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MineAgain
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posted December 06, 2014 11:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
2014 is almost over (Thank God). It's now time to reflect on the lessons you have learned during this rollercoaster ride of a year!

Personally:

- Trust my gut/intuition
- Never lower my standards for a man
- Have some self-respect and value it over a man
- Face rejection with dignity
- Let go of the wrong people
- Stop caring what people think of me
- Make my own decisions and do what makes ME happy
- Never chase after people who give you nothing in return
- Cut the toxic people off as soon as they start showing their true colors
- Put people in their place when need be
- Be more assertive and stop acting like a doormat
- Be more confident in my working abilities
- Accept living my flaws and enhance my qualities
- Try to better myself whenever I make a mistake. Learn from it and improve from there
- Have fun and stop being isolated/close minded all the time
- Be more tolerant of other peoples' life choices
- Fend for myself, stop relying on others for everything
- Stand up for myself and others
- Stop being in my feelings all the time and make more rational decisons based on reasonable grounds
- Weigh the pros and the cons in every decision I make
- Stop letting other people influence my decision making process
- See the good/positive in every situation and understand the lessons from the negative situations
- Always have faith in positivity
- Be more careful with money
- Believe in my own strength to overcome anything

Man, I could write a whole book about this because this is an accumulation of what I've learned during my entire tSaturn in Scorpio transit. I've definitely grown a lot since 2012 and I feel as though I can now face the rest of my life as a wiser/stronger person.

What about you guys?

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BellaFenice
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posted December 06, 2014 02:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BellaFenice     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is a great thread and has been something I have been pondering the last couple of months. There is so much I want to say, and yet I do not feel I can fully share it. I haven't even delved into the more painful aspects of my life on LL, and the prospect of people using my struggles against me is too much.

The one lesson I will share is that no matter how far you fall or low you feel, there will always be someone willing to grab your hand and guide you back up. I am really grateful for the friends and family in my life, and the users of LL I have gotten to know. Particularly, Faith, PisceanDream, T, Meisseiri, Juni, Karka, and the countless others I have come across in this forum and in Personal Readings. No matter how ugly the outside world can get, there are people that give me hope the world can become a better place, and this I am grateful for.

I guess I am just disappointed LL really isn't that safe of a place to open up and people will maliciously take your pain and use it for their petty happiness. When I saw older posters saying they didn't feel comfortable sharing their struggles, I used to think "what are you talking about, what is unsafe here?" But as I have been on the site a little over a year, I finally get what they are saying. I want to offer my own experiences and guidance when difficult topics are created, but then I wonder if it will happen again.

Not only that, but pain is becoming a contest: many times I see a poster's pain be marginalized because it doesn't meet someone's criteria of pain. Pain is pain, and should be honored no matter the life experiences of the poster. Because of this, I would rather keep my pain inside instead of trusting that people won't marginalize what I have and am going through and make heartless comments. Why do we say we will "pray for them" as we push the person off of the cliff?

Sorry MineAgain, I kind of went off topic, but I needed to say how I felt because it is really bothering me.

I guess this is a lesson I haven't fully learned, but maybe one day will come to a better closure.

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T
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posted December 06, 2014 04:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
((((big hugs Bella))))

I'll have to reflect back and think about this some more....

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MineAgain
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posted December 06, 2014 04:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Bella:

Thank you for your post.

I wasn't really asking for anyone to share their personal story. Of course, I wouldn't want you to share your deep personal struggles if you don't feel comfortable sharing them.

No, my post was more about general life lessons such as the ones I listed in my opening post. Just a general lesson that could apply to anyone in any context. The lessons don't have to be contextual, they can be abstract and interpreted independently.

I think the most important thing is to never give up no matter how bad life sometimes treats us. There's always an open door somewhere if we look for it hard enough. Nothing great comes easy and life isn't a straight road. There's always darkness before the dawn. I hope that whatever it is you went through, you were able to raise above it and free yourself from your inner demons or outside influences.

There's always a blessing in every single situation.

As for those who use your personal issues to turn them against you, I haven't witness this on here but I understand your feeling. I think it's sometimes hard for people to sympathize because they didn't go through whatever it is the person is going through and therefore think the issue seems insignificant to them. I understand that pouring one's feelings on here might give people a "drama queen" vibe but these people need to understand that we all need someone to talk to. Some people have supportive family/friends, good for them. Some others aren't that fortunate and therefore rely on websites such as LL. It's nothing to be ashmed of and the people of laugh at others' struggles are immature and heartless. You need to raise above and be you! Do you boo

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PisceanDream
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posted December 06, 2014 05:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PisceanDream     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bella, I haven't gotten to responding yet to your email... These past few days and the ones to come have been hell since we are both nearing the end of the semester. I will get back to you very soon, though. But I just want to acknowledge this post. I want to acknowledge your pain. Your success. Your struggle. Your ability to get back on your feet no matter how hard you're put down.

It is beyond heartwarming just to be mentioned by you. You are easily one of the people on this forum that I appreciate, that I truly empathize with, admire, look up to and relate to the most. Forthright and powerful and resonant and compassionate. Caring to a fault.

Because of this, I would rather keep my pain inside instead of trusting that people won't marginalize what I have and am going through and make heartless comments.

Preach, preach, preach! I cannot emphasize this enough. As long as you know who to trust, that's all that matters. But I guess sometimes we need to have our pain marginalized by some and nurtured by others to know who hurt us and who heal us. To become more discerning in our choices to trust and let people in... We Pisces and Cap folk need this.

I will get back to this topic soon to talk about some of the things I've learned and endured this year. It has been the worst year of my life, no doubt. But the growth would never have come otherwise...

To Bella and all going through a rough time, the best is yet to come...

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PixieJane
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posted December 06, 2014 06:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
I guess I am just disappointed LL really isn't that safe of a place to open up and people will maliciously take your pain and use it for their petty happiness.

Heck, you don't even have to share anything. In response to some people complaining of threads being all about drama or faux spirituality and such I took to posting some fun threads this year. They were either ignored, used to vent on something unrelated, or much more surprising (but happened more than once), they were perceived as attacks with counterattacks (or were they knowingly trying to start something?) being offered.

I stopped posting threads I thought would be fun or interesting as a result because each time I considered it I reflected on how it turned out before. Generally speaking, if it's not drama (or a place to pretend to be more spiritual than thou) then it's not happening.

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MineAgain
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posted December 06, 2014 06:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MineAgain     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The thing is, this thread is not meant for personal issues/venting. It's supposed to be a "positive" thread about personal wisdom growth.

You don't have to share anything personal.

If you don't feel like contributing to this thread for whatever reason, please don't post. I want it to remain positive and spread good vibes. If you want to vent/complain, there is a specific thread for this.

Thank you for your understanding.

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PixieJane
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posted December 06, 2014 06:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MineAgain:
The thing is, this thread is not meant for personal issues/venting. It's supposed to be a "positive" thread about personal wisdom growth.

You don't have to share anything personal.


Hope you have better luck than I did.

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Ami Anne
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posted December 06, 2014 07:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have had some wonderful, wonderful lessons.

In fact, I am having my dreams come true as far as my personal growth.

GREAT thread!

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Selenite
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posted December 06, 2014 07:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Selenite     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@MineAgain
The first half of your lessons learned sounded like it came from my own head

For me in particular, it's been straight DISCIPLINE. No more luck for this sag. I'm happy to say I'm not completely jaded yet, but talk to me after Saturn is done squaring my mars-pluto square in the 1st. Won't be pretty.

Although I do appreciate it. Gotta grow up sometime
... Right?

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Barbiegirl19
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posted December 06, 2014 09:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Barbiegirl19     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Boy have I learned many.

-Continue to be my own person.
-Stop trying to please everyone! It's not possible.
-Ignore people unworthy of my time or energy.
-The internet is just that, it's not a safe haven or an escape. There are more crazies than anywhere else.
-Not everyone will like me, let it go and move on.
-Continue to stand up for myself and others in need of it.
-Starting a family takes time, I'm not worthless because I had 3 miscarriages.
-Trust my intuition.
-Be more assertive.
-Open up more.
-Learning to face reality instead of running away from it.
-Let go of the past.
-That I'm a really awesome cook. 😊
-That the future never goes as planned.
-That I am truly loved for who I am, regardless of how weird or outspoken I may be.
-Friends come and go.
-Live!
-Life goes on, sitting and dwelling solves nothing.
-Life is the greatest gift, don't take it for granted.
-Credit my strength!
-Every mistake is a lesson learned.
-Practice makes perfect 😁

I feel like I could go on forever. Nice positive energy for Sweet Peas!

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BellaFenice
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posted December 06, 2014 09:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for BellaFenice     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by PisceanDream:
Bella, I haven't gotten to responding yet to your email... These past few days and the ones to come have been hell since we are both nearing the end of the semester. I will get back to you very soon, though. But I just want to acknowledge this post. I want to acknowledge your pain. Your success. Your struggle. Your ability to get back on your feet no matter how hard you're put down.

It is beyond heartwarming just to be mentioned by you. You are easily one of the people on this forum that I appreciate, that I truly empathize with, admire, look up to and relate to the most. Forthright and powerful and resonant and compassionate. Caring to a fault.

[b]Because of this, I would rather keep my pain inside instead of trusting that people won't marginalize what I have and am going through and make heartless comments.

Preach, preach, preach! I cannot emphasize this enough. As long as you know who to trust, that's all that matters. But I guess sometimes we need to have our pain marginalized by some and nurtured by others to know who hurt us and who heal us. To become more discerning in our choices to trust and let people in... We Pisces and Cap folk need this.

I will get back to this topic soon to talk about some of the things I've learned and endured this year. It has been the worst year of my life, no doubt. But the growth would never have come otherwise...

To Bella and all going through a rough time, the best is yet to come... [/B]



You have such a kind and gentle heart, why can't the rest of the world be like you? That really means a lot to me, especially since you have gone out of your way to befriend me and show compassion. I really feel people find each other for a reason, and those with the same character tend to flock together.

I think another thing I have learned is the power of service, I never realized how much you can make a difference in someone's life. Or at least not understand the magnitude of how people appreciate and care what you do for them.

And being able to have a source for my strong intuition.

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@PJ, I really liked your posts. I think you should consider doing them again. There are people here who appreciate them, but I understand why you don't do them anymore.

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posted December 07, 2014 03:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for FireMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted December 07, 2014 06:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
2014 has been a really difficult year for me. It's not so much that i've learned new lessons this year it's more like i've been paying for mistakes I made in past years. I've been faced with old lessons I already learned but never really internalized I guess. These issues have been mostly related to my finances/career. I guess you could say 2014 has been a year of challenges to help me renew my focus and brought old lessons to reaffirm what I already knew. Thanks to all the challenges i've dealt with in 2014 I am more motivated to deal with the issues that have plagued me and my family our whole lives.

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posted December 08, 2014 03:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted December 08, 2014 03:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Haplesschild*     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
1. Trust is such a delicate thing.
2. Head should win out always. The heart tolerates way too much.
3. Someone that causes you extreme confusion and constant anxiety is clearly someone that needs to go.
4. Don't lend large amounts of money to people. Chances of them paying you back is low.
5. Guys with unfinished baggage issues...Keep away.
6. Closure is just a concept.
7. You need to fight for happiness.
8. Love shouldn't be so hard. If it is that difficult...Walk away.
9. Pamper yourself and always have your own back.
10. Happiness is a destination. And most of us take too many detours.

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posted December 08, 2014 04:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bella Thanks for mentioning me, it's a pleasure knowing you, and I'm really happy you feel the same way.

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posted December 08, 2014 04:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Was it this year or last year where I finally realized that life is short?

So, stop complicating everything.

I tell myself to seek simplicity and unabashed happiness. I tell myself to stop feeling guilt over every damn thing. This may be my last day on earth and I am entitled to laugh, dream, be sappy, whatever.

So, just go with the flow, realize peace is precious...I need to let go of negativity, just keep dumping it overboard as much as I can.

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(For context: Transiting Uranus has been squaring my sun, conjunct my 9H Jupiter most of this year.)

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KarkaQueen
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posted December 09, 2014 08:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for KarkaQueen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
2014 delivered in terms of enlightenment and spiritual growth.

Here's the main focus right now:
I'm trying to kick processed and sugar foods out of my diet COMPLETELY, however, while 75 percent of American food is that, and it is more accessible and cheaper than healthier food, and you're sixteen so you live under your parents and your dad is a cheapskate who doesn't give a f~~~ about his health and is very stubborn, that is VERY difficult to do.
At least while I was in Europe I got fat on my own, here you get fat if you eat anything, INCLUDING catfish healthy scams that secretly contain processed and chemically engineered ingredients!

By what I mean by fat on my own is that I purposely sought out sweets that are harder to find and ate stuff in large quantities.
Here I eat food in much lower quantities and I still get a very bloated stomach in less than two minutes and feel very sluggish and tired. Not even the candy in Europe had me feeling like that!

Last Tuesday I stopped eating that stuff and my body got instantly very smaller, I could see my curves again and see my original form, I had been bloated for months and I did not understand why, well now I know.

Two days ago I ate a spinach pizza because supposedly it's more healthier and I got immediately tired and my body started aching, a headache overcame me.

I was like.. ok don't do that..
Yesterday my teacher gave us one piece of candy because we one this jeopardy thing and I put some of it in my mouth but I realized it was bad to even eat a little, I didn't even swallow it but just having my body take some of it in gave me major cramps and a bloated body again.

Midnight I ate "german" wheat cookies thinking they were maybe not as bad, they were just crumbs but again, headache, cramps, bloated body.

I can't even eat that stuff! What gives? I thought to myself, then I saw it said artificial peanut butter and sugar.

I also read they put food additives to make it addictive and keep you coming back for more, in a way its like a harmful drug to your brain and you become dependent on it!

Processed/artificial sugar harms your heart, no wonder I was having heart pains from even when I was 14!

I'm honestly very annoyed about this and wish to leave this country, like right now. It's terrible and I cringe every time I see another country having American food sold in it or even taking up our culture and society which itself is also processed and manufactured, but that's for a different story!

Seriously, to think those foods give you a false body because of the fats, chemicals and crap they put in there that screw with your hormone levels is creepy. When I would rarely be not bloated at all my body would be decently small and I would have curves, most of the time it makes me grow x3 in size and it looks terrible.

I have
fibromyalgia since I was 10 or 11 and I believe this is caused by all the crap I was eating.


I lost 5 pounds just from not eating that stuff for 4 days.. that says a lot.

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posted December 09, 2014 09:04 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for KarkaQueen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

This makes my Sun/Mars in 6H very nervous!1111
I have NN in Virgo too.. IM GONNA LEARN TODAY

as someone who tends to obsess, over analyze, and gets chronically depressed a lot this is not good for my temperament.

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posted December 09, 2014 09:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am proud of you, Karka. I eat so purely that I get sick when I have anything that is not good for me BUT I have great energy, great skin and great hair

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posted December 09, 2014 12:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for KarkaQueen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I am proud of you, Karka. I eat so purely that I get sick when I have anything that is not good for me BUT I have great energy, great skin and great hair


Where do you grow your stuff? It's hard for me to make this work out.

Yes, I get sick too recently, I'm attuned to the foods and the effects of my body. I see it literally everywhere and it drives me insane.


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posted December 10, 2014 05:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hard work pays off if you work hard toward your goals.

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