do you get over someone you're still in love with? How did you do it?
Story of my life. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:11 AM
Lol believe me... I tried the deluxe variety pack...
Foreign ones too. Honestly foreigners are fun for like a weekend... It's cute at first.
I've lived in nyc for a year..You know when you find someone flawless in every single way possible.
Nobody ever stacks up to that... The problem is we were both ready to commit.. like forever.. and that did not happen.... I've come to the conclusion you never get over people you've fallen in love with... Especially your first love.. You just learn to suppress it.
God.. the same thing happened to my mom too, I know she's still in love with that guy..
She was about my age too...
The same exact thing happened... I don't want that to be me...
She looks so unhappy sometimes..
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Jessica2407
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From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:17 AM
''I don't want to feel the things I have to''No am not in love with my ex anymore.But it took me years. I'm scared that I will fall for someone who can't forget his first love. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:22 AM
That must completely suck too.
Being in love with someone that's in love someone else..
OMG..I don't to be in love anymore...
Im seriously done with love.
I'm just going to have empty sex for the rest of my life. I'm still a virgin cause I was waiting for him, because he wanted to wait.. So I'm still waiting because I'm an idiot.
LMAOOOO
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Jessica2407
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From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:25 AM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
That must completely suck too.
Being in love with someone that's in love someone else..
OMG..I don't to be in love anymore...
Im seriously done with love.
I'm just empty sex for the rest of my life. I'm still a virgin cause I was waiting for him, because he wanted to wait.. So I'm still waiting because I'm an idiot.
awwww don't say that Kero. Depends if you want to have sex or make love.
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Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:28 AM
I don't care.
I just want to be free...
Also polyamory sounds really interesting right about now ..Oh... sorry it didn't work out,
Well I have 3 other lovers, so BYE!! IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:29 AM
You'll never be free.One manacle leaves place to another.. IP: Logged |
ail221
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From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:32 AM
Distance yourself from them as much as possible. Take up a new hobby and fall in love/like with someone else.IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:38 AM
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Originally posted by ail221:
Distance yourself from them as much as possible. Take up a new hobby and fall in love/like with someone else.
You make it sound bloody easy! IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:40 AM
Is that how you did it?.
easier said than done..
Hmmm.. Do you think hypnosis would work? My friend was telling me about her sex offender cousin.
They got him some hypnotherapy and he's no longer a cradle robber.
Sounds too good to be true.. lmao IP: Logged |
ail221
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From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 10:46 AM
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
You make it sound bloody easy!
It isn't easy, it took me about 2 1/2 years to get over someone completely. I changed my circle of friends, did a dramatic makeover and dived into some new interests. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 11, 2013 10:49 AM
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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
How much time?
Well, with someone I was crazy about, never, but the pain diminished.
With the person who died, never, but the pain diminished I think that the body has a mechanism where pain fades. It can re-open at times and hurt badly but the constant pain fades. It is like a scar grew over it but if it were picked at, the wound wouldre-open and still be there.
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Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 11:00 AM
It's so weird.
We can learn to accept a death, because it's the natural order of things... That person is in a better place etc..But It's hard to get over love because we blame ourselves and what could of been... IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 11, 2013 11:01 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Kerosene:
It's so weird.
We can learn to accept a death, because it's the natural order of things... That person is in a better place etc..But It's hard to get over love because we blame ourselves and what could of been...
They say divorce is worse than death. ------------------
Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal
http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Lunae
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posted July 11, 2013 11:03 AM
My way of getting over someone is letting go. Do whatever it is that makes you feel free.I was in love with a friend if mine (or thought I was ) for 4 freaking years and I could not seem to let go of my unrequited feelings because we were classmates and co-interns for the entire duration of my college life. The only way I could let go was to tell him my feelings, without expecting a response. I just wanted to say it so I could move on and I did. It worked like magic for me. Though some feelings still lingered over time, it helped in opening my eyes to stuff I was blind to when I still had feelings for him hahaha IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 11:31 AM
^
Unrequited love is hard.. but it is something you can overcome.
If nothing happened, than what is there to miss?
Did he know you liked him?
Idk...it never really ended per say... You know how Pisces do there little disappearing acts?
He just got terrified by everything because it was too serious.
I don't he could deal with it, we were going to start a life together.
He was probably in his fantasy world, until reality struck him.
You can't make false promises...
I know I shouldn't have pushed him but... I always felt like he needed a little nudge.
He was always kinda unsure about things.. I wonder if he still knows what he wants in life?? IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted July 11, 2013 11:43 AM
Oh, goodness.Getting over someone you've truly loved is like the hardest thing.
Close to impossible. Just stop thinking about him, don't feed the memories. And look forward to the future, so that this: quote:
I'm scared that I will fall for someone who can't forget his first love.
won't happen. It would kill me to fall for someone who still thinks about their past love! That's like.. UGH. No, just no. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your future SO! Let it go.
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Lunae
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Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 11:46 AM
@Kero, he did but I never told him myself until the start of our internship. After I did, I was able to let go.What made me hold on before was that tiny spark of possibility. We were friends, so it wasn't very far off that maybe someday he'd fall for me too. His actions and words at times were VERY confusing, that's why I really had a hard time letting go. Maybe all you need is closure? Since you really want to get over him, why don't you tell him all that you're feeling/thinking right now? If he's pulling a disappearing act on you, send him a heartfelt message on email/fb? At least you'd be able to partially resolve your feelings. If he's ready to talk, he will probably find a way to contact you if he sees your message. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 4415
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 12:00 PM
Ugggh wtf.. well that guy he sounds like he's unsure of what he wants.
I HATE THAT.. :PIm actually terrified contacting him..
Someone told me he was asking about me last year..
What if he tries start something again.... He has a cancer moon after all...
Cancer guys are the boomerangs of the zodiac I literally can't deal with that, I know I would give in..
The thing is I'm not an idiot, once flaker, always a flaker. Venus is over my Chiron.. Usually I repress these things but I ran into an old friend of his the other day and literally pretended I had no idea who he was and rushed off in a hurry.
NOPE sorry...
Everything just came back and hit me like a train. I have written long emails in the past but never sent them.. They do helped me blow off some steam. These things come in waves.
You feel like crap... you start blaming yourself until you start thinking about what happened.
After that you start feeling furious... Life distracts you and you start to repress it...
This usually have been happening one time a year.
probably transits...
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