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KarkaQueen
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posted May 22, 2014 04:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KarkaQueen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
be truly equal?

A very poor woman and a very rich man
A slave and her master
Someone who is shunned and hated in society and someone who is adored and very much worshipped!


The person has the lowest social standing and economic background (or maybe just social) and the other the exact opposite.

Can these relationships be truly equal and "pure"? Discuss your experiences and thoughts.

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IV XXIV
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posted May 22, 2014 04:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for IV XXIV     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I guess it would depend on the people involved. If you're someone who's socio-economically blind, then I suppose it would be fine. Someone who cares what others think, is prejudice/racist/whatever-ist themselves, or egotistical won't last in a relationship like that.

When I worked for a cell phone company, my training manager was a really cool guy. I got along really well with him, so we shared a lot of personal stories. He had told me that when he first met his now fiancé, he was living on the streets and bouncing from friend's couch to friend's car. He had just moved over here from Colombia and had nothing and no one to really take care of him, and he was really struggling with getting a job. He met this woman (she was a friend of a friend) and she took him in. She kept him fed, clean, clothed, and kept a roof over his head. Eventually, they started dating. He went out, got a job, and now makes more than she does and pays for everything. He just bought her a new car a few months ago.. All as a "thank you".

I know it isn't exactly the same as your question but it's close.

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Ami Anne
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posted May 22, 2014 05:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think it comes down to the charts. You cannot really overcome bad charts to feel a heart connection. You cannot help but feel connected and bonded with good ones.

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PixieJane
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posted May 22, 2014 05:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Depends on the individuals involved. If a very poor woman doesn't care about money then yeah, they can (though she won't be paying for anything). Ironically, if she cares more about her freedom and he's the one in love with her it might be her who has the power. Not saying such would be typical, just possible.

But master and slave? No. If they were equal the master would free the slave. 'Course some like the whole master/slave thing.

Not much I can say for personal experience, however. I did take in one guy with me holding all the money and considered myself the boss, yet he was so gracious, helpful, and most of all charming (but then popping an attitude could've had me tossing him out on his ear) that I spoiled him rotten. When I couldn't financially carry him anymore I did have to hand him off to his mom, though if that hadn't been an option then I'd have found a way to keep on carrying him (no way would I have tossed him on the streets), and maybe we'd even be married today (as strange as I find that idea). I did hold the power, though. And I'd say it was "pure," at least for both of us being 19.

Was in a relationship with a woman who alienated people by her appearance (funny when I saw a little boy take a look at her and RUN), and I also brought in more money (though she owned the jeep), but she thought she was the boss. She wasn't (but if she truly had been then she'd have been bored anyway, and no way would she be submissive), but neither was I. We both had to give each other a lot of room and both of us had to give. So I'd say we were equal within our relationship.

The only other thing I can think of was a fling when I was 18 with a much older woman, a lesbian cougar if you will, who was also middle class (whereas I carried everything I owned in a backpack & duffel bag). She had the nicest home I'd ever lived in before, and she did insist I stay over and it was a welcome relief from the drug addicted roomies I had at the time. But once I was under her roof she enforced her rules which grew ever more numerous by the day (or even hour), and also thought I was "self-harming" by skateboarding. She then, supposedly out of concern but also punishment, locked my skateboard in her garage.

After she left for work I jimmied her garage open and got my board back. Then I packed my things and left, refusing to have anything more to do with her. I'm willing to bend for people (assuming they also bend for me) but I live under no one's thumb. Had she not been such a control freak then maybe it could've worked. I suppose I'd have seen myself as willing to bend more than she did in turn given her age and money but ultimately I'd be asking if the price tag was worth it...and if it wasn't then it was goodbye (as happened), which means it was all by my choice and thus it was equal because it all happened on the open market (in this case we were unable to negotiate mutually appealing terms).

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MoonWitch
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posted May 22, 2014 06:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MoonWitch     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have an extremely poor background and was a single mom but my husband is well-off.

I'm by no means a slave or less than he is. He's the finest partner I've ever had - in every sense of the word.

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