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Topic: To the men - what are your dealbreakers?
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Jo B
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posted June 30, 2015 02:17 PM
 
With women I mean?I'm curious to hear it from the other side. Please post away! Can or cannot include astrological aspects if you wish. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted June 30, 2015 02:22 PM
Poor communication skills. I'm not a mind reader. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted June 30, 2015 02:46 PM
Hygiene sucksImmaturity Irresponsible Jealous (I mean the constant questioning and accusations kind) Lacks basic high school type intelligence A complainer Fake towards others (different from being polite I think) Selfish That's all that comes to mind right now.
Yes, any of those in moderate severity would keep me from forming a relationship.
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Jo B
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posted June 30, 2015 06:59 PM
Thanks for replying AG and DopGang.The "I'm not a mind reader" one I hear a lot. I can sort of understand it. When a man asks a woman who seems a bit quiet/sulky how she is and she snaps "I'm fine"... you can be sure she's NOT fine and you might have something to do with it!  Do you guys find it easy to put a woman who they once considered a "girlfriend" into the "friends with benefits" category? Also at what point do you "commit" to a woman? What scenario led to that? And why do you (not you personally, just men in general) disappear for six months, then suddenly reappear and say they miss a woman? Is it guilt, or do you genuinely miss her, or you just haven't managed to get laid for the past six months? You don't have to post personal experiences if you don't want. Just your thoughts will do! IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted June 30, 2015 07:53 PM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
Thanks for replying AG and DopGang.The "I'm not a mind reader" one I hear a lot. I can sort of understand it. When a man asks a woman who seems a bit quiet/sulky how she is and she snaps "I'm fine"... you can be sure she's NOT fine and you might have something to do with it! Do you guys find it easy to put a woman who they once considered a "girlfriend" into the "friends with benefits" category? Also at what point do you "commit" to a woman? What scenario led to that? And why do you (not you personally, just men in general) disappear for six months, then suddenly reappear and say they miss a woman? Is it guilt, or do you genuinely miss her, or you just haven't managed to get laid for the past six months? You don't have to post personal experiences if you don't want. Just your thoughts will do!
Personally, I do not find it easy to move her to friends with benefits. Friends, sure, but I put a lot of distance between us.
Sometimes I cut things completely.
So that's a "No". LOL Normally, I'm OBSESSED with whoever I fancy so in some ways I'm committed very soon even if not spoken.
I guess the clear answer is there is no set time. It's specific to each person. Normally, I've disappeared because it was getting more serious than I wanted or they showed signs of being jealous, etc. They start to annoy me, etc etc. Unsure of what I want.
Then, coming back. It's.... 60% that I genuinely do miss her, realizing that those things that drove me away weren't actually that bad and 40% not having been laid and in all likelihood the sex was really good so why not? LOL
The better the sex was then maybe the percentage tilts one way or the other.
Funny, but it's true!!! IP: Logged |
Jo B
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posted June 30, 2015 09:06 PM
I'm not going to quote you DopGang, but your last paragraph... I appreciate your honesty! IP: Logged |
CosmiqPhuz
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posted June 30, 2015 09:46 PM
Everything DopGang and Aquaguy said is generally accurate. Pretty much if you're a smelly, selfish, close-minded, complainer - then it doesn't look good. I'll also add: - If you listen to bad music (Kanye West, Lil Wayne, too many to name) - If you hate animals - If you're a brat - If you're racist - If you're an alcoholic or drug addict - If you're celibate - If you make people feel bad for things they can't help - If you're a hypocrite
I'm sure there's other things I'm forgetting. I understand to an extent that women don't want to spell everything out every time. That's reasonable, but sometimes some of them do expect us to be telepathic.
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teasel
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posted June 30, 2015 09:54 PM
What's wrong with celibacy? Just because someone's practicing it, doesn't mean that it's for life.I have similar lists when it comes to men, except for that one. IP: Logged |
Jo B
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posted June 30, 2015 10:02 PM
I didn't realize that hygiene was such a big issue for men. I shall wash more!One old boyfriend of mine said a dealbreaker for him was if a woman, already seated in the passenger side of the car and waiting for him to get into the driver's side, didn't pull up the lock on his side so he'd have to get his keys out and do it himself (obviously we're talking about an era when cars had those pull-up locks!) He said it said a lot about how self-centred she was. Unfortunately I was in this exact situation with him, I went to pull up the lock but it was broken, so couldn't! IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted June 30, 2015 10:08 PM
I shower twice a day. Unless I'm exhausted, and fall asleep where I am.IP: Logged |
CosmiqPhuz
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posted June 30, 2015 10:12 PM
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Originally posted by teasel:
What's wrong with celibacy? Just because someone's practicing it, doesn't mean that it's for life.I have similar lists when it comes to men, except for that one.
Nothing's wrong with it, if someone wants to do that, more power to them. But there are people out there who are in relationships/marriages and don't have sex. Again, nothing wrong with that, but I love sex.
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PixieJane
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posted June 30, 2015 11:16 PM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
One old boyfriend of mine said a dealbreaker for him was if a woman, already seated in the passenger side of the car and waiting for him to get into the driver's side, didn't pull up the lock on his side so he'd have to get his keys out and do it himself (obviously we're talking about an era when cars had those pull-up locks!)
I've been around men who wanted to get the door for me when it's not necessary and sometimes my Libra tolerates that. And then other times my Sag is likely to assert itself and..." Too late!". Laughing aside, that does sound like she took herself way too seriously. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted June 30, 2015 11:36 PM
I didn't realize that hygiene was such a big issue for men. I shall wash more!Good you did the thread ------------------
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Jo B
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posted June 30, 2015 11:45 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Good you did the thread
Yes, actually I've discovered unexpected pearls of wisdom by starting random threads, like the one about toothbrushes - if it wasn't for that thread I wouldn't have discovered the joys and benefits of oil pulling! And now here too, I've discovered I need to stock up on Femfresh and that half of those guys who came back after six months were just after the booty! IP: Logged |
Lei_Kuei
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posted July 01, 2015 05:48 AM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
One old boyfriend of mine said a dealbreaker for him was if a woman, already seated in the passenger side of the car and waiting for him to get into the driver's side, didn't pull up the lock on his side so he'd have to get his keys out and do it himself (obviously we're talking about an era when cars had those pull-up locks!)
Your friend is clearly a fan of "The Door Test" from "A Bronx Tale"... ------------------
You can't handle my level of Tinfoil! ~ {;,;} IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted July 01, 2015 06:24 AM
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Originally posted by teasel:
I shower twice a day. Unless I'm exhausted, and fall asleep where I am.
I do too generally. Before and after work. I work hard and I don't like sitting around with "swamp @as"  I have Venus Virgo so I may be a little more particular about that stuff. IP: Logged |
Jo B
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posted July 01, 2015 07:01 AM
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Originally posted by Lei_Kuei:
Your friend is clearly a fan of "The Door Test" from "A Bronx Tale"...
Wow Lei_Kuei, that's it! I was trying to find that clip too but thought it was in the movie "Goodfellas". My old bf used to watch all those old gangster movies so it's probably where he got the idea from! IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted July 01, 2015 07:39 AM
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If you're an alcoholic or drug addict
Pfffffft And you call yourself a Scorpio Venus!
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Jo B
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posted July 01, 2015 08:01 AM
No-one has mentioned what makes them "commit".[Edit - boring personal anecdote deleted!] IP: Logged |
CosmiqPhuz
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posted July 01, 2015 09:48 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Pfffffft And you call yourself a Scorpio Venus!
Haha. But you see, if they're too drunk/high/doped up all the time, their libido will be too low! IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted July 01, 2015 09:52 AM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
No-one has mentioned what makes them "commit".[Edit - boring personal anecdote deleted!]
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Jo B
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posted July 01, 2015 10:01 AM
^^Still trying to work that one out. (Brain not in gear yet, I blame the sun)..Which one is the ass in the relationship then? Hmmmm... door knockers.. donkey/ass... still don't get it. Doh! IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted July 01, 2015 10:36 AM
Pair of knockers and an @ss! But I joke. Truthfully I'm not a good one to ask. (But not because of my joke. LOL)
Neptune Venus aspect made me... Idealistic, dreamy, committing without giving it ANY thought, etc. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted July 01, 2015 11:44 AM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
No-one has mentioned what makes them "commit".[Edit - boring personal anecdote deleted!]
If you want a guy to commit don't be a pain in the azz. lol I went on a date with a girl and she was way too clingy for me (cancer moon) and literally held onto me the entire time. And when I got up to go use the restroom she acted like it upset her. That freaked me out lol. I wasn't that into her so that probably played a part in why I lost interest.Having said that, I doubt I would be thrilled about the clinginess even if I was really into a girl. But in all fairness I can't be 100% on that because I have never had a girl I was really into be that clingy with me. IP: Logged |
CosmiqPhuz
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posted July 01, 2015 12:19 PM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
No-one has mentioned what makes them "commit".
Give me your heart, mind, and soul. If I give you love, give me the same in return. Be honest, even if it's ugly. Be my best friend, partner in crime, and sex toy. IP: Logged |
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