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Topic: I don't get it.
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Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 9256
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted March 07, 2014 09:28 AM
  
It seems like in the west we put emotions on a pedastal and look down at people who are more emotionally controlled for not being empathetic enough.idc I find it to be a gift because I don't make a fool of if myself. Cause I swear the amount of people coming into our intern to work after a breakup was crazy. Like why do you even come to work if you are unable to work. Just stay home and let it all out. People are so selfish like that. Not to mention they bring everyone else down. IP: Logged |
12muddy
Knowflake Posts: 1466
From:
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted March 07, 2014 10:29 AM
It seems to me that in the west, there is a view that if one express one's emotions/feelings, then one will have a more balanced emotional life. When people have troubles, generally I see that they're encouraged to "share".I feel similar about people who bring their troubles to work. I'm all for expressing feelings, but yeah there is a place n time for everything. Some people just go a bit too far. IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2620
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted March 07, 2014 10:35 AM
I always find that weird as well, even though I'm a Pisces. I would never bring my emotional upheavals into my work place. If it's something really major, sometimes it can't really be helped, but I've always been pretty tight-lipped and low-key about it. There was one occasion, which was a major thing, when I brought it up at work to a couple of people, but it's not like I was incapable of working, or crying or anything. That was also during my Saturn Return, which just sucked in general. I've been preoccupied, sure. But it never stopped me from doing my job. Maybe it's Saturn trine my Sun or something, I don't know. But I hate it when people I don't know (or even people I do know well) see me feeling vulnerable. And if they do, then I have to fight the feeling of awkwardness that I get. But I don't think that emotions are really glorified in our society. I find the opposite to be true, honestly. I feel that people are often expected to just carry out their jobs like robots, without taking into account that people have lives outside of work. I suppose it depends on what you're doing... In the greater scheme, I think it's a toss up depending on where you live. Seattleites are notoriously like an Aquarius stereotype, haha.
We care, but from a distance. Don't try to get up close and personal or anything. I prefer it that way.  IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2620
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
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posted March 07, 2014 10:37 AM
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Originally posted by 12muddy:
It seems to me that in the west, there is a view that if one express one's emotions/feelings, then one will have a more balanced emotional life. When people have troubles, generally I see that they're encouraged to "share".I feel similar about people who bring their troubles to work. I'm all for expressing feelings, but yeah there is a place n time for everything. Some people just go a bit too far.
I suppose I can see that aspect of it. I mean, repressing feelings isn't healthy by any means. But yeah, don't bring them to work or random acquaintances. I suppose if a person really needs to reach out to others, then they should absolutely do so, but yeah...there are people who are appropriate to do that with, or people who are more open to offering a shoulder to lean on.
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Ellynlvx
Moderator Posts: 5928
From: Mountain Gate
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted March 07, 2014 11:00 AM
I don't know, I think I would go to work following a break-up, because that is how I would heal best. By throwing myself into my work.(Getting a kitty helps.) But then, I wouldn't mention my private life at work, I'm pretty stoic about that. I compartmentalize, I suppose; but Business is Business. I guess I agree with you; Kerosene, because I am a bit intolerant of emotions expressed to the detriment of the workplace ethic. You want things to succeed, not be dragged down to a five-year-old level. IP: Logged |
Dancing Maenad
Newflake Posts: 11
From: The Harvest
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted March 07, 2014 04:24 PM
I took the first day off to cool off and cry until I was out. Next day at work I kept to myself though I suppose it was obvious I was upset. It was better to go to work and not think about it than stay home and obsess about it.. I agree that if you're not fully up to it you should take the day off, especially if potential errors in your work could be catastrophic. IP: Logged | |
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