posted August 29, 2013 08:27 PM            

How different was that energy or dynamic between the two of you?

In my experience the mental online connection can be very different when you meet someone in person and suddenly have their entire personality right there in front of you. It's amazing how different things can be. How much more you pick up on being in each other's presences, instead of just words on a screen or personalities coming out that way.

posted August 29, 2013 08:44 PM            

I thought I found my soul mate. I did not have much experience on the computer and did not know astrology.

Astrology would have saved me because he made horrible aspects to my Unaspected Venus. If anyone touches this with hard aspects, it is very hard for me.

Anyway, I met him and it was Urrrggggg.

I thought the computer translated to real life and it does not.

OTOH, my son met the real deal. I think she is his true soul mate and they met on the computer, so I don't know.

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posted August 29, 2013 08:46 PM            

Sun trine sun
Moon opp moon
Venus conjunct mars

I spotted her and she seemed really shy and meek (cancer asc)
As soon as she saw me she like ran and hugged me.
I was planning on surprise hugging her but I was like.... hmm better not.
We sat down in the corner and just started laughing for like 5 minutes.

posted August 29, 2013 09:01 PM            

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T: In my experience the mental online connection can be very different when you meet someone in person and suddenly have their entire personality right there in front of you.

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Oh yeah! Especially if their typing style doesn't really suit their personalities. My Libra bff's online friend came to visit once and she types perfect grammar and punctuation and everything, she's pretty unexpressive right? But then in real life, she's actually some little nerdy person! A little shy and awkward and quite meek (not talking down on her, I thought she was g).

Also she said she was 5ft11 but she wasn't even an two inches taller than my 5ft5 Libra friend...I mean c'mon! I put on my cowboy boots for extra height (I myself am 6ft) and you're actually short??

posted August 29, 2013 09:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:

I thought I found my soul mate. I did not have much experience on the computer and did not know astrology.

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Thanks for sharing. Been there myself. And i didnt learn the first time, nor the second time.

posted August 29, 2013 10:04 PM            

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Oh yeah! Especially if their typing style doesn't really suit their personalities. My Libra bff's online friend came to visit once and she types perfect grammar and punctuation and everything, she's pretty unexpressive right? But then in real life, she's actually some little nerdy person! A little shy and awkward and quite meek (not talking down on her, I thought she was g).

Also she said she was 5ft11 but she wasn't even an two inches taller than my 5ft5 Libra friend...I mean c'mon! I put on my cowboy boots for extra height (I myself am 6ft) and you're actually short??

sand is like that too...really silly and easy going typing, but actually kinda shut up and untalkative. Must be I guess with Scorpio AC conjunct Pluto - it's all in da eyes!

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This is so typical!

I wonder what kind of placements make that so. Like I know many people who don't spend much time chatting online at all, so would most likely never meet anyone this way. Not to mention they arent the best spellers in the world and don't have the patience for it and would rather be out and about talking with people face-to-face.

posted August 29, 2013 10:08 PM            

In my experiences we didnt want to wait very long. Nothing could get in the way of actually meeting each other in person. The first time, I payed for the dude's bus ticket and rented a cute cottage for a long weekend. It went sour from the get-go. But at least we made that step and found out sooner, rather than later...

posted August 29, 2013 10:08 PM            

I've had people love me or hate me, without ever having met me.

posted August 29, 2013 10:11 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
This is one thing that I worry about. Will I be too quiet, or too noisy? How different will my 'energy' be in person?

I've had people love me or hate me, without ever having met me.

Wait, are you talking about romantic relationships or friendships?

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Talking about romantic ones.

posted August 29, 2013 10:21 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Twice, I've flipped for someone long-distance. One disappeared on me, the other ended up screwing with my head.

I sort of have a crush on someone I've never met. I know him from another board.. but he has a girlfriend that he loves very much. I crushed on him before he ever met her, and *cried* the whole night after I found out about her. He's very kind to me, and we joke around here and there. But I don't " go there" because I would never go after another woman's man. Also, he has his life together, and I don't. I told Melody about him last year, just after I found out.

I'll edit this out later.

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Not to diminish your feelings or how genuine they are between each other, but i would be very wary about thinking anything could happen from that. I've had too many guy friends and know how they think. It's a lot different than us girls do. Don't waste your time. You deserve better.

posted August 29, 2013 10:23 PM            

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My sister met her husband online. I know a few other people who are very happy, too. But I would worry about being a disappointment, or being disappointed.

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Are they happy? or terribly thrilled to be together? It does happen, but is not the norm.

posted August 29, 2013 10:27 PM            

I'm not wasting my time on that guy. I know he's in love with his girlfriend, and there are ways in which we wouldn't be a good match. But he's a good guy. I've been just getting comfortable around men again - trying to get comfortable with them as friends, and I've been getting to know some good ones. But just as friends. I needed that, to remember that not all men are douches.

posted August 29, 2013 10:32 PM            

Someone I know has someone making excuses to a friend of mine (which is a red flag to me). A plane, train or bus ticket is not that expensive (If they dont have a vehicle or can't pay for gas money or live on another continent).

posted August 29, 2013 10:39 PM            

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How long would you wait before you met a "s.o." in person?

Someone I know has someone making excuses to a friend of mine (which is a red flag to me). A plane, train or bus ticket is not that expensive (If they dont have a vehicle or can't pay for gas money or live on another continent).

Would you keep dealing with excuses, even if you internet s.o. was only a day's drive away? Or if they refused to video chat with you and kept making excuses not to meet up with you? (I was discussing this with a girlfriend earlier...i'd hate to see her get hurt....

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