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From: Mälmo, Sweden
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posted July 27, 2014 02:15 PM            

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I could use some support right now. To say I'm depressed or sad would be to say very little at all.

The love of my life, the man I was in love with for almost 3 years, married another woman.

I'm traumatized.

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From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
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posted July 27, 2014 02:40 PM            

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Well, tell your story. If you want.

Maybe write what you feel, for a few moments forgetting that anyone will read it besides you. (this usually "frees" me to reach full expression.)

Then we can try to help you. Hopefully without anyone kicking up dust.

Up to you but what we don't know about, we can't help you with.

What would you like to share?

Obviously you must still love this person.

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From: Mälmo, Sweden
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posted July 27, 2014 03:17 PM            

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Hi there,

No, I don't love him anymore but he hurt me very bad in the past due to his work - do not want to elaborate...anyways I knew he loved me unfortunately if we were together society would judge us and this made him become such a coward about progressing our relationship.
We have a very large age difference, almost 30 years (Obviously I'm younger), this was a big factor and also our relation to each other (professional).

The woman he married is his age, past 50.

Just upset because of the way he treated me and that it couldn't be me that he married.

We had an emotional affair for 2 years.

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posted July 27, 2014 03:59 PM            

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I am so sorry

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posted July 27, 2014 04:13 PM            

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Oh no. I'm so sorry.

Edited out my personal response.

You'll get through this I promise. You have to let him go. Him marrying her proves that he was nothing but a tool and used you as an escape from reality. Don't let him see that it's bothering you, you don't need his pity and doesn't need to see that it's affecting you. Who gives a s hit what society thinks, that was all just an excuse. Had he been seeing her the whole time you two were together?

I'm sorry if I'm coming off strong or sound insensitive, that's not my intention at all, this type of stuff really hits home for me. I hate when people are used and lied to.

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posted July 27, 2014 04:25 PM            

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Hello all and thank you for your comments,

BarbieGirl he did not use me really so I did not feel used (no sexual things).
We had an emotional affair and that was all really but my feelings for him were very strong because I truly loved him.
It was mutual.
What happened was besides the professional side, he was also married at the time but the relationship with his wife was horrible and they did not live together. He was not seeing this woman at all, she popped up at the end of it.
He divorced his wife, for me it was a sign of hope that we would be together as this was what I was waiting for 2 years hence we did not engage in any sexual relations because I didn't want to be a home breaker or whatever you call it in the US, did not want to mess anything up. But our feelings where there and not a day went by where we did not see each other. It was very intense. Lots of love but also much hurt.
Then I moved back to Europe and we had no contact, he then began his summer last year with this older woman. Now they married.
I should be over it by now but I really really loved him
But I think I was morally upright in this situation and did not engage in sex with him- this was probably a good thing, just trying to see the positive in the bad.

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posted July 27, 2014 04:36 PM            

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I understand that it may have seemed like it were mutual but if it were he'd be all for it and fighting for it. If he felt the way he did about your ages then he'd never started it from the beginning, he escaped through his time with you. Muted out everything else, nothing else mattered at that time but you. I could see where a person would confuse that with love but it is not. Love isn't hidden nor limited to age. Being used isn't limited to sex.

But if you moved and had no contact then you shouldn't let yourself get so upset by it. Let it go. Don't let it hurt you, that isn't fair to you. I'm so sorry that you're hurting but you will get through this.

Oh and what exactly is an emotional affair, what exactly are the limits besides sex?

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posted July 27, 2014 04:39 PM            

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Yes I mean if they married one year ago I would have been more upset definitely. I believe that I'm not as hurt by it now as I would have been one year ago and actually feeling much better now
Yes he enjoyed using my time, I was an escape for him from his sad reality.

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