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Topic: How would you react/think?
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charlie
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Registered: Jun 2012
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posted April 23, 2017 10:05 AM
  
You are married. You love your husband dearly and have changed MANY of your previous bad behaviors because you for ONCE want to live a life on the "right side". You did this out of your own will.Some time into your marriage you frequently catch your husband turning head after blondes. In the beginning you pin it down to "men are men and will be forever" but after a while you become annoyed at the disrespect and confront him openly. At first you believe him when he says: "I like chlothes (he does)-she had a nice jacket" but then it's always an excuse such as: She bumped into me
She flirted with me
She looked funny
She looked angry
Etc etc etc etc After the 100th time time you ask how come it's always a blonde woman ending up in his "sphere" while also contemplating the "coincidence" of ALL his previous girlfriends being blonde. Now you're at the lowest point of your esteem and question your natural hair color which is auburn. You do some highlights, feel happy with result, come home to your husband and is greeted with: "you looked better before". I have actually gotten so far that I think he doesn't want ME to be blonde because he knows how some men, like himself, stares at them, and he couldn't handle the fact that men would look at me the same way he looks at them which is: behind their woman's back. IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted April 23, 2017 04:19 PM
I would be annoyed. Extremely annoyed, and hurt. I've never been married, so I have no suggestions there. Wear your hair the way YOU want to wear it. I don't know what behaviours you changed, but did you change them because you wanted to, or because he had a problem with them? IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 4211
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Registered: Jun 2012
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posted April 23, 2017 11:23 PM
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Originally posted by teasel:
I would be annoyed. Extremely annoyed, and hurt. I've never been married, so I have no suggestions there. Wear your hair the way YOU want to wear it. I don't know what behaviours you changed, but did you change them because you wanted to, or because he had a problem with them?
I was a "bad girl" and changed for me. IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
Knowflake Posts: 5839
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Registered: Aug 2012
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posted April 24, 2017 03:07 AM
I'd tell him to cut the crap and be honest about him finding blondes attractive. I'd also tell him that I'm fine with my partner finding other women attractive ( I actually am) coz well the attraction is biological and you can't control it neither can he, acting upon the impulse to go after them is within his control though.About the hair, he actually might find you more attractive with auburn hair but he could have phrased his remark differently so that it would not hit where it hurts the most. Anyway, I'd wear my hair the way I'd want to wear it. Your suspicion about him not being able to handle other men staring at you, maybe you're right, maybe you're wrong, I don't know. IP: Logged |
teasel
Knowflake Posts: 9907
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 24, 2017 03:28 AM
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Originally posted by charlie:
I was a "bad girl" and changed for me.
That's good. He doesn't sound considerate of you at all, though. IP: Logged |
colorful butterfly
Knowflake Posts: 1365
From: USA
Registered: May 2015
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posted April 25, 2017 06:21 AM
Do what makes you happy and makes you feel good about you!!! I notice this with men, when you become happy with you and no longer need their approval on things, who you are, what you are, etc. They respond to it. Make you the best you possible!! Don't even ask him what he thinks, it only matters what makes you happy. I forget this sometimes, even with those we think are suppose to give us this, to stop looking for the outer to replace what I should already have in the inner. Love yourself honey or how the hell you gonna be able to love someone else~ RuPaul ( I am sure he is not for everyone but I love this saying) I know he is your husband and maybe this is coming from the divorced woman attitude of never again! Let him know you don't like the things you notice him do with the blonds, that you understand he is a man etc but respect that you are his wife. IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: From a galaxy, far, far away...
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 07, 2017 11:57 PM
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