posted July 24, 2013 12:18 PM            

The thing is I've recently got into a argument with my boss,i was filling out my vacation time form and she started in on asking me why i needed vacation time and it continued until she said well why do you need time off when and i quote " Your Mommy does everything for you" which really sent me through the roof and beyond the skies above with rage.I called her out on her rude behaviour and she kept saying no no no it's not rude of me to say,then she has the nerve to tell me that it was just a joke.

I have to ask does that sound like any kind of joke that your boss would say to you? would you say that to anyone? i found it to be a rude dig at a person whom she doesn't like aka me.

I told her off even more ( Taurus sun Aquarius moon Leo rising) i tend to be stubborn.She got angry when i mentioned that she has taken more than one vacation herself and she was plain ruder with me. I quote and this is her shouting at me " Hey i'm sorry if you can't take a joke but that's not my problem from now on i'll talk to you only in business like manner" correct me if i'm wrong here but shouldn't she have been doing that in the first place? instead of thinking it's alright to say something nasty and vile as that.

I'm not going out of my way to start drama but this event has been seriously annoying me and bugging me because i'm torn between whether i should file a complaint about her treatment towards me,or if i should ignore it or a recent conclusion to my issue start looking for another job while continuing working there and quit when i find one.Being honest i'm so torn and it's mainly because my insides are upside down because i can't stand the lack of ******** that is going on and the lack of honesty.I need honesty i just need it and i don't feel like i'm getting it from my boss.

posted July 24, 2013 12:33 PM            

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Originally posted by DepTaurus:
I'm currently caught in a seriously bad moral dilemma where i either send out an actual complaint or just be on my merry way to greener pastures.

The thing is I've recently got into a argument with my boss,i was filling out my vacation time form and she started in on asking me why i needed vacation time and it continued until she said well why do you need time off when and i quote " Your Mommy does everything for you" which really sent me through the roof and beyond the skies above with rage.I called her out on her rude behaviour and she kept saying no no no it's not rude of me to say,then she has the nerve to tell me that it was just a joke.

I have to ask does that sound like any kind of joke that your boss would say to you? would you say that to anyone? i found it to be a rude dig at a person whom she doesn't like aka me.

I told her off even more ( Taurus sun Aquarius moon Leo rising) i tend to be stubborn.She got angry when i mentioned that she has taken more than one vacation herself and she was plain ruder with me. I quote and this is her shouting at me " Hey i'm sorry if you can't take a joke but that's not my problem from now on i'll talk to you only in business like manner" correct me if i'm wrong here but shouldn't she have been doing that in the first place? instead of thinking it's alright to say something nasty and vile as that.

I'm not going out of my way to start drama but this event has been seriously annoying me and bugging me because i'm torn between whether i should file a complaint about her treatment towards me,or if i should ignore it or a recent conclusion to my issue start looking for another job while continuing working there and quit when i find one.Being honest i'm so torn and it's mainly because my insides are upside down because i can't stand the lack of ******** that is going on and the lack of honesty.I need honesty i just need it and i don't feel like i'm getting it from my boss.

Sorry for the long post rant but your advice would be much appreciated and thanks for the time to even respond.

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posted July 25, 2013 04:14 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
How does she know anything personal about you in the first place?
I mean why does she even know that you live with your parents?

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posted July 25, 2013 08:56 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
How does she know anything personal about you in the first place?
I mean why does she even know that you live with your parents?

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Well i started working there and than my mother was hired by her and she thinks just because my mother and i live together that she does everything for me.Hence the connection which was actually a bit funny because elsewhere she doesn't know anything about my life other than that i live with my parents still.

posted July 25, 2013 09:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Right?
All my coworkers know is my asl lmfao.
I think it's just unprofessional when a coworker is asking about my personal life...

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aside from knowing that i live with my parents she knows nothing and i agree with you my personal life is no one business which is why i don't tell her nothing.

posted July 25, 2013 09:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I am not saying people are doing this but we should not try to blame him that his boss knew some details of his life. That is quite common in work situations, especially smaller businesses.
It may not be ideal but I hate when people blame the victim. Again, this is not personal to anyone here.

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posted July 25, 2013 10:04 AM            

follow the appropriate chain of command.

her remarks were not professional and totally called for.

that is if you want to handle things appropriately....i tend to be covert and bit em in the a$$ when they are not looking...

posted July 25, 2013 10:29 AM            

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Originally posted by DepTaurus:
lol ami anne they were just asking questions...which is alright with me.

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posted July 25, 2013 10:37 AM            

How about a response like -

"Yup but she can't take you off me, now can she ?" with a smile and a minute later. "Oh btw it was just a joke".

And

"Why i needed vacation time"

"To hunt for someone suitable to get married to. You can ask my mommy"

Never let people like her ruffle you. Just not worth it.

posted July 25, 2013 10:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Love&Light:
" Your Mommy does everything for you"

How about a response like -

"Yup but she can't take you off me, now can she ?" with a smile and a minute later. "Oh btw it was just a joke".

And

"Why i needed vacation time"

"To hunt for someone suitable to get married to. You can ask my mommy"

Never let people like her ruffle you. Just not worth it.

My boss is this type of a person. You should listen to the kind of answers i give him. And the smiles too.

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Yep, if you can get in that cool space, you can handle nasty, petty people like that. I do

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posted July 25, 2013 11:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Love&Light:
" Your Mommy does everything for you"

How about a response like -

"Yup but she can't take you off me, now can she ?" with a smile and a minute later. "Oh btw it was just a joke".

And

"Why i needed vacation time"

"To hunt for someone suitable to get married to. You can ask my mommy"

Never let people like her ruffle you. Just not worth it.

My boss is this type of a person. You should listen to the kind of answers i give him. And the smiles too.

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Seems normal enough but to be honest i can't be that cheeky when somebody or when i feel like someone is attacking me in some way...verbally speaking.I tend to be very direct and i dislike playing the cool calm and collected type mainly because i can't do it.I rather be in their face telling them off.

posted July 26, 2013 12:43 AM            

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Well I started working there and than my mother was hired by her and she thinks just because my mother and i live together that she does everything for me

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Knowing that ^.. honestly... I wouldn't work for her anymore if I was in your shoes.
That was a very lame thing for her to say, mainly since your mum has also worked there. It is just disrespectful.
I just think she might say upsetting things in the future. I don't think this will be the last. So if you can find a different job - as you were saying.. that would be better.

Ami -

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I am not saying people are doing this but we should not try to blame him that his boss knew some details of his life. That is quite common in work situations, especially smaller businesses.

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posted August 03, 2013 01:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Update?

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Haven't seen or heard from her in these last two weeks,i've been ignoring her and getting to work doing my job and leaving.I've no time to chat with someone who clearly has issues with me,and i'm not going to put my self in any position where contact with her is necessary.

Just glad my job is a solo act.

I've nothing to say to anyone,i'm keeping to myself that's all i really care about right now.