posted May 19, 2014 05:43 PM            

If mom can't work then get her on welfare. I'd be sure to wrangle up all the other charities (general and specific to my mom) as well.

If possible, I'd work out a special deal with the landlord (service or barter instead of cash). Also check for new places to live where I could use something other than cash to pay for it. (Though if Mom can't work at all then that sounds like medical expenses, too, ouch. Even plain alcoholism is expensive.)

If my income was bad (I work for myself, btw, not beg others for a job) and had no extended family to get help from (and assuming no kids of my own) then either I'd get on welfare myself or I'd turn to crime (again, assuming my legal options were exhausted). Could go either way, though if I was younger it would definitely be crime. 'Course I'm not talking about robbing people with a gun, that so lacks imagination and is generally much less profitable than the things I'd consider (and no doubt would get much more creative about if necessity got me to thinking hard about it, almost certainly targeting big businesses).

posted May 19, 2014 05:54 PM            

I would do the same, considering I'm in between jobs. I would settle for any little job until I can wait for a better one to open up that'll offer more pay. A job is a job is a job.. And it's bringing in money when I need it. Pride won't keep me warm at night.

I would reach out to family or friends only as a last resort. If my mom didn't want to get a job, I would tell her that I can't support the both of us right now and I need her help. If she refuses, well, tough love. I would focus on getting myself together and getting myself better before I can help her. I know that sounds harsh.. But with addicts (my mom had a substance abuse issue), it's really hard to reason with them. Sometimes, they have to hit rock bottom to realize how much damage they've caused. You (generalized "you" - not you specifically, Charlie) can't enable them and promise them a home and food. It's the hardest thing in the world to do, and it'll break your (yet again - general "you") heart to do it, but certain things must be done.

posted May 19, 2014 10:52 PM            

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Originally posted by IV XXIV:
I would sit down my mother and explain to her that I understand this situation sucks but right now, we need to secure ourselves and make sure we continue to have a roof over our heads. I would help her look for jobs and get her some nice clothes (if she doesn't have any) to go on interviews.

I would do the same, considering I'm in between jobs. I would settle for any little job until I can wait for a better one to open up that'll offer more pay. A job is a job is a job.. And it's bringing in money when I need it. Pride won't keep me warm at night.

I would reach out to family or friends only as a last resort. If my mom didn't want to get a job, I would tell her that I can't support the both of us right now and I need her help. If she refuses, well, tough love. I would focus on getting myself together and getting myself better before I can help her. I know that sounds harsh.. But with addicts (my mom had a substance abuse issue), it's really hard to reason with them. Sometimes, they have to hit rock bottom to realize how much damage they've caused. You (generalized "you" - not you specifically, Charlie) can't enable them and promise them a home and food. It's the hardest thing in the world to do, and it'll break your (yet again - general "you") heart to do it, but certain things must be done.

I'm assuming this is your personal life though, to which I extend my apologies. I know life can suck sometimes and it usually rains the hardest on the people who don't deserve it. But I hope you find the strength to pull through. I'm rooting for ya If it's not your personal life, then I apologize for the assumption.

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