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From: los angeles, ca, USA
Registered: Jun 2012

posted April 27, 2014 12:50 PM            

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Your VERY good friend tells you s/he has MAYBE developed feelings for another friend. The moment this sinks in your stomach is in serious panic knots!!

How do you really know if YOU have more than friendly feelings for your friend or just afraid of losing him/her as a friend?

I feel as if I just got slapped in the face and then kicked in belly..

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From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012

posted April 27, 2014 01:13 PM            

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It's always been there in this case one sided.

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From: los angeles, ca, USA
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posted April 27, 2014 03:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
It's always been there in this case one sided.

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So I have always had feelings?

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From: Uranus
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posted April 28, 2014 02:15 PM            

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I think it is more about losing the person than it is about love if you didn't notice it until now. But what do I know, I've never experienced it. I usually know within a couple of minutes if I'm interested in someone, and I don't really look back. So to me it makes sense that the idea of losing this person would make you panic and try to hold on because you are confused about your role in this person's life. If you feel insecure about the friendship and the other person's loyalty this could happen.

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posted April 28, 2014 06:01 PM            

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I don't think there's any way to generalize. You just have to wing it.

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From: Mercury
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posted April 28, 2014 06:01 PM            

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Wait so who likes who?

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From: Asheville, NC, US
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posted April 28, 2014 10:30 PM            

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Well Charlie, the dirty lil secret is, friends, opposite sex friends, BOTH look at each other as potential lovers

What u are feeling is natural, the real question is, pushing that feeling worth ruining the friendship?

IME it really is not, a dalliance is fun of course, the way it works is then things do get weird

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