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Topic: 15 Ways 20 Somethings Ruin their 20s
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Xodian
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From: Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2014 03:03 AM
  
A lot of the points made in this particular piece highlight issues that a lot of members of this particular forum have shown in their posts (may it be directly or indirectly.)Mind you, there are exceptions to the rule when it comes to the points made in this article (co-habitating before marriage is a rule that I broke and I am damned proud of it  .) However, for the most part, the points made in this article are dead on. http://thoughtcatalog.com/christopher-hudspeth/2012/07/15-ways-20-somethings-ruins-their-twenties/ IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted May 15, 2014 04:36 AM
This list was written by a bitter 20 something that acts 40.We should embrace our youth cause we're electric! IP: Logged |
Xodian
Knowflake Posts: 812
From: Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2014 04:58 AM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
We should embrace our youth cause we're electric!
I think that should be engraved as the not-so-famous last words of every OD case out there  . But morbid jokes aside, I would say that the author who wrote this piece is far from bitter. The piece presents perfect medium between living the life of exploration and wonder while building a solid foundation for one's future. IP: Logged |
Kerosene
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posted May 15, 2014 05:20 AM
uhm okay.I think im good example of someone who parities hard and is working towards a future as millions of others people my age. No im not going to send back my order because who cares life is awesome and food is food. IP: Logged |
Sibyl
Knowflake Posts: 781
From: Uranus
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted May 15, 2014 05:25 AM
I find it hard to reconcile nr 2 and nr 11, the money thing and 11. Passing on spontaneous adventures and the opportunity to experience new things. If friends are taking an impromptu trip to a nearby city, pack a small bag and roll with. These little things are what make the decade. I might take this as my cue to join my friends at the french riviera in a few weeks... Just because I need an excuse. The money........  (I really should not be feeling sorry for myself, I'm already going to Greece in a couple of weeks). What is a girl supposed to do? Major FOMO. Don't quote please.  IP: Logged |
MoonWitch
Moderator Posts: 1551
From: The Beach
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2014 01:00 PM
I am absolutely guilty of 3. "Staying involved in destructive relationships." Looking back, I shouldn't have been in any of the relationships I was in during my 20's. That said, those experiences helped me appreciate what a good relationship really offers.
The other ones... not so much. I think a lot of it is good advice for any decade of life.
Except co-habitating - I don't see the big deal although I agree with thinking it through completely before you agree to it. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 8372
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 15, 2014 01:04 PM
I do agree with the social network attention seeking instead of just going out and doing stuff. It just seems empty but at least it is something to do and it's not the worst thing in the world.
I also don't understand how one can be perceived as a pushover and a douche at the same time. Usually the douches are the ones that won't let anyone get away with anything.
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Xodian
Knowflake Posts: 812
From: Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2014 11:54 PM
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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
I also don't understand how one can be perceived as a pushover and a douche at the same time. Usually the douches are the ones that won't let anyone get away with anything.
Oh there is a big difference between not being a pushover and being a douchebag. Not being a pushover is a defensive reaction to belligerent and uncalled for behavior from another party and is a reaction that is a measured response to that hostile action. Being a Jerk means being the instigator of that belligerent behavior and just stirring up trouble for the sake of stirring up trouble; May it be for the sake of an argument or otherwise. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
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From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 16, 2014 12:04 AM
Usually the jerks have the confidence to call people out when they make a mistake though. So, if one gets the wrong order at a restaurant, for example, he isn't shy about making it known the restaurant made a mistake.
So he is firstly a jerk, and secondly, confident enough to not be a pushover. Sometimes, a bully.IP: Logged |
Odette
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Registered: May 2012
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posted May 16, 2014 12:04 AM
Thanks for posting Xodian. I really like some of these. I don't agree with all of them, but it's a good list overall. No.3 is a biggie!! So many stay involved in destructive relationships for the pure reason that they are afraid to be alone. I think it's a difficult transition for many people - from being in their teens (living with family/parents) to having more space and independence as an adult. Some like the space - but others end up feeling extra lonely, so they rush into a relationship, for the sake of being in one. Also No.7 is one that bothers me. I have friends who live FOR Facebook. It's just becoming ridiculous. It's like the image they have on FB is their whole life and the only thing they care about O_O IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted May 16, 2014 12:07 AM
SSS - I think letting the restaurant know there was a mistake with the order - is just assertive. I mean I am not a jerk, but I would do this.. unless I liked the *surprise* dish I received haha IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 8372
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted May 16, 2014 12:10 AM
Yes I agree, and I didn't mean to suggest the two go hand and hand. Having confidence doesn't automatically mean someone is a jerk. However, most jerks do have confidence and they might even rudely let it be known when someone makes a mistake while an assertive person will be more polite about it and just point it out.IP: Logged |
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