posted May 01, 2014 09:59 AM            

Thank you in advance for participating in this mini-survey!

posted May 01, 2014 10:55 AM            

I tried Match and eHarmony. Both are paid sites. Nothing ever came of eHarmony. I felt like they filtered way too much.

I liked that with Match I was able to communicate with men online first. If they were pushy right away I knew to cut them off. I talked to one gentleman online for about three weeks. He made me laugh and was smart so I went on a date with him over 7 years ago. He is my husband now

posted May 01, 2014 10:56 AM              

Uhm it deff works thou... for Rebounds and getting laid.

Well i didn't get laid because well It was a bad night..
I figure my date frequently goes on dating sites for that reason.

I will say now with my experience and what I got out of it is two people browsing, you meet up with a lot of people etc.
Personally I don't have patience to waist evenings with complete duds.
Plus Im too nice to just walk away, I'd probably try and become their friends which again a waste if time and effort.

So it's not my thing, I like meeting someone at random situations and it's like gravity pulls you two together..
Makes it feel fated and more worthwhile even though it can be fleeting.

But by all means I think you should try it at least once because it's so accessible maybe you might find it stimulating if you're going through a phase.

posted May 01, 2014 04:54 PM            

That reminds me this, BASED ON A TRUE STORY (it really is!):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=clu5uc-bcJ0

I think it's all worth watching but the story begins at 1:30

posted May 01, 2014 05:25 PM            

Start a dating site profile as a woman and see WHY so many women think that some guys can be creepy and rude.

posted May 01, 2014 05:50 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonWitch:
Try another experiment -

Start a dating site profile as a woman and see WHY so many women think that some guys can be creepy and rude.

http://metro.c o.uk/2014/01/14/man-sets-up-fake-online-dating-profile-pretending-to-be-a-woman-but-quits-two-hours-later-due-to-harassment-and-hostility-4262185/

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posted May 01, 2014 06:01 PM            

quote:

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Originally posted by MoonWitch:
Try another experiment -

Start a dating site profile as a woman and see WHY so many women think that some guys can be creepy and rude.

http://metro.c o.uk/2014/01/14/man-sets-up-fake-online-dating-profile-pretending-to-be-a-woman-but-quits-two-hours-later-due-to-harassment-and-hostility-4262185/

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posted May 01, 2014 06:29 PM            

I used OkCupid and it was free but you could pay to have special perks like viewing peoples pages without them knowing and being able to boost your chances of popping up in search results.

My experience? I liked it alot and technically my account still exists (disabled and inactive atm) but once I'm ready to hit the dating scene again I'm sure I'll be using it another time.

What I liked about it?
- being able to read peoples profiles. Some were funny, some creative, some boring, and some weird but it helped with -somewhat- getting a feel for a person before messaging them.

- The match system (with percentage categories of Match% Friend% and Enemy%)

- The questionnaire they provide (helps with calculating match percentages based off of common answered questions)

What I disliked?
- The match system if someone barely answered any questions or if they bs'd the questions, etc. (but at the same time after talking to a few guys with high Enemy%, it turned out to be accurate and I ended up not liking the person)

-People knowing when you creep on their profiles if you don't pay to keep it hidden

What kind of people did I meet?
Well, most were pretty ok. I had 6 dates total within a 2-3 month span of being on there. At the time, I wanted something that could lead to long term so I did a lot of vetting and filtering of dudes who just wanted a quick lay. I did fine but I didn't really meet anyone that piqued my interest (ok except one but that's just yeah.. another story).

There were some grade A weirdos though, I definitely had my share of really old guys asking if I wanted a sugar daddy, or if I wanted to watch them play with their weenis via video chat and I even had one offer to be my sex slave

Did it serve it's purpose?
I guess I'd say yes. I mainly needed the dating experience and I definitely got that as well as getting more insight into how to vet and filter a bit better if I want something that could be long-term. Also a bonus in helping you become less awkward on dates after you've been on a few (though some still are hit or miss). I don't regret my time on there at all and I'd definitely recommend it to others.

Advantages:
In my opinion, if you know what you want as far as a relationship then I say go for it because there's really nothing to lose if you're serious about it. Even if you prefer meeting dates locally offline, having an online profile is still a way to broaden your net and increase your chances of finding someone. The key is definitely patience though, don't expect to go on and meet someone right away (I'll admit that this was one of my naive mistakes), it could take a while.

posted May 01, 2014 07:46 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
^dont recall ever saying any of that but ok.

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posted May 01, 2014 09:37 PM            

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posted May 01, 2014 11:10 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonWitch:
ok, I give up aquaguy. I give up before I drive myself crazy.

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Most of us have been there, MoonWitch. It's like Lindaland initiation to try and help aquaguy and then realize that it's not worth the effort.

Anyway, thanks for the link I hadn't seen it before.

On Topic:

posted May 02, 2014 12:05 AM            

But:
1. They post ridiculously looking pictures, very unflattering and/or unnatural, pretending to be bored etc. There are instructions on these sites about how your picture should look like, just friggin read them. Other dudes simply don't have pictures, those are ignored from the start, or put up fake ones.

2. They don't complete their profile. Yeah, it's very hard to describe yourself in more than 3 monosyllabic words, or your partner. And I'm supposed to fall head over heals for that?! They leave the fields for interests and the like empty. I am going to assume you're a little dull and don't have any. Again, it's a pass.

3. Those who DO describe themselves, generally make a poor job at it. Bad grammar and spelling (most browsers have spell check, friggin use it), unrealistic demands and expectations and generally give the impression that they are not serious about finding someone and are just trying their luck for fun. Most would even admit, like actually write the words "I do not know what I'm looking for" - well, don't get angry when you don't find it then. I'm also put off when I read they have not decided if they want kids or not, or want to get married or not. Dude, you're in your 30s or 40s, you had plenty of time to decide. Pass.

4. They almost never read what *I* am looking for. I get hit on by guys who are not at all in the range I would be interested in, but they do it any way. I reject them, naturally, and they still insist.

5. I won't even go into details about the lack of imagination and communication skills regarding the messages I receive.

posted May 02, 2014 12:33 AM              

They need to work on their selfie game or get people take pictures of them..
If you're having a hard time getting dates online.
Damn some guys don't get lighting at all... It's just like there's nothing visually appealing in most pictures I see.

Just some bloke with some average profile nothing captivating but girls know how to advertise their beauty, they've been doing it since FOREVER..

In your pictures if you feel uncomfortable

Just smile..

If you have a busted smile than either fix that or just don't go online

like damnn.
Of course its superficial platform

posted May 02, 2014 12:54 AM              

I got A LOOOOOOOOOOOOTTTTTTT of hits and messages with this one single picture.. and from many girls a lot of multiple views like daily ahaha OKAY GIRL I GET IT but I only liked the ones that messaged me..
Went on one date and had SF okcupid by the knees for a month and I was done with it.

I feel like facial selfies for me are very theatrical and fun.. So by my better judgment I avoided that.

The key is looking mature, smart, and confident with out being too pretentious.
Basically someone you can see yourself going out to dinner with.

But I have to admit not liking my hair here since was rather flat on the top but hey it was winter which is always a weird period for me.

posted May 02, 2014 07:32 AM            

I hate when people jump on him. People jumped on me so badly because I was stuck in my relationship with my mother. She molested me. I was stuck. Let he who has no sin cast the first stone. Have some grace!

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posted May 02, 2014 08:59 AM            

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Originally posted by Dancing Maenad:

5. I won't even go into details about the lack of imagination and communication skills regarding the messages I receive.

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posted May 02, 2014 09:30 AM            

ME: **delete** **block**

haha!!!

Guys like that are doing you a favor, ladies. You don't have to waste any time on them and can move on to nicer folks.

ETA:

If you do decide on a dating site - be absolutely honest in your profile!! And don't post only selfies. I posted a couple pics with makeup but I posted a couple pics without makeup. One of my pics was in a t-shirt with no make up and my hair undone with a cat on my shoulder. I figured that might be the kiss of death but if I was going to find someone that liked me for ME then he should really see me.

That's one of the reasons my husband reached out to me. Also because in my profile I wrote "quirky is good! I like quirky! Just not so quirky that you have a graveyard in your backyard for all the squirrels you've tortured and killed." He thought that was funny.

posted May 02, 2014 10:03 AM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:

Ok, i'm not going to address the rest of your post because I couldn't think of anything to say without being mean. So.. Yeah.. About the message thing. Have you ever messaged a guy first? I'm betting you haven't because most women dont... If you have messaged a guy first,what did you say? Again, i'm betting you have sent simple messages if you have sent any at all. Yet you, like most women, expect a guy to come up with a creative and imaginitive message. Nevermind the fact that ya'll probably wont even read them if we do send them because we arent "hawt". You wanna know what the few women said that messaged me first? They said "Hi" that's it! I'm not even joking! Yet these same women would reject a guy and complain if he just said "Hi". Women on dating sites are hypocrites... Just one of the many reasons that guys should get off of dating sites and stop wasting their time and money. Let entitled women with unrealistic expectations wait for their Mr.Perfect alone.

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I literally sat here for a few minutes contemplating on sending all of what I had typed here but I'm not even about to be bothered.

I messaged guys first, and yes even googled how to send the right message to catch someone's attention (so no "Hi" messages were sent from me here). Did every guy respond back? Nope. Do you see me whining and complaining about how men are x,y,z? Nope.

posted May 02, 2014 10:33 AM            

thank you for the advise! I am an agnostic myself and to be honest I do cringe when I see they belong to some religion. I figure we won't see eye to eye so why bother. However I think not all of them are practicing and just wrote the religion they were born in, like I have done myself in the past (here's wishful thinking). But thank you for the tip! I haven't posted a "natural" looking picture, I don't know if I have the courage lol. Though I remember doing that when I was younger and getting many compliments on it. Maybe I will add a tiny one, because that's the face he will see most often.