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posted December 30, 2014 06:42 PM            

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As most know spent a lot of time over the last decade with responsibilities.

Now new horizons are opening including dating again..and uhm..things have really changed.

From a proposition from a homosexual via FB, to getting topless photos via FB, uhm, this is not how things once were lol!

Any tips for navigating this brave, new, and kinda fun, world of modern dating w/hookups and FWB's and NSA etc?

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posted December 30, 2014 07:04 PM            

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posted December 30, 2014 07:26 PM              

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My 21st century dating tips are:

1. Know what you want
2. Communicate what you want
3. Run from others who don't know what they want
4. Run from others if they don't want what you want.

Have a conversation early on if you genuinely like someone. Me personally? I don't like beating around the bush or playing games; a number of incompatible people have dropped off my radar as soon as I've been upfront. Maybe it's different for other women (Aries Moon here), but I'm all about being straight forward and honest. Confusion confuses me.

Those are only my tips though lol

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posted December 30, 2014 08:57 PM            

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One thing I've noticed is that most people don't reveal themselves, it's all like a hand of cards that they keep close to their chest. What they share about themselves (including pix) are generally false or so vague as to not mean anything, and even if they say what they want they'll actively pursue what they say they don't.

I'd want to verify anything before I believed it OL...and besides, unless I was looking to move anyway I'd want someone in my area so meeting up seems better. If I were using FB or something I'd suggest meeting somewhere public to get to know each other better face to face ASAP.

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posted December 30, 2014 08:57 PM            

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And in case you take the suggestion to go to a Christian site, another thing I've noticed is that many women who make a point to let you know how Christian they are tend to be submissive and even masochistic who want to be owned by a man as much as love one (which I get the impression you don't like), and I've also heard of more than one who had freaky fantasies who figured if they could find a man then God would remove their filthy thoughts and they could live a Godly life (naturally this doesn't happen, she gets bitter and leaves, hopefully sooner rather than later).

That said, whereas many regular women like to come off as freaky to ensnare a man but are actually prudish, others like to come off as pure as the driven snow (and can include thumping a Bible) but end up incredibly freaky in bed (nothing like being told how nasty it is, don't even think about it so you can't help but think about it, over and over along with if you even think it then you might as well do it--in for a penny, in for a pound--because you've sinned anyway, oh and there are young women who will "do anything as long as I stay a virgin" as well) and I figure that you WOULD like. But I don't know if those types advertise themselves specifically on Christian dating sites since these types are those I've witnessed and heard about who hooked up while face to face and also like to protect their reps/public image (at least in church) as much as possible (though I suppose they could casting their nets as far and wide as possible)...

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posted December 30, 2014 09:04 PM              

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-Be careful

-Don't get too close without actually talking deeply with the person, until you know the kind of person they are

-Trust your instincts

-Get ready for some epic fails, some people lie out of their you know what's for the heck of it

-Keep an open mind

-Have fun

-Don't rush yourself

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posted December 30, 2014 09:07 PM            

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posted December 30, 2014 09:48 PM            

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Har-Har Mon Cher, what strikes me is how upfront ppl are, ppl you have never met.

Meetup, FWB, fling, pics

Uhm, dinner and doing something seems passe' now

Have met some Christian ladies, thing is, the best way to put is they forever seem to be living down their past..for me that is not healthy.

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posted December 30, 2014 09:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
-Be careful

-Don't get too close without actually talking deeply with the person, until you know the kind of person they are

-Trust your instincts

-Get ready for some epic fails, some people lie out of their you know what's for the heck of it

-Keep an open mind

-Have fun

-Don't rush yourself

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Well when mom passed and I put it out there was hit with offers of material support so fast it kinda knocked me off of balance tbh.

Now the instant grieving is over and my pov is uhm..what?

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posted January 03, 2015 12:42 AM            

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Thanks Randall, it's fun, also very different from the last time I was "dating".

Now it really does seem dating is passe', neither side wants to invest that much time.

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posted January 03, 2015 09:18 PM              

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Originally posted by Padre35:
Well when mom passed and I put it out there was hit with offers of material support so fast it kinda knocked me off of balance tbh.

Now the instant grieving is over and my pov is uhm..what?

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I know I said it before but again I am so sorry. You seem to be handling it all very well.

I personally don't trust dating sites. #sorrynotsorry
I've never used one, known quite a few people personally who've used them and failed every time. I don't trust them but have remained open minded about them. Still blows my mind that I met and married a guy from here! Nothing ever goes as planned. I'd just have fun, enjoy yourself. Watch out for the snakes and rats.

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posted January 04, 2015 12:57 AM            

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Oh my no, a dating site is not for me, unless as a joke.

I'm more into IRL just meeting people and seeing what they are all about.

As for mom, suspect every Thanksgiving will have a different meaning for me from now on.

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posted February 04, 2017 03:50 PM            

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Hey Padre

How the heck are ya?

Not hitting on you just missed you

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posted February 05, 2017 12:42 PM            

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Originally posted by SirenSong:
Hey Padre

How the heck are ya?

Not hitting on you just missed you

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Ellyn,
I didnt know that was you. How are you?

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posted February 05, 2017 08:24 PM            

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I'm good, A.G.
Still trying to figure out how to work this phone, ha.

How art thou?

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posted February 05, 2017 08:51 PM            

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Originally posted by SirenSong:
I'm good, A.G.
Still trying to figure out how to work this phone, ha.

How art thou?

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That can be challenging. I am good, life is good.

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posted February 05, 2017 09:41 PM            

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You said it!

All I wanted to share was one brown owl picture but sheesh!

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