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Topic: Girls at a Bar
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Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2642 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 11:37 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hbeEuYAZFL4 This is soo true, and very funny. She is really quick with the mace, reminds me of Sharon Stone from the Quick and the Dead IP: Logged |
PixieJane Moderator Posts: 3254 From: CA Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 19, 2013 07:16 PM
I've seen very little of that (unless you presume it's greatly exaggerated of some women), though it's a common claim by so-called "nice guys" as described here:ETA: because of the filter I can't post the addy here so search HBI what's wrong with nice guys and click on the "Nice Guys = BLEAH" page. It starts off like this: quote: All too often we hear self-professed "Nice Guys" complaining about why they can't get a date, and whining that women just want to date jerks, etc. etc. The truth of the matter is that there are genuinely caring, compassionate, decent, fun guys out there who have NO TROUBLE meeting people, getting dates, and having relationships.Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist that women don't want them because they are "too Nice". These people who call themselves "Nice Guys" can't see that THEIR OWN behavior is the problem. That behavior either drives women away or attracts the WORST kind of predator - one who is manipulative and self-serving. Whether it is targeting women who are troubled to begin with, setting themselves up to be taken advantage of, or acting in a manipulative, patronizing or obsequious fashion, these guys sabotage themselves and often blame "all women" for their misfortunes. This section is devoted to the guys who suffer from that self-professed "Nice Guy" affliction. Here is the place to find out why YOUR behavior isn't as "Nice" as you think it is...
Going to the homepage then has more on how both men and women can be emotional children with lots of sour grapes. IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2642 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 07:29 PM
For myself, I posted that up b/c it is pretty much what I see in most of the bars I visit(ed).Both men are exaggerations of course, a guy in a hoodie with bad hair needing a shave probably will get shot down, the good looking guy who is creepy (objectively) will usually have far more positive attention from females. That said, Nice Guy who is not all that attractive USUALLY hugs the wall and drinks themselves into oblivion THEN approaches women w/preidctable results. Good looking guy wacked out of his mind on coke and booze will simply attract more positive attention with a "he's so intense!" Pretty much whatever Mr Good Looking does is forgiven or laughed off, other guy will not get the time of day. For myself, I take no sides in all of that stuff, think Nice Guy feels left out w/o putting in the work, think the women go for good looks to quickly, and think the good looking guy feels entitled and is usually right. That is why the video struck me as funny as it dovetails with what I've actually seen go down. I've read HBI before, and have to agree with their points, it is what I've seen happen. Especially the underhanded "nice guys", that is sooo true "Can I buy you a drink?" "So where are you from?" Blah blah blah Not saying such small talk is superfluous, it is more the nice guy gives off a vibe that is palpable, they are not fooling anyone I say that b/c at one point, I was a 'nice guy", never realized it, and had success (of sorts) from it. Took a messy breakup or 3 for it to dawn on me what I had been doing. IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 2846 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 08:05 PM
I never have casual sex or date people or meet people in bars - so as a demisexual I should probably stay out of this thread lol But I did want to say - the whole nice guy/bad boy thing is meaningless - since every human being has good and bad points. I generally don't like the insane emphasis on sex in our society - and the way people keep defining themselves based on the sexual role they feel they play. I feel like asking: Do you even know who you are - outside your va-jay-jay and pee pee? Like seriously - WHO are you? LoL IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 2846 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 08:08 PM
quote: I was a 'nice guy"
.. Ok and so now.. you're.. not a nice guy.. *shrug* But Padre --- WHO are you really? IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2642 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 08:31 PM
quote: Originally posted by Odette: .. Ok and so now.. you're.. not a nice guy.. *shrug*But Padre --- WHO are you [b]really? [/B]
I'm a man Odette, it is not simply encapsulated into a paragraph. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7751 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 09:41 PM
This is funny because its so true. it is exaggerated though, I haven't seen a guy get maced lmao. However that sort of thing plays out all the time and not just in bars, it happens everywhere.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 49803 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 19, 2013 09:43 PM
va-jay-jay and pee pee? ------------------ Want To Ask Any Question About Bible Prophecy? Go For it. It is Free, of course. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2642 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 09:47 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: This is funny because its so true. it is exaggerated though, I haven't seen a guy get maced lmao. However that sort of thing plays out all the time and not just in bars, it happens everywhere.
Yep, what would be more true is if the hoodie guy was dressed better, and then blown off. Good looking guys can literally say pretty much whatever they want...no problem Will be completely ignored..smile..eyes glaze over..at that point if one does not know what is up then good luck to you I say that b/c I've seen it, this is where the female brain fails them, good looking guy simply pumps them full of endorphins and they are not as critical as they usually can be. And...here it comes IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 7104 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 09:52 PM
quote: Originally posted by Odette: Do you even know who you are - outside your va-jay-jay and pee pee? Like seriously - WHO are you? LoL
WHAAA.. I've actually asked someone that before, it's like you quoted my mind.. IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2642 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 09:58 PM
Y'all also forget to add to"va jay jay and pee pee" "Twins" IDK why it is, most women name their **** Not sure why that is, like women giving their cars pet names..it's just one of those things IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 7751 From: tennessee Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 10:05 PM
quote: Originally posted by Padre35: Yep, what would be more true is if the hoodie guy was dressed better, and then blown off.Good looking guys can literally say pretty much whatever they want...no problem Will be completely ignored..smile..eyes glaze over..at that point if one does not know what is up then good luck to you I say that b/c I've seen it, this is where the female brain fails them, good looking guy simply pumps them full of endorphins and they are not as critical as they usually can be. And...here it comes
I have a friend who gets away with murder.. He can literally invade women's personal space and bluntly proposition them and they think its cute and funny. If I were to behave like him I would be called a creep and cussed out. This sort of thing used to make me resent women but now I don't care and find it all funny.
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Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2642 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 10:15 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: [QUOTE]Originally posted by Padre35: [b] Yep, what would be more true is if the hoodie guy was dressed better, and then blown off.Good looking guys can literally say pretty much whatever they want...no problem Will be completely ignored..smile..eyes glaze over..at that point if one does not know what is up then good luck to you I say that b/c I've seen it, this is where the female brain fails them, good looking guy simply pumps them full of endorphins and they are not as critical as they usually can be. And...here it comes
I have a friend who gets away with murder.. He can literally invade women's personal space and bluntly proposition them and they think its cute and funny. If I were to behave like him I would be called a creep and cussed out. This sort of thing used to make me resent women but now I don't care and find it all funny.[/B][/QUOTE]I know AG, I can do that sort of stuff as well, but rarely do so. As I've said, eyes glaze over, endorphins, "you are soo smart!" i'm far far more into the convo part of going out, guess me weakness is just liking to be around people and accepting them just as they are and let's have a good time. Odd thing is, that is such an odd angle that it also means "he's hard to figure out" When it becomes weird is women you've shown -0- interest in announce "I've got a boyfriend!" directly Know why that is said, it still strikes me as odd. Scorpio+ Saggie is no picnic IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 7104 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 10:35 PM
How romantic some drunk guy comes up to you at a bar..WOWWWWW.... Obviously if they want to hook up with someone it would be the better specimen... How many of you approach the plain jane at a club or bar...
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Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2642 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 10:40 PM
quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: How romantic some drunk guy comes up to you at a bar..WOWWWWW.... Obviously if they want to hook up with someone it would be the better specimen... How many of you approach the plain jane at a club or bar...
Me...as long as they are interesting when I talk with them Made many many lesbian and gay friends this way IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 7104 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 10:42 PM
Oh yeah Girls night at a bar means=Safety in numbers, brb hot guy K have fun text me when you're done!IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2642 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted November 19, 2013 10:46 PM
quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: Oh yeah Girls night at a bar means=Safety in numbers, brb hot guy K have fun text me when you're done!
May surprise you Kero, I know foodies, basically Girls Night Out=no tips Bachelorette Parties even worse From my pov, why even bother IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 2846 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted November 20, 2013 01:28 AM
Padre and Aqua Guy - If you relax more, maybe do some yoga/meditation.. and you generally engage in hobbies and enjoyable things that make you happy in life - you will have a more positive vibration - and you'll attract women who are your type and who love you as you are. I am worried that -- Aqua Guy, you are too depressed... and Padre you are too feisty.. about this kind of topic. It always comes up on here - and your energy is never happy. Sex is JUST sex. You don't need to blow it's importance out of proportion. We are all animals. Sex is not rocket science. It needn't preoccupy you both to this extent - all the time - and it needn't be so complicated. Go with the flow, not against it! IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 2846 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted November 20, 2013 01:29 AM
Kero - IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 7104 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted November 20, 2013 01:35 AM
Hmm well bars aren't really my scene...I went like once or twice and idk.. too intimate for me. At least at clubs you kinda get lost in the sea of people. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 2212 From: 👾🔮The Moon Registered: Jul 2013
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posted November 20, 2013 01:35 AM
quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: Hmm well bars aren't really my scene...I went like once or twice and idk.. too intimate for me. At least at clubs you kinda get lost in the sea of people.
I like em all! As long as I'm able to have a good time I don't care! Lol IP: Logged |
Odette Knowflake Posts: 2846 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted November 20, 2013 01:43 AM
^ That's very Libran IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 Knowflake Posts: 2212 From: 👾🔮The Moon Registered: Jul 2013
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posted November 20, 2013 01:44 AM
quote: Originally posted by Odette: ^ That's very Libran
I'm very Libran dear lmao IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 7104 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted November 20, 2013 01:47 AM
yeah I don't like random small talk and I'm not really all that flirty so I have a hard time at places like that.I just like going on road trips and just hanging out with my friends. I'm not into club hopping anymore. But I'm guessing that's more of your scene, more power to you, and you don't to justify why you like certain things lol IP: Logged |
Padre35 Knowflake Posts: 2642 From: Asheville, NC, US Registered: Jul 2012
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posted November 20, 2013 01:49 AM
quote: Originally posted by Odette: Padre and Aqua Guy - If you relax more, maybe do some yoga/meditation.. and you generally engage in hobbies and enjoyable things that make you happy in life - you will have a more positive vibration - and you'll attract women who are your type and who love you as you are. I am worried that -- Aqua Guy, you are too depressed... and Padre you are too feisty.. about this kind of topic. It always comes up on here - and your energy is never happy. Sex is JUST sex. You don't need to blow it's importance out of proportion. We are all animals. Sex is not rocket science. It needn't preoccupy you both to this extent - all the time - and it needn't be so complicated. Go with the flow, not against it!
Hehehe...I always have a great time. Keep in mind Odette, all that Scorpio in my chart means I FEEL how things are going My thing is not a lack of attention, it is more that I have no idea where it is coming from..ie..."can I trust them"? Usually..as I've said...I keep to myself the annoying thing is ice blue eyes and intensity, just get done studying whatever it is..look up with them and it's: "Does he want to sleep with me, or kill me"? Reality is..digesting information. Been told I have the "dad" look, like look her in the eye, wrinkle my eyebrow and it's like "what?!?! why are you looking at me like that" And as if I don't have hobbies, autodidact here, from cooking to languages to whatever That does not boil down to a club Can compete there, why bother tho? My interest is chatting with people about why you should not put LSD in tin foil..and being told by a clear eyed young one that she wrote a paper on it To me, that is why I go out IP: Logged |