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Topic: Thank God for facebook!
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aquaguy91
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From: Uranus
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 20, 2014 08:40 PM
  
I recently put up another profile on POF to try my luck again after taking a break for a few months. I have been talking to a girl from there for a few days and we were planning to go out tomorrow night for our first date. I really liked her profile because she made herself out to be a classy girl and seemed really sweet and down to earth, plus she looked cute in her pictures. Well.. Just tonight I asked her if she had a facebook and she told me she had de-activated it months ago. Well... I decided to type her name into facebook anyway and it turns out she was lying to me. She had an active facebook account and had posted new pictures and a status this afternoon! And I did not like what I saw on her facebook profile at all.. First of all, I was just mad because we haven't even been on a date and I've already caught her in a lie. I was also disturbed to see that she is already in a relationship and her profile picture is of her kissing a guy. Lastly, her facebook pics weren't nearly as attractive and she looked alot heavier than she did in her pics on pof. Needless to say I texted her and told her that I will not be taking her out tomorrow. Good thing I didn't waste any time or money on this one! If you are single and using dating sites I highly recommend that you do what I do and check peoples facebooks to see if they are consistent with their dating profiles.
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DeepFreeze
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From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 20, 2014 08:56 PM
I'm just going to touch on one thing. (That sounds dirty) The lie.
It may not mean that she's a liar.
One, a few days is not very long to have the trust to allow some guy a peek into her private life after a few days on a dating site.
Sounds like a white lie kind of deal, not a malicious one. You gotta take it easy bro. IP: Logged |
Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 20, 2014 08:57 PM
Computers are fulla bulla.Really, real life is where it's at. Computers are good for the mind. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 20, 2014 09:08 PM
I think you can meet good people on line who turn out well LOL------------------
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aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 10171
From: Uranus
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 20, 2014 09:11 PM
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I'm just going to touch on one thing. (That sounds dirty) The lie.
It may not mean that she's a liar.
One, a few days is not very long to have the trust to allow some guy a peek into her private life after a few days on a dating site.
Sounds like a white lie kind of deal, not a malicious one. You gotta take it easy bro.
Maybe so... But once I saw her profile I saw that she had alot to hide. Did you even read the part where I discovered that she was already in a relationship and had a pic of her kissing another guy? Would you want to go out with a girl if you saw that? Not me.. That's why i'm glad that I looked into things... See, i'm naturally a very trusting person and I've had to learn to be cynical because I've gotten burned so much. Maybe i'm silly for expecting someone to be honest from day 1 but I feel it is only fair because i'm honest and very transparent. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Uranus
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posted November 20, 2014 09:12 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I think you can meet good people on line who turn out well LOL
Yes. You just gotta do your homework though. Lol IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 20, 2014 09:25 PM
Fair enough.
I did read it. I mean, she was for sure in a relationship? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted November 20, 2014 09:40 PM
You are so sweet, AG, like me. I am starting to have to harden up a bit which I don't like lol------------------
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Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 20, 2014 10:20 PM
I'm not saying there aren't good people out there.I'm just saying that computer as a medium can be manipulated, so you have to use judgement. Even with you, Aquaguy. You shouldn't have definitives and make snap decisions either way. In real life, it's easier to see the physical person. Sometimes letters can give a glimpse to the inner workings of the mind better. Really, it all depends on what is important to you. I hear you, Ami. IP: Logged |
T
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posted November 20, 2014 10:38 PM
I don't think anyone is required to tell someone they have a Facebook or not - even if someone asks. This becomes a boundary issue, not a lying issue. Some people might only have one to keep in touch with friends and family and not random guys they meet on a dating site. I'd hesitate to slam her as a liar just because she didn't want you on her personal Facebook yet. She doesn't even really know you.And as to the rest of what you wrote......it seems to be another one of your elaborated tall tales aquaguy. I'm not saying you're lying, but I think you make these things out to be worse than they really are, or jump to conclusions that aren't true. You're a nice kid, but I don't think these girl situations play out quite the way you say they do. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted November 20, 2014 10:40 PM
And as to the rest of what you wrote......it seems to be another one of your elaborated tall tales aquaguy. I'm not saying your lying, but I think you make these things out to be worse than they really are, or jump to conclusions that aren't true.That is such a Gaslighting diss! I hate Gaslighting! ------------------
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T
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posted November 20, 2014 10:44 PM
Ami, you gaslit me in the last thread that got closed and I was going to bring it up - point it out, but couldn't.I was expressing my thoughts. There's no gaslighting going on. But you love that idea and love that word and love to gaslight people with it. Go back to what you were doing and lay off of me for once. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted November 20, 2014 10:46 PM
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Originally posted by T:
Ami, you gaslit me in the last thread that got closed and I was going to bring it up - point it out, but couldn't.I was expressing my thoughts. There's no gaslighting going on. But you love that idea and love that word and love to gaslight people with it. Go back to what you were doing and lay off of me for once.
I hate when you put people down. I mean, do it to people who deserve it  ------------------
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Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 20, 2014 10:46 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
I think you can meet good people on line who turn out well LOL
After all, I met you guys. Love you Lots, you know. IP: Logged |
T
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posted November 20, 2014 10:49 PM
Why do you always have to see it as putting people down? Can't some people be honest with their thoughts and opinions? If i knew aqua guy couldn't take it in the spirit it was given, i wouldn't have said it. He's done the same thing to me over the years, but we still say what we have to say and get on with it. No hard feelings.I appreciate that about people. I can't do that with everyone here. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted November 20, 2014 10:51 PM
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Originally posted by T:
Why do you always have to see it as putting people down? Can't some people be honest with their thoughts and opinions. If i knew aqua guy couldn't take it in the spirit it was giving, i wouldn't have said it. He's done the same thing to me over the years, but we still say what we have to say and get on with it. No hard feelings.I appreciate that about people. I can't do that with everyone here.
I hate people to put down people to feel better about themselvesI hate bullying. If you are not bullying, that is cool. It looked that way to me. It felt that way to me. ------------------
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T
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posted November 20, 2014 10:55 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
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I hate people to put down people to feel better about themselvesI hate bullying. If you are not bullying, that is cool. It looked that way to me. It felt that way to me.
Well it wasn't. And i've gotten along perfectly fine here after sporadic bullying over the years and don't expect anyone to stick up for me either. I don't mind aquaguy and he's jabbed me pretty hard in the past before and I don't see you running to stick up for me! LOL Point is, it's all good Ami. Let people express themselves please. I'm sure ag will let you know if he needs you to ever come to his defense. IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
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posted November 20, 2014 10:56 PM
I'm with T on this one.
I didn't see it as bullying AND, I agree with what was said.
However, it's just one of those things that we can't make accusations about but only what it looks like to us or what our "guts" tell us.
But dissing him?
Nah, I haven't seen that IMO. IP: Logged |
T
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posted November 20, 2014 10:58 PM
THANK YOU Deep Freeze! LOL Thanks for speaking up.k. might be break time for me. I can see where this one might be headed. Oy. IP: Logged |
Ellynlvx
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From: the Point of Light within the Mind of God
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posted November 20, 2014 10:59 PM
Sweet Dreams, T.IP: Logged |
T
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posted November 20, 2014 11:01 PM
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PisceanDream
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Registered: Jun 2014
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posted November 20, 2014 11:09 PM
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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I'm with T on this one.
I didn't see it as bullying AND, I agree with what was said.
However, it's just one of those things that we can't make accusations about but only what it looks like to us or what our "guts" tell us.
But dissing him?
Nah, I haven't seen that IMO.
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PisceanDream
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posted November 20, 2014 11:10 PM
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Originally posted by T:
Why do you always have to see it as putting people down? Can't some people be honest with their thoughts and opinions? If i knew aqua guy couldn't take it in the spirit it was given, i wouldn't have said it. He's done the same thing to me over the years, but we still say what we have to say and get on with it. No hard feelings.I appreciate that about people. I can't do that with everyone here.
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PisceanDream
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posted November 20, 2014 11:24 PM
People should feel like they can have a conversation and be honest without their remarks constantly being mistaken for bullying, gaslighting or anything of the like. AG, from now on, speak up if you feel something is or isn't bullying when these claims are made so that we can avoid unnecessary drama and confusion and passive-aggression. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 10171
From: Uranus
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted November 21, 2014 12:35 AM
Sigh*
Some of you aren't quite getting the point. The point of my post was to say that you should always investigate people you meet off a dating site and looking at their facebook is a good way to do that. It wasn't to foster a discussion about whether or not someone is obligated to tell you that they have a facebook. Naturally, people are going to have different opinions/feelings on that. I personally feel that anyone who lies about something as trivial as facebook has something to hide and is not someone I want to get close to. The way I see it is I have nothing to hide and I would gladly let a prospective relationship partner see my facebook because I have no skeletons in the closet. That's just the way I feel about it and nobody is going to change my opinion on the matter. The fact is I went with my gut on this one and I found out that this girl was lying to me. She had an active facebook account, it said she was in a relationship, and she had pictures of her kissing another guy. Since she is actively using a dating site she is a cheater and a liar as far as i'm concerned. As for T's skepticism towards my story... It ain't no skin off my back. What the heck would she know about it? She is just words on a screen to me and doesn't really know me. I am way past caring what some clowns on the internet think about me. I posted this for all the people like me who are serious about finding a quality person on a dating site and want to separate the wheat from the chaff. If anyone is using a dating site and you start chatting with someone who seems promising you should look them up on facebook to see if everything checks out. You might just save yourself from heartache and disappointment. IP: Logged |
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