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Topic: Here's a question for you guys..
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Pisces-Sweety
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From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 02:36 PM
  
Have you ever gotten out of the friendzone? If yes, how did you do it?IP: Logged |
juniperb
Moderator Posts: 7187
From: Blue Star Kachina
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 12, 2013 05:20 PM
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Originally posted by Pisces-Sweety:
Have you ever gotten out of the friendzone? If yes, how did you do it?
Question for you 
What is the "friendzone"? ------------------
Christian, Jew, Muslim, Shaman, Zoroastrian, stone, ground, mountain, river, each has a secret way of being with the Mystery, unique and not to be judged.
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 3239
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 05:57 PM
I just kissed her in the moment
She responded well I guess  .Maybe I was not officially in the friend zone.
but honestly unless you find the person unattractive there will always be sexual tension.
Unless you guys have created like a brother and sister bond, those are usually old friendships. You're attractive so unless he likes unconventionally attractive girls I think there's a chance.
Who knows everyone has there own type. IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 1643
From: vodka fine, I'm so divine
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 06:09 PM
WELLLL I say to respect their wishes. If they just consider you a friend, then there isn't really a chance, no? Or if they just want to be friends, then it'd be rude to continue to pursue them, ya see? I mean, you could try any ways, but don't expect big results...IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted July 12, 2013 06:11 PM
You have to feel it out. Things will have a flow or not.
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 3239
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 06:19 PM
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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
If they just consider you a friend, then there isn't really a chance, no?
Hmm that's not always true people develop romances out friendships all the time.
I think synastry can explain that perfectly.
Couples don't always have venus/mars/pluto synastry that ignites instant passion and lust. Unless that guy has told her he's not interested then it's fair game.
Honestly once you start having feels for someone there is no way you can just be friends, she might well address it.
No need to torture herself. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 06:39 PM
The friendzone is a lot like the bermuda triangle, so no.IP: Logged |
ail221
Moderator Posts: 3560
From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 06:46 PM
It's a lot easier to just admit you like the person and get over it if they aren't interested than waiting and dealing with the pain of developing ever more feelings for them. IP: Logged |
ail221
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From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
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posted July 12, 2013 06:46 PM
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 3239
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 07:00 PM
^
exactly
I think it's our venus/moon in gemini, we don't have to time to sit and wonder if they like us or not.IP: Logged |
ail221
Moderator Posts: 3560
From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 10:26 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
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exactly
I think it's our venus/moon in gemini, we don't have to time to sit and wonder if they like us or not.
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Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 2074
From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted July 12, 2013 11:04 PM
Well, sort of, the friendzone began with an underlying interest that was never acted on by either party.So merely said something, uhm, point blank, just tossed it out there and things worked out. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Knowflake Posts: 2565
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted July 12, 2013 11:05 PM
It depends how one is "friend zoned." Maybe she just doesn't like him "that way" for a variety of reasons, so they're "just friends." If so then there's no way out of it. On the other hand maybe he just hasn't showed enough direct interest in her (at least not as much as the "competition") so she hasn't thought of him that way (I know, it's hard for guys to understand) and a more direct approach rather than hints is called for (though Cosmopolitan sells a lot I know at least some of its readers don't buy into their drivel of "if he acknowledges your existence he's probably attracted to you," though I suppose that might be a cynical, "If you're a woman then you're good for one thing, anything else a bonus at best, and by acknowledging you he wants you for that one thing" and given that so many guys use terms as "friend zone" I can see why some women would be that cynical). As for me I was friends with someone for YEARS, and that's all we were, but then after I was single awhile and interest expressed then it changed, and we were together as a couple for years. Of course there are plenty of friends I'd never do that with for a variety of reasons, it really just depends. And contrary to popular belief women aren't machines in which you have to figure out our buttons then you can control us (that is, you may be able to use blenders after having learned to use one, but that doesn't work with women, nor men either, though many seem to believe otherwise). Men get "friend zoned" for a variety of reasons, and just because one woman does it doesn't mean another will, and a guy who is so "zoned" can change the status with some women but not others depending on the individuals involved. IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 684
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 03:11 AM
I'm keeping quiet after this friendzone\rejection(?) thing, it's my brain and feelings that won't be quiet. (I blame my annoying self critical virgo moon.)IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 3239
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 03:29 AM
wait what happened exactly?IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 684
From: Under the Sea
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posted July 13, 2013 04:12 AM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
wait what happened exactly?
You know my story with the gemini. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted July 13, 2013 07:56 AM
My answer is no if you're *really* friend-zoned, as in - the other person doesn't have any romantic interest in you.If I'm not attracted to someone, nothing will change that. But I know it works differently for some people - the ones who fall in love after several years of friendship and whatnot. By the way, PS, I don't think he really rejected you.. I mean, he could be attracted to you but it's just that he decided not to act on it. IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 2074
From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 11:46 AM
quote:
Originally posted by PixieJane:
On the other hand maybe he just hasn't showed enough direct interest in her (at least not as much as the "competition") so she hasn't thought of him that way (I know, it's hard for guys to understand) and a more direct approach rather than hints is called for (though Cosmopolitan sells a lot I know at least some of its readers don't buy into their drivel of "if he acknowledges your existence he's probably attracted to you," though I suppose that might be a cynical, "If you're a woman then you're good for one thing, anything else a bonus at best, and by acknowledging you he wants you for that one thing" and given that so many guys use terms as "friend zone" I can see why some women would be that cynical). As for me I was friends with someone for YEARS, and that's all we were, but then after I was single awhile and interest expressed then it changed, and we were together as a couple for years. Of course there are plenty of friends I'd never do that with for a variety of reasons, it really just depends. And contrary to popular belief women aren't machines in which you have to figure out our buttons then you can control us (that is, you may be able to use blenders after having learned to use one, but that doesn't work with women, nor men either, though many seem to believe otherwise). Men get "friend zoned" for a variety of reasons, and just because one woman does it doesn't mean another will, and a guy who is so "zoned" can change the status with some women but not others depending on the individuals involved.
All true, the one thing I can add is somewhere along the line there will be an indication of mutual attraction, like genuine compliments on appearance or recalling what the other person was going to do etc. Things can simmer like that for a long time before anything happens, but it could happen. IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 684
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 02:36 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
My answer is no if you're *really* friend-zoned, as in - the other person doesn't have any romantic interest in you.If I'm not attracted to someone, nothing will change that. But I know it works differently for some people - the ones who fall in love after several years of friendship and whatnot. By the way, PS, I don't think he really rejected you.. I mean, he could be attracted to you but it's just that he decided not to act on it.
Ah.. Hmm.. well.. (when we were fighting a lot back in november\october, he asked this girl out who suddenly left the company (4 days after he asked her out), like she just left and no one knew anything about her (I do, she's been my friend for like 4 years) and he eventually forgot about her. Maybe im thinking too much into this, but i feel like i kept getting mixed up signs from him. PS: im sure he doesnt "still have feelings" for her. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 3239
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 13, 2013 03:26 PM
Hmm
Did you guys hook up at all?
Maybe fooled around a bit?You probably mentioned everything in another thread I remember this guy but I can't recall the details.. IP: Logged |
Pisces-Sweety
Knowflake Posts: 684
From: Under the Sea
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted July 14, 2013 10:20 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Kerosene:
Hmm
Did you guys hook up at all?
Maybe fooled around a bit?You probably mentioned everything in another thread I remember this guy but I can't recall the details..
Its ok, forget it anyway, keep posting guys. Id love to hear your stories about this if you have some IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
Knowflake Posts: 5412
From:
Registered: Oct 2011
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posted July 14, 2013 10:34 AM
I have the opposite issue at this age. I want to *stay* in the friend zone. There should be a "three feet" rule when married. Change that to "eight feet.". No contact allowed. No hugs, no kisses, no hand/shoulder touching. No handshakes. Please. In fact, no complimenting! And I get my own drinks. Being friends with females is like juggling hand grenades. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 3239
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 14, 2013 12:08 PM
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Originally posted by Pisces-Sweety:
Its ok, forget it anyway, keep posting guys. Id love to hear your stories about this if you have some
Lol okay. sorry if I overstepped a boundary, I do that sometimes... YTA would be perfect for a taurus/scorpio woman!!!
Is your wife the jealous type? IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
Knowflake Posts: 5412
From:
Registered: Oct 2011
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posted July 14, 2013 09:12 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Kerosene:
YTA would be perfect for a taurus/scorpio woman!!!
Is your wife the jealous type?
She'll have the offending woman's liver with fava beans and hang the carcass to dry. Jealous? More like vicious. An angry lioness is a sight to behold. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 3239
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted July 15, 2013 12:34 AM
Wait is she a leo?
Also sorry about your one thread :/IP: Logged |
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