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asclibrasagsun
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posted October 27, 2013 04:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I finally figured out my issue…I guess

I was always wondering why and how people have so much fun with their "friends" because the thought of this never really excited me that much…

Of course I have had friends before and hung out in groups and such but for some reason I do not need this constant social interaction, do any of you feel the same way?

I realized that what I REALLY and TRULY want and crave is personal and sexual intimacy with the opposite sex…
That is what gets me excited the most.
A lot of times I find myself a bit bored because I am not hanging out with friends or trying to make new friends, then I realize that part of this reason is because I am not interested in having too many platonic friendships really…
Maybe I am just a young female whose hormones are raging but really all I want is to have a special and close intimate relationship … having those club friends is not really important
For me it isn't necessary nor important to go out to a club with some friends and dance…I'm just not into that, I am OK and alright hanging out by myself… I have LEARNED to accept myself for who I am and I like that.
I have my own interests, books to read, art to look at that I do not need the unnecessary friendships that so many people seem to have…
BASICALLY THE ONLY TIME I HAVE "FUN" IS WHEN I AM IN AN EMOTIONALLY CLOSE RELATIONSHIP (PREFERABLY WITH LOTS OF SEX) …
Is this crazy? Am I making sense here or not?
It just feels like there is something missing in my life and I have realized what it is…I haven't had a real relationship in a while and I just want that so bad…
I don't know, I started out with a point and not sure if I made it or not.
I do have a few friends I would like to hang out with occasionally but I am not the type of person that just cannot live without them…

I don't know what the point of this was, I needed to vent.
I'm a young person, I'm developing, Don't judge.

Thanks and don't quote

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I'm so cappy
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posted October 27, 2013 04:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't see anything strange about that. You're probably introverted.
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asclibrasagsun
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posted October 27, 2013 04:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I'm so cappy
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posted October 27, 2013 04:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Whatever.

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asclibrasagsun
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posted October 27, 2013 04:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It isn't that it is creepy it is that I don't like my personal info. being discussed like that

Sorry I hope I didn't offend you but do you mind deleting your comments or editing them?

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I'm so cappy
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posted October 27, 2013 04:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sorry, I thought you wouldn't mind. Back on topic, don't worry, you're good

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PixieJane
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posted October 27, 2013 05:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have emotionally close relationships with close friends. It sounds to me that you do not and that you only have acquaintances.

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asclibrasagsun
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posted October 27, 2013 05:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks!

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asclibrasagsun
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posted October 27, 2013 05:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for asclibrasagsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I have emotionally close relationships with close friends. It sounds to me that you do not and that you only have acquaintances.

Partially true, I have maybe 4-5 close friends the rest are all acquaintances...

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PixieJane
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posted October 27, 2013 05:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My BFF and I are like soul mates...similar enough to get each other while different enough to also be intriguing, and we just fit so well together. Unfortunately we're both female and she's completely straight so being lovers is out. Even she (who just can't seem to ever make a relationship ever work with a man) wishes that wasn't the case as we're just so perfect together. So our love will be platonic to the end of our days.

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Swift Freeze
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posted October 30, 2013 12:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Swift Freeze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm pretty similar, I'm comfortable with who I am, and who I am not. I know a fair number of people, but in terms of spending quality time with someone and feeling emotionally fulfilled. There are probably only 3-5 people who I would feel that way with.

I'm sure everyone is different, but I don't believe I am deeply compatible with everyone I know. For example one of my friends just doesn't understand my desire for a deeply close emotional and intimate relationship. I feel like that detracts from our relationship a little because it is something we are fundamentally different on. We're still good friends but if I need to talk emotionally about something like this. I might as well talk to myself, because they are just not interested, and being emotionally dismissed like that is painful for me.

Some people are fulfilled with a large number of friendships, others are fulfilled with a very small number of deeply intimate friendships/relationships. Others are fulfilled by career prospects and sorting their life out. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want. I would very much like to find someone compatible with which we can explore the world and ourselves and grow as people together. Discover what makes us happy what our dreams are and how we can realise them. Whether or not it works out in the long run, although I wish they do each time.

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Randall
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posted November 04, 2013 07:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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DeepFreeze
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posted November 05, 2013 01:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for DeepFreeze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sounds as if I could have written it myself. You're not alone.

Do you have "Scorpio/Plutonic energy" in your chart? (I know this is Sweet Peas)

I feel exactly the same.

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VirGuy
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posted November 11, 2013 01:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for VirGuy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The OP said "don't quote" her, so I won't, but basically I am EXACTLY the same... Except I'm male and 39 years old. I've ALWAYS been this way. You don't grow out of it, nor should you. It's just the way you are. Allow yourself to become comfortable in your own skin and be patient while the party animals get bored of you and move on. Once they've gone their noise will no longer be obscuring your view of the quality.

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
You're probably introverted.

I am definitely introverted. I saw this today, which describes me almost perfectly...
http://themetapicture.com/how-to-interact-with-the-introverted/

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Do you have "Scorpio/Plutonic energy" in your chart? (I know this is Sweet Peas)


I know the question isn't directed at me, but I feel it's worth mentioning that I have a Scorpio Moon and Mars conjunct Pluto, which I feel play a big part in defining my persona.

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