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Hera
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posted August 18, 2013 02:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Which are you? Which do you think it's best? Pros and cons?


I think I used to be the all eggs in one basket type of girl. Taurus Venus and all. All that Neptune ugh.. But as I grow older and out of time (joking) I find this a bit unreasonable. Plus by now I've experienced all sorts of situations to know it's never so good that it can't get better with someone else and really, nobody is that irreplaceable. I think getting hung up on people really deprives us of worthy experiences. Sure, some people are really special, but with all those billions of people out there, there have to be MORE special people, MORE people with your kind of funky. So why get stuck on ONE single person??

Anyway, just ranting. This was this morning's epiphany. Hera wants to mingle, know MORE and MORE people. Eh.
Scary discovery for an afflicted Cap rising..

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Hera
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posted August 18, 2013 03:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
For the record, I am not referring to stable, committed relationships, where there are deep strong feelings, preferably mutual . Just, you know, the initial stages when nothing is set in stone. Was thinking of "Cold mountain" and how unrealistic that is nowadays.


There's this Gemini I went to college with, we've been in the same city for 5 years and have not gone out ONCE. I'm thinking of asking him out sometime! I like what he's posting on my FB page lmao. I wanna go to the theater or the opera with him! I used to love our intellectual talks back in the day!

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posted August 18, 2013 03:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Tough call, indeed every woman is replaceable, so are most men.

My problem is I vibe off of what the other person is feeling and forget myself and me needs in the meanwhile.

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Hera
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posted August 18, 2013 03:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Padre35:

Tough call, indeed every woman is replaceable, so are most men.

My problem is I vibe off of what the other person is feeling and forget myself and me needs in the meanwhile.


wtf, every woman is replaceable but only "most" men are???? Sexist much?

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posted August 18, 2013 03:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Im too fickle for that..
Jupiter is virgo too analytic to be optimistic about situations.

I'm lucky in life because I don't make rash choices that could effect my entire life, unlike some people I know...
In the back of my head, I always hear nothing is absolute and permanent.


Every few months in relationships I like to talk to my partner and discuss things I feel we're both lacking and if we can't fulfill each others needs than I leave because I don't believe in commitment in that sense.

I feel like you should be with someone because you want to, not because you're obligated. that's bs and why I never want to get married.

but love is a different story, I don't always fall in love and when I do it's hard... and torturous because it apart of me wants to go to the end of the earth for that person....
Take all my eggs fry them too.. **** love..

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posted August 18, 2013 03:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm conflicted because I have Cancer DC and that can get clingy. But on the other hand Moon is in SAG in the 11th house. Gotta have FREEDOM, including of choice.

It's good to have options, methinks. Tho it can also get confusing if it's too many.

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posted August 18, 2013 03:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wish I had venus in virgo... :c

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posted August 18, 2013 03:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries Eagle     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Hera:
Which are you? Which do you think it's best? Pros and cons?


I think I used to be the all eggs in one basket type of girl. Taurus Venus and all. All that Neptune ugh.. But as I grow older and out of time (joking) I find this a bit unreasonable. Plus by now I've experienced all sorts of situations to know it's never so good that it can't get better with someone else and really, nobody is that irreplaceable. I think getting hung up on people really deprives us of worthy experiences. Sure, some people are really special, but with all those billions of people out there, there have to be MORE special people, MORE people with your kind of funky. So why get stuck on ONE single person??

Anyway, just ranting. This was this morning's epiphany. Hera wants to mingle, know MORE and MORE people. Eh.
Scary discovery for an afflicted Cap rising..


I agree with her Royal Arien majesty.

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posted August 18, 2013 03:28 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
but most people in my life come and go like seasons.
Just the fact of the matter

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posted August 18, 2013 03:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Hera:
wtf, every woman is replaceable but only "most" men are???? Sexist much?


Maybe that's his personal experience, he found all women and most men he dated replaceable. Maybe you'll find an irreplaceable man as he has one day yourself.

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posted August 18, 2013 03:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As for the actual question...for me I'm glad I experimented when I was younger, and that did sometimes mean being with multiple people (though never a true polyamorous relationship despite interest in trying one). Not so much today, I know what I want.

I have A LOT of Sag in my chart and need my freedom...but that's more about being allowed to conduct my affairs my own way and allowed to have outside interests, friends, etc, without being micromanaged or having to deal with constant jealousy or being too clingy (though I've learned to accept at least a little of each and with more grace than I did when I was younger).

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posted August 18, 2013 04:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Options are always open and abundant..

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Hera
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posted August 18, 2013 04:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hera     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lol Pix. Just sounded like he looked down on women. I wonder that way about Padre sometimes. He makes sure to always seem nice but there's the occasional Freudian slip.


I do hope to find that irreplaceable man one day! But until then, next please!

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posted August 18, 2013 04:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Btw, you might enjoy this book (and I've seen it as a library book if you don't mind getting it that way):
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ethical_Slut

This was the book that made me want to experiment with polyamory.

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posted August 18, 2013 04:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

I kept my options open. I was one of those people who like to sample a thousand of samples

I have that kind of “all or nothing” mentality when it comes to romantic relationships and I put everything on the line. That was why I felt that I should explore my wants and needs with different people before making a decision. Now that the decision has been made, I'm betting my life on it.

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posted August 18, 2013 04:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Ami Anne
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posted August 18, 2013 07:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't see Padre as being sexist, Hera. You seem very defensive lately. Are you going through a period where you are forcing yourself to speak up? If so, I understand and do that, too.

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posted August 18, 2013 07:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mockingbird     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Did you read what he wrote, Ami?

Do you have other reasoning for it?

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posted August 18, 2013 08:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, Hera, I was literally thinking about that same topic yesterday night.. synchronicity, much?


I agree with you.
Unfortunately, I find it hard to keep my options open the moment someone gets under my skin.
I try to think of different possibilities and not restrict myself to one person because I know things can get iffy real quick, but once my heart's in the equation, it's pretty much unmovable.
That sucks cause I tend to have a tunnel vision when it comes to stuff like that.

But I have the ability to rationalize my feelings and basically make them fade forcefully, if I focus my mind and thoughts in that direction.
It's not easy but possible.

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posted August 18, 2013 11:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Hera:
wtf, every woman is replaceable but only "most" men are???? Sexist much?


Think about it for a moment Hera, as a man, I view men from my pov and "know" how we are moreso than a women, from that pov I'd think some men would be irreplacable but they wind up getting replaced anyway.

For example, my neighbor has a host of issues, both mental and physical, she has a livein BF who takes care of virtually everything, yet she is going to give him the boot and just wants to live alone.

She has a blow and go(multiple DWI's), has not worked in 2 yrs, addicted to both booze and uses a ton of pot and literally has -0- means of support aside from her livein BF.

From my pov, he's irreplacable, if the situation were reversed, I'd say the same about her.
She has 2 teenaged children, no job, and is just going to dump him, imo for her he is irreplaceable, yet he will be replaced.

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posted August 18, 2013 11:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by mockingbird:
Did you read what he wrote, Ami?

Do you have other reasoning for it?


I was not trying to be sexist, not at all, I do have a very different pov from a woman's pov and that is the reason why I wrote what I wrote.

Granted I'm not running for public office so I'm free to hold whatever opinion I wish to hold with no apologies (this being a public forum there are rules both written and unwritten concerning decorum).

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posted August 18, 2013 11:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I like straight talk.

With all the political correctness about sexism, men have become wet noddles because they are afraid to offend women who will call them sexist over every little thing.

I look like a girl but think like a man

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posted August 18, 2013 11:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for somethingexcellent     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Padre: From my pov, he's irreplacable, if the situation were reversed, I'd say the same about her.

Ah, so then what you said was simply misleading.

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posted August 18, 2013 11:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Ah, so then what you said was simply misleading.

Perhaps, however it is undeniable that in society such a man would be looked down upon if the situation was reversed.

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posted August 18, 2013 11:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
lets just say this, nobody is getting loyalty from me unless they earn it.

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