posted May 07, 2018 11:10 AM            

(music) Concrete Angel (Martina McBride, 2009) [3:53] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OkdTS7WTSWY

Came across this video a few weeks ago.
*Caution* --
blatant and VERY graphic details around her own sexual abuse by her father, and ignored by her mother

Psychological Devices employed by the abuser

posted May 08, 2018 01:16 AM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:

(music) Concrete Angel (Martina McBride, 2009) [3:53] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OkdTS7WTSWY

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Thanks for sharing, and this particular one can be seen as better that the actual music vid in that it identifies different types of abuse, but I wanted to share the actual music vid (see warning after), as I think it's very moving:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KtNYA4pAGjI

While part of me really does not want to spoil it, I suppose it's just as well to say it's clear a child dies of abuse since that's something plenty wouldn't want to see.

posted May 09, 2018 10:51 PM            

The other vid I left is BY someone who happens to be a minister, AND, it is not a 'religious' talk. She merely opened-out about the details of her abuse, to let people know the 3D truth about what can happen in families.

*spoiler* .. mentions something shocking (and disgusting) that happened with her father and law-enforcement closer to the end.

(In the middle of the vid, for ~a minute+, her assistant invites any women into their special FB chat group to discuss feelings and share.)

She briefly mentions certain scriptures she used 'for herself' while moving through her healing process.

{I was frankly surprised when I did NOT hear any kind of heavy blatant preachy-Call anywhere in it?
I would not have chosen to post the url in this forum, if she had.
OR,
I would have stated it.)

She's a Survivor.
I honor the courage it took for her to do that.

- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joyce_Meyer

abuse lasted till ~1961(?)
when she left the family home at 18yrs.

Joyce Meyer
June 4, 1943 (age 74, 75 in a few weeks)
St. Louis, Missouri, U.S.
Occupation
Bible teacher, author, speaker

SUN is Gemini 12+,
late Gemini, or Cancer Moon at noon.

Saturn Gemini 15.31 ..
conjunct Sun.

Mercury RX/SD Taurus 27+
Uranus Gemini 5+

posted May 09, 2018 11:56 PM            

Though she spoke as a Christian with deep faith, I didn't find her preachy (though I could see her own experience as being incompatible with someone who was abused in a religious context). I even related to her finding God to replace the mother and father she wanted but could never had, as it reminded me of finding Freya which I think was based in part on a very similar need. I also agree with her how there is the potential of greatness in all of us, if we can just overcome the psychological forces (that she sums up as Satan) that seek to diminish us.

I recognized a lot of what she talked about in my own terms. Abuse does make us hyper-vigilant (and emotional abuse can make someone hyper-sensitive as well) which can be disruptive when outside an abusive environment, and that anger and fear must be dealt with or that hyper-vigilance, so useful in dangerous situations, becomes counterproductive. And I do see forgiveness as important, though not in the "so you can do it to me again" way but to fully heal, because as long as the bitterness is there it is going to hurt in more ways than one, both physically and psychologically.

I don't see it as my obligation to offer an olive branch or to rescue my parents from their own toxic lives, but I believe I have fully forgiven my own parents and feel compassion for them, but that doesn't mean I see them as better than they are (that is to say, I know better than to depend on them or to trust them). I don't ever expect either of my parents to apologize for anything, but for me that's okay. (But I laugh at how I think my dad does feel some guilt that caused him to feel fear when I tried bonding with him by inviting him to go target shooting--the only thing we really had in common as adults beyond our warped sensed of humor--with me, like he thought I was luring him into a trap, which goes to show he realizes I have reasons to not think of him kindly, though he's wrong about me plotting his death. )

posted May 12, 2018 11:54 AM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
You jinxed it!

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hahahaha

omg!!! Thanks for that moment of levity, in an otherwise somber post!!!

Laughter and a Good Sense of Humor is a Medicine.

Stress break!!!!!!!

Shuck off the ballasts and weights that can drag your life down! It's important to know and place what had happened to you. And there may be more posts following, highlighting the healing from these.
{{*hug*}}

Super important to be able to let go, and take on some fresh perspectives.

(music) I Love to Laugh (from Mary Poppins, 1964) [2:50] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1RTokqMhAuE

*~

To Life!!!

The following vids are posted "just" for Fun and Warmth!!

(music) To Life L'Chaim (Vanessa's Wedding Surprise, 2010) [5:28] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgZ4ZTTfKO8

posted May 15, 2018 08:14 PM            

I get too serious anyways?.

Humor is a medicine.

posted May 17, 2018 01:16 AM            

(music) Teach The Children (Crosby Stills Nash & Young, 1970, album Deja Vu) [2:54] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkaKwXddT_I

lyrics
You, who are on the road
Must have a code that you can live by
And so, become yourself
Because the past is just a goodbye

Teach your children well
Their father's hell did slowly go by
And feed them on your dreams
The one they picks, the one you'll know by

Don't you ever ask them why
If they told you, you would cry
So just look at them and sigh
And know they love you

And you (Can you hear?) of tender years (And do you care?)
Can't know the fears (And can you see?) that your elders grew by (We must be free)
And so, please help (To teach your children) them with your youth (What you believe in)
They seek the truth (Make a world) before they can die (That we can live in)

Teach your parents well
Their children's hell will slowly go by
And feed them on your dreams
The one they picks, the one you'll know by

posted September 27, 2018 04:36 PM            

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posted October 03, 2018 09:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
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