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FireMoon
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posted October 17, 2014 03:53 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for FireMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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aquaguy91
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posted October 17, 2014 04:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Important. I have stayed close to most of the friends I have had since grade school and I have collected a few here and there since then.

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FireMoon
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posted October 17, 2014 05:17 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for FireMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^yeah I went to a private school in grade school so none of my friends lived near me, although I'm still (somewhat) good friends with one of them. I then switched to public school in middle school and never fully adjusted to be honest lol. Being a sag moon I have friends in different states, even countries who would offer me a free place to stay anytime I want to visit... But that doesn't take away the loneliness where I am right now lol

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aquaguy91
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posted October 17, 2014 05:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well I don't see my friends that often. I'm alone most of the time, I prefer it that way.

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posted October 17, 2014 05:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I enjoy close friendships. When I was younger it was very important. So was romantic love and a lot of other things. Now, not so much. Before it was a "need", now it's more of a "want".

Once one classmate from 4th grade actually tried to find me. I was a bit surprised coz I changed schools quite frequently so I didn't think anyone would remember me. It was nice.

My close friends and I live in different countries so we don't see each other much. Still, at the back of my mind I know that they're there. So I've never really felt like I "miss" them.

My cousin and I enjoy each other's company. She's 10 years older. But she always finds it easier to get close to younger people so yeah. Our relationship is significant to us because it marks a few of our "turning points". For some reason I sometimes find myself missing her.

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posted October 17, 2014 05:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
New policy I'm playing with: when OP deletes thread or whatever I'm replying to I'll delete mine. If they won't share then why should I? At the very least maybe I can come to understand this practice.

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Ayelet
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posted October 17, 2014 06:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ayelet     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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DeepFreeze
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posted October 17, 2014 07:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DeepFreeze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm close with my two sisters.
My mom.
Barbie
And my best friend but I don't see him much.

I'm fine with it and have zero desire for anything more.

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posted October 18, 2014 08:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for FireMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for the responses, I basically need to stop making threads in sweet peas because I generally regret it later lol.

But yeah I think part of my problem with friendships right now is I never wanted to stay in this location so it's hard to be close with ppl knowing I'm just going to leave again at some point. I feel trapped here but also guilty for not maintaining relationships like I should be. But it's crazy how life works out sometimes.. I've been talking about going to Thailand for years now lol even tho I have no idea why I'm so drawn to it specifically, I just felt like there's something I'm supposed to experience there. And recently one of the roommates who I live with but didn't know before moving in told me she's planning on moving to Thailand next year and wants to go with friend(s) if possible. Soo idk my life has been a whirlwind of unexpected changes for a while but I'm starting to feel like I'm still where I'm supposed to be right now.. Anyway sorry for rambling I can be kind of a hot mess these days even online lol.

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posted October 18, 2014 11:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Padre35     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by FireMoon:
Thanks for the responses, I basically need to stop making threads in sweet peas because I generally regret it later lol.

But yeah I think part of my problem with friendships right now is I never wanted to stay in this location so it's hard to be close with ppl knowing I'm just going to leave again at some point. I feel trapped here but also guilty for not maintaining relationships like I should be. But it's crazy how life works out sometimes.. I've been talking about going to Thailand for years now lol even tho I have no idea why I'm so drawn to it specifically, I just felt like there's something I'm supposed to experience there. And recently one of the roommates who I live with but didn't know before moving in told me she's planning on moving to Thailand next year and wants to go with friend(s) if possible. Soo idk my life has been a whirlwind of unexpected changes for a while but I'm starting to feel like I'm still where I'm supposed to be right now.. Anyway sorry for rambling I can be kind of a hot mess these days even online lol.


Ah a friend is a friend regardless of distance FM.

I have friends I'd not seen in a decade and we pick up conversations we had 10 yrs ago without missing a beat

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hannaramaa
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posted October 18, 2014 11:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Why would you feel bad for not maintaining friendships? Friendships work or they don't, essentially like Padre said. I used to put my friends above everything including myself. Nope! Not anymore. Go to Thailand, do what you need to do, take care of you otherwise you'll be a bitter and crappy friend anyway.

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Ami Anne
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posted October 18, 2014 11:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I basically need to stop making threads in sweet peas because I generally regret it later lol.

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FireMoon
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posted October 19, 2014 01:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for FireMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Padre, thanks for your response, I agree

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Why would you feel bad for not maintaining friendships? Friendships work or they don't, essentially like Padre said. I used to put my friends above everything including myself. Nope! Not anymore. Go to Thailand, do what you need to do, take care of [b]you otherwise you'll be a bitter and crappy friend anyway. [/B]

Very true, I'm bitter now because I already made my grand escape from the Midwest but then ended up stuck right back here mostly due to family influences (my parents and even sister laid on the guilt thick, there were other complications with all that- Cancer SN) but yeah I really can't stay here much longer.. I guess I've just been doing things the hard way but its getting incredibly old and true I can't be the greatest friend to anyone unless I'm also happy with my own life..

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Randall
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posted November 07, 2014 11:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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BellaFenice
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posted November 08, 2014 02:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BellaFenice     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Why would you feel bad for not maintaining friendships? Friendships work or they don't, essentially like Padre said. I used to put my friends above everything including myself. Nope! Not anymore. Go to Thailand, do what you need to do, take care of [b]you otherwise you'll be a bitter and crappy friend anyway. [/B]

+1 Word!

People change, and sometimes the friendship will too. Every person we have extended contact with has a life lesson for us to learn, and when that lesson is over, we often part ways. For some friends, the lesson is life-long, and others may be short-lived. But what is important is learning from the friendship and growing as an individual.

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ikja
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posted November 08, 2014 05:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ikja     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My concern used to be about the number of friends I kept, but as the years have progressed and I've grown older... It's definitely become more about quantity. I've got one best friend. My mum. My dad (even though he doesn't really count these days) and then a few girls that I've met through work in the past.

I'm a sociable person, and know of many people. Facebook has over 800 people on it and my Linked in 300; but if you ask me how many of those people I talk to on a regular basis or regard as people who KNOW me well enough to cast character judgement, from Facebook I would say 10 at most.

I would like to have more close friends, but it takes years to get to really know me. I would NOT expand the number of friendships I have intentionally because getting to know me and me letting someone in is too intense. However, if it happens subtly then I'm all for it.

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sxorpia
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posted November 11, 2014 12:31 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sxorpia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not important.. I had two girls I could call good friends growing up, but we drifted apart a few years ago. I donít mind though, as Iíve always been very introverted and realized at a young age I prefer my own company to others'. I think as you get older, you grow more confident and comfortable with independent activities; going places, doing things alone. One tends to grow into it, accepts it as peacefulness, mindfulness..

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posted November 11, 2014 10:34 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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sxorpia
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posted November 12, 2014 05:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sxorpia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Ami Anne
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posted November 12, 2014 10:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I think friendships have to be natural. I have tried to force friendships with people I thought I should be friends with.

I won't do that anymore. If a friendship evolves naturally, it will be easy and it will feel really nice.

I try to open myself up to life, in all ways, career and relationships, and just see what God brings to me.

I have gotten so much more than I ever expected in everything in life.

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