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Topic: Jealousy!!
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Aquacheeka
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posted August 13, 2013 11:06 PM
  
Depends on the relationship.In the past (Venus-Pluto relationships that I have), they were a torrent of jealousy and drama, just nauseating. Now, not being in a Plutonian relationship, I feel hardly any jealousy at all, even though my man is sexy as f**k. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka
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posted August 13, 2013 11:11 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I am a very jealous person. I am an aquarius sun,aquarius ascendant and venus,and taurus moon. I have sun/pluto,moon/pluto,and venus pluto. Quiet frankly I will not date a girl who has guy friends, It's either them or me. People will say "bu bu bu bu but you have to trust your partner" and those people have a point. However a girl abuses my trust when she starts hanging out with other guys, I just wont tolerate it.
No wonder you're single.
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Aquacheeka
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posted August 13, 2013 11:13 PM
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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
@Aquaguy Well that's not fun and if any guy friends of mine that have feelings for me which none of them do because I'm pretty much the female version of all of them I would tell them flat out that I don't want a relationship with them. Most of them have been friends of mine since preschool so I just don't see letting them go for anyone especially when they've been there for so long and know more than a boyfriend would. I get where you're coming from but I still don't think it's fair to judge and assume without knowing the person or people first. Who knows you may grow to even like them as well. That's all I'm saying
Right. I could even understand if it was new male friends, but not ones she's had for years. You're friends with those people for a reason; namely, lack of sexual and romantic attraction. For instance, my best friend Clay? He's gay. Yeah, there will be no sex between us. But I love him to death though. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Uranus
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posted August 13, 2013 11:13 PM
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
No wonder you're single.
Predictable response but I don't really care what anyone thinks. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 13, 2013 11:22 PM
@Aquacheeka exactly!! Most of these guys I've known my entire. I would that after 15 years they randomly start feeling things for me. I'd either punch them or just laugh at them one of the two lol. They're my best friends and some really good friends that I wouldn't just dump for anyone so thank you  IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted August 13, 2013 11:22 PM
I don't get jealous...
My ego is too above that.
When I feel I can no longer trust a person it's over.IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 13, 2013 11:24 PM
I'm the exact same way! There's no point in wasting time on that crap. If you can't handle not being jealous than you're not for me IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 13, 2013 11:24 PM
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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
Right. I could even understand if it was new male friends, but not ones she's had for years. You're friends with those people for a reason; namely, lack of sexual and romantic attraction.For instance, my best friend Clay? He's gay. Yeah, there will be no sex between us. But I love him to death though.
He is gay? Well that's completely different... Gay guys actually only want friendship from women because they are not attracted to them. However, Straight guys are attracted to women and gravitate to women they are romantically and/or sexually attracted to.That's just the way it is,I didn't make the rules. Which means that a straight guy who is spending lots of time with a woman is attracted to her 99% of the time. The woman may not know it and he might not admit it but there are feelings there.
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Odette
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posted August 13, 2013 11:27 PM
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So even though I may not trust alot of people I could still care less about getting jealous over them.
hmmm Maybe I would feel this way if I wasn't all that into them. & I love Libras as well - specially with Scorpio placements. Some of my closets friends and my longest ex-bf are Libra/Scorpio lol It's interesting since they say opposites can go either way, but I haven't had any bad experiences with Libras! IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 13, 2013 11:28 PM
He is gay? Well that's completely different... Gay guys actually only want friendship from women because they are not attracted to them. However, Straight guys are attracted to women and gravitate to women they are romantically and/or sexually attracted to.That's just the way it is,I didn't make the rules. Which means that a straight guy who is spending lots of time with a woman is attracted to her 99% of the time. The woman may not know it and he might not admit it but there are feelings there.[/B][/QUOTE]
Sorry friend but I disagree with you on all counts there. If they've known the guy for years than its different. I have lots of guy and female friends and we all hang out have a good time together. Most of them have girlfriends so were no where in thag equation. If one of them told me they liked me I would punch them because I dont see any of them that way at all. Again don't assume without knowing first. Don't judge a person without knowing the story or the history IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted August 13, 2013 11:29 PM
I think it depends sometimes... two people are not always attracted to each other....
I mean if there is attraction yeah maybe... be careful.
but usually people can pick up on that and keep their distance if they're not interested or are with someone else.Probably conventionally beautiful women & men have that problem, people of the opp gender are automatically attracted to them. probably movie stars and supermodels have this problem. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted August 13, 2013 11:30 PM
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Straight guys are attracted to women and gravitate to women they are romantically and/or sexually attracted to.
People in general want to talk to other people and connect in non-sexual ways. It's not all about sex. What you said implies that men only *talk to* and befriend other men.. and they see women as being there for sex - only.
There are in fact men who think this way ^. It is sexist and disgusting. But there are also many men who do not think this way. So men and women can be friends.. unless the guy is sexist, or too young to know better. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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Registered: Jul 2013
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posted August 13, 2013 11:32 PM
@Odette Libras are awesome! Well the happy ones the sad depressing ones are just b****** the meanest people I've ever had to do with which is just sad and pathetic. I really really despise mean, snarky, negative sourpuss people IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 13, 2013 11:35 PM
@Odette Exactly but clearly some people think otherwise. Oh well though its up to us to life we want how we choose to live it  IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 13, 2013 11:37 PM
Wow huge typo lol it should say Live life the way we want and choose the way we live it lolIP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 13, 2013 11:39 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
People in general want to talk to other people and connect in non-sexual ways. It's not all about sex.What you said implies that men only *talk to* and befriend other men.. and they see women as being there for sex - only.
There are in fact men who think this way ^. It is sexist and disgusting. But there are also many men who do not think this way. So men and women can be friends.. unless the guy is sexist, or too young to know better.
Odette,
It has nothing to do with being sexist or only viewing women as sex objects. Its the way men are.... Men care about having connections with women and want that connection to be exclusive. The problem is people today don't respect boundaries and it creates a lot of effed up situations. Its funny that people here try to paint me as the bad guy when I'm one of the few people who aren't hypocritical about this. The truth is most people get jealous when their partner gets close to someone else. However most people are hypocritical and don't respect other peoples relationships.I'm the type of guy who is respectful of others peoples relationships and expect people to do the same for me.
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Padre35
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From: Asheville, NC, US
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posted August 13, 2013 11:40 PM
My question about relationship jealousy is:Is or is it not to be in a relationship with a person other people are attracted to as well? There are other jealousies as well, for possessions, for achievement, and just a host of things other people can be jealous over. For myself, I'm not the jealous type, save for skills other people may have that I'd think it would be nice to have myself. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 13, 2013 11:41 PM
Well I'm glad I'm not apart of the insecure mostIP: Logged |
Padre35
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From: Asheville, NC, US
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posted August 13, 2013 11:43 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
People in general want to talk to other people and connect in non-sexual ways. It's not all about sex.What you said implies that men only *talk to* and befriend other men.. and they see women as being there for sex - only.
There are in fact men who think this way ^. It is sexist and disgusting. But there are also many men who do not think this way. So men and women can be friends.. unless the guy is sexist, or too young to know better.
Depends, meaning if there is some sort of sexual interest "only" then they should make it blatant. Can't say it's what I do, can see why men specifically would view the world in that manner. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 13, 2013 11:44 PM
If its an attractive person of course people are gonna find that person attractive. If that attractive person is yours and you know that you are there's why ever second guess that? It just makes people look very insecure and unsure of themselves which in return just sets everything up for disaster. I can't stand jealousy it's so evil and such a waste of life IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted August 13, 2013 11:44 PM
Anyways I'm not going to argue about this any more because its really stupid. If ya'll want to believe that guys just want to be friends with girls and watch lifetime movies with them then more power to you. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted August 13, 2013 11:47 PM
I'm a male that's attracted to women too...
Here's my thought process.Do I find her attractive?
YES
- Do I have a chance with her?
-No, okay her loss.
We can be friends I'll find someone else, whatever I'm not going to be hung up on someone who clearly isn't interested in me...
I have a healthy ego... People who lust after people who will never like them are a tiny bit pathetic.
They need to love themselves more.
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Barbiegirl19
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posted August 13, 2013 11:48 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Anyways I'm not going to argue about this any more because its really stupid. If ya'll want to believe that guys just want to be friends with girls and watch lifetime movies with them then more power to you.
There ya go assuming again sir. I hope you meet a girl and become best friends with her with no attraction and see what it's like. Hopefully she won't have a boyfriend such as yourself and you won't have to deal with judgement and assumptions. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 13, 2013 11:52 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
I'm a male that's attracted to women too...
Here's my thought process.Do I find her attractive?
YES
- Do I have a chance with her?
-No, okay her loss.
We can be chill I'll find someone else, whatever I'm not going to be hung up on someone who clearly isn't interested in me...
I have a healthy ego... People who lust after people who will never like them are a tiny bit pathetic.
They need to love themselves more.
I agree with that. Why can't we all just be simple and straightforward. Everybody is so insecure nowadays it's ridiculous even when they shouldn't be. People just want things to complain about and draw attention to themselves. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted August 13, 2013 11:53 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Anyways I'm not going to argue about this any more because its really stupid. If ya'll want to believe that guys just want to be friends with girls and watch lifetime movies with them then more power to you.
Eh, here I disagree, I do have several woman I consider friends, and no, never watched a lifetime movie with any of them. In fact, most of my female friends are lesbians, they are rather fun to hang out with for a bit, totally different take on life. They are simply interesting people. IP: Logged |
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