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posted December 18, 2015 02:03 AM            

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selling myself short (of going against personal principles) and not sweating the small stuff? Or is small stuff for someone else OK to be big stuff for rme?

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posted December 18, 2015 02:25 AM            

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I would say to stay true to personal principles, which of course are not the same for everyone. The answer to your question is Yes.

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posted December 18, 2015 03:32 AM            

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To me, the small stuff are the little annoyances (spilled coffee, misplaced keys, traffic that's annoying rather than dangerous, whiny brats, people getting into the 10 items or less lane with 12 items which may be deliberate or an honest mistake, and so on) and common mistakes (forgetting an important date, and just many small, minor things) of life, and don't have much to do with principles. Though sweating the small stuff can include getting upset that life isn't and people (yourself and/or others) aren't perfect 100% of the time.

If sweating the small stuff is part of standing up for principles, then I think that's for each person to determine what they can live with. But if you want to make a lot of demands on yourself and others (especially if you dismiss the demands of others), that can be hard when so many others don't make so many demands of themselves and others. And strong ethics don't pay the bills (and may make it harder to pay them when strictly lived up to in black & white terms without rationalization and excuses), but it might be worth it to you.

It can be a gray area at times though, and I've often found myself debating internally whether or not a specific incident (or behavior on my part or that of someone else) is important or not. When I was younger I maintained MUCH higher ethical standards of myself and others but realized that if I kept it up then I was going to wind up living in a cave as I withdrew from this society (and rejected by this society) completely. Of course there are a few people who do become hermits, and if that works for them (rather than their becoming lonely, alienated, and bitter) then more power to them.

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posted December 18, 2015 03:39 AM            

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I found this on not sweating the small stuff:
http://www.cnn.com/2014/01/13/living/sweat-small-stuff-real-simple/

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posted December 18, 2015 10:36 AM            

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This is a totally great question,Charlie. There is no simple answer. I want to think about it, a bit, and see if I can add something helpful xx

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posted December 18, 2015 08:16 PM            

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posted December 29, 2015 03:21 PM            

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I don't thnk there is one general answer.

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