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Topic: Crash course, Granny passing, explain it
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Padre35
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From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted March 20, 2014 12:02 AM
  
My mother is more then likely leaving this plain.I've known it will happen on any given day for 5 yrs, it always was a possibility, perhaps a likelihood. My niece however, is very very close to her and she is very young as in 13 yrs old young. My niece has very little family love in her life, my mother's passing is something she knows very little about. How do I explain this to my niece? When by myself and the hospice team etc was around me..I was fine..family however, is a different thing as it matters. When I say matters, amongst adults, normally it is booze and food and reminescing, with a teen, have -0- idea..and quoting Scripture is not exactly comforting Could use some help here IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted March 20, 2014 12:07 AM
How comfortable is your niece with the subject of sickness and death? I'm sorry to hear about your mother. Sorry can't think of anything. When I was a teen we thought my father was going to die but yeah he didn't.
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Barbiegirl19
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From: Pluto with DeepFreeze
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posted March 20, 2014 12:09 AM
With your mother's passing? Or something else? If it's her passing you could just simply tell her that it's just apart of how we're made and that one day we all go to a better place than here. If you're not too big into heaven or believing there is one, you could just leave it there and say you don't know where exactly but that it has to be better than here. I dunno I'm stumped too lol. I'm so sorry to hear about her passing. I can't even imagine. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted March 20, 2014 12:15 AM
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Originally posted by 12muddy:
How comfortable is your niece with the subject of sickness and death? I'm sorry to hear about your mother. Sorry can't think of anything. When I was a teen we thought my father was going to die but yeah he didn't.
She's not, a sort of Libra who puts up walls who my Mom was one of the few who she really got along with at all. And, not sure how much one has seen death 12 muddy, once you see it, you know it. What I maxima do not want is this to spin her grand daughter into a bad place, and when things happen, words and actions matter soo very much. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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From: Asheville, NC, US
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posted March 20, 2014 12:24 AM
It's not about me BBG, it is more about listening to ideas how I can ease her passing for my Niece.Is there anything that I can say or do to help her out? -a dinner
-giving a piece of jewelry that "she'd her to have?
-a hug
-holding her hand (which I'll do anyway) Do not know IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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From: Pluto with DeepFreeze
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posted March 20, 2014 12:32 AM
You could reassure her that she's in a better place and that she wouldn't want her hurting. You could do all of those things if you wanted. Just support her and be there for her. That really helps a lot. Make her laugh by sharing good memories of your mom with her. No sadness.  IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 8827
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted March 20, 2014 12:36 AM
My Mamaw died when I was 13 so I can relate. Its never easy to lose a loved one but young people are tough and can easily bounce back from depression. The best thing you can do is support her the best you can, just be there for her. Maybe you could spend time with her and do an activity she likes to do.IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted March 20, 2014 12:36 AM
I think about how we've enriched each others lives. The smiles and laughter that we have given each other. Too have been a part of their life was a blessing.
I believe... The focus shouldn't be on "the end" but on the life. The services are typically called "a celebration of life" and that's exactly how it should be. I think that's something to tell her. Idk... lol
That's what I do! IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 3275
From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted March 20, 2014 12:43 AM
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I think about how we've enriched each others lives. The smiles and laughter that we have given each other. Too have been a part of their life was a blessing.
I believe... The focus shouldn't be on "the end" but on the life. The services are typically called "a celebration of life" and that's exactly how it should be. I think that's something to tell her. Idk... lol
That's what I do!
My Mother wanted no service, no eulogy, she was very much a White Light/All is One person Which is why food and rememberance is more then likely called for now..still will not prepare her for the shock of seeing what is going on IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted March 20, 2014 12:55 AM
I'm thinking that telling her now would be an option. It'll give her some time to prepare.And I think that having someone who shares the same grief by her side, someone who she thinks can "understands" would help too.
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Lexxigramer
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From: The Etheric Realms...Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat...& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted March 20, 2014 06:18 PM
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Originally posted by 12muddy:
I'm thinking that telling her now would be an option. It'll give her some time to prepare.And I think that having someone who shares the same grief by her side, someone who she thinks can "understands" would help too.
I agree.
She must also have a clue that her grandmother is nearing the end of her life.
Please do not let her keep any delusion that your mom is not very ill.
Keeping it all from her to protect her will backfire sooner or later.
She is young but not that young.
Good luck and my sympathies.  IP: Logged |
Ellynlvx
Knowflake Posts: 6388
From: Mountain Gate
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted March 20, 2014 07:56 PM
This does not sound easy.I truly feel for you both with this one. Libras are very reactive, and if they were close... I would think that she will feel the Presence around her for a bit, and that might help to comfort her. I made the mistake of keeping it from my daughter, and the backlash was horrible when it came, still feel the effects today. Who is going to be taking care of her, or does she live with someone of a supportive nature? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 53445
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 20, 2014 09:53 PM
Love you, Padre, Brother ------------------
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Padre35
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posted March 20, 2014 10:55 PM
Was orignally supposed to go with them after work, they live out of town and I had to work late.So they went by themselves and she got really upset over it, then curious, then a little angry at her Dad (my brother) over some things even though he was not there. Thanks for the support everyone IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted March 20, 2014 11:19 PM
Sorry to hear that you are losing your mom. I couldn't imagine anything that would be tougher than that.IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted March 21, 2014 12:38 AM
She has been through a lot AG, everything from heart attacks, to diabetes, to strokes to bone cancer among other things.And she may yet recover, when I went to see her, she was vegetative, when she saw her grand daughter she did somewhat recognize her with her eyes at least..from what I hear Don't let the whole Pisces hippy flippy stuff fool anyone, they are made of steel under all of the impulsiveness IP: Logged |
Ellynlvx
Knowflake Posts: 6388
From: Mountain Gate
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posted March 21, 2014 07:13 AM
You come from good stock.IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 53445
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 21, 2014 04:41 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Padre35:
She has been through a lot AG, everything from heart attacks, to diabetes, to strokes to bone cancer among other things.And she may yet recover, when I went to see her, she was vegetative, when she saw her grand daughter she did somewhat recognize her with her eyes at least..from what I hear Don't let the whole Pisces hippy flippy stuff fool anyone, they are made of steel under all of the impulsiveness
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted March 22, 2014 01:59 PM
What is going on today, Padre dear?------------------
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Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 3275
From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
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posted March 22, 2014 11:16 PM
Mostly nothing, very mundane, now things will run their medical, rather than spiritual courseIP: Logged |
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