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Ami Anne
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posted November 26, 2013 11:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

I just do it by showing love to that person. I have to put my ego aside and just let my spirit, which is filled with God's love, shine through.

Some people will respond and these people will turn out to be the sweetest friends, sometimes.

With some people, it is not worth it to try with because their hatred, denial and /or jealousy is too great.

It is sweet when an enemy becomes a friend, though

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teasel
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posted November 26, 2013 01:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've had this happen before, although I didn't think of them as enemies, which made it easier. Now? I don't have the energy or the inclination to do that. I feel like they're telling me to jump, and I'm asking them, "How high?" Nope.

I would love to be able to be genuinely sweet to them, but that's because it would mean that a) their attitudes aren't getting to me, which would also lead to b) them either having to let it go, or feeling the negative effects that they wanted *me* to feel, because they aren't having the desired effect. It hardly ever happens that I run across anyone like that now - so many people are just plain good people. Even those I no longer get along with, are at least good to others.

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Ami Anne
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posted November 26, 2013 02:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am in a new stage. I realized I can defend myself. Hence, I don't need to stand up and do it, unless someone won't lay off me.

I feel I managed to get some important self defense tools

Now, I can move from a defensive posture to a more loving one.

I had a few people just attack me and I was very calm and nice but strong. This was my goal.

PS Don't anyone test me, lest I prove I didn't do any of it

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Ellynlvx
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posted November 26, 2013 02:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Okay, Ami; I will be your friend, but you have to quit trying to snatch my married boyfriends first.

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posted November 26, 2013 02:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I was just thinking to myself, that I prefer it when I don't feel the need to respond to someone, and defend myself. There is a strength there, although it wavers depending on the person. You just reach a point where you realize there's no need to defend - I'm not always there, but it feels so good when I am.

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posted November 26, 2013 02:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
Okay, Ami; I will be your friend, but you have to quit trying to snatch my married boyfriends first.


No one can have him. He HAS a woman

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posted November 26, 2013 02:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by teasel:
I was just thinking to myself, that I prefer it when I don't feel the need to respond to someone, and defend myself. There is a strength there, although it wavers depending on the person. You just reach a point where you realize there's no need to defend - I'm not always there, but it feels so good when I am.

Yes, there is an inherent strength in that. Randall taught me this and I will be forever grateful for that lesson.

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posted November 26, 2013 02:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Darn, Stinkin' Leo Model Wives...


Grumble, grumble, grouch.

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Ami Anne
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posted November 26, 2013 03:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
Darn, Stinkin' Leo Model Wives...


Grumble, grumble, grouch.


I never had any interest other than friendship. Just to set the record straight

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posted November 26, 2013 03:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If you say so...

By the way, how did it go with your son's girl?

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posted November 26, 2013 03:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ami?

I wasn't being catty, I really wanted to know.

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Ami Anne
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posted November 26, 2013 03:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
Ami?

I wasn't being catty, I really wanted to know.


I had no interest, ever, in anything other than a friendship.


I value the friendship a great deal.

I have a great deal of respect for this person but it was never more.

That is cool that you asked but I just wanted to clarify lol

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posted November 26, 2013 03:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
If you say so...

By the way, how did it go with your son's girl?



This girl is totally lovely. She is a true gem!

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posted November 26, 2013 03:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
And all that worrying!

Silly Ami.

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Ami Anne
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posted November 26, 2013 05:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
And all that worrying!

Silly Ami.


Well, there are certain squares that I wish were not squares and her Mar conj my Moon does not seem so good but overall, it feels really nice, so I am gonna go with it and be happy.

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posted November 26, 2013 05:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, I wish you the best, cause you deserve it, Ami.

I really love you, you know.

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Ami Anne
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posted November 26, 2013 06:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you, Ellyn!

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posted November 27, 2013 09:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LovelyAries86     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by teasel:
I was just thinking to myself, that I prefer it when I don't feel the need to respond to someone, and defend myself. There is a strength there, although it wavers depending on the person.

There is definitely a *strength* in tnat. Agreed.

I'm not talking about being bullied, that's different. But the ability to truly NOT give a sh*t is *exactly* what I strive for.

With some people...it truly hurts their feelings the most when you IGNORE them - when they are basically irrelevant in your eyes! With other people, you just have to verbally rip them a new a**hole for them to "get it" and they'll back off of you and give you your respect in the end.

You just have to know your audience.

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posted November 27, 2013 11:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LovelyAries86     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:


It is sweet when an enemy becomes a friend, though


It is sweet indeed. And forever entertaining! LOL.

It's usually a random "make-up" for me.

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posted November 27, 2013 11:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What's a nake-up?

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posted November 27, 2013 01:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Karka's back!

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Ami Anne
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posted November 27, 2013 01:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think I just made another enemy a friend, actually two

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posted November 27, 2013 01:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I think I just made another enemy a friend, actually two


Good for you. I still don't have the inclination, but I'm new to feeling like I actually have enemies.

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posted November 27, 2013 07:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by teasel:
Good for you. I still don't have the inclination, but I'm new to feeling like I actually have enemies.

Same here, I'm generally so laid back and easy going that I feel like I don't have enemies per se...until they show me otherwise.

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posted November 27, 2013 07:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know what you mean.

Libra's are mostly like that, though...

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