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From: Wankety Wankerson
Registered: Jan 2012

posted March 29, 2019 05:09 PM            

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I was recently talking to a girl on Tinder. The conversation was going good and I invited her to my place. Then she brought up the topic of sex and said something vulgar that I wont say here. Then we talked about our intentions and both agreed that we wanted to have fun. She agreed that she wanted to come over and told me to tell her when and where and she would be there.

So, then I gave her my number and we started texting and discussing the logistics. We had already established that we were both looking for "fun" and she was coming to my place to have "fun." There had also been direct talk about sex. So, I slipped a little dirty talk into the text conversation. Seems appropriate to the situation, right? Well, she flipped the f*** out and called me a horny a**hole and said she wasn't interested in hooking up. Again, this was after we had directly talked about sex and agreed she was coming over to have "fun." WTF? I was flabbergasted and reminded her of our conversation and she completely denied that she had indicated she was interested in sex.
What kind of mind game is that? Or are people really this socially inept?

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posted March 30, 2019 11:42 AM            

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While multiple possibilities spring to mind, I wouldn't hazard a guess unless I knew more details (not that I'm asking) as there may have been tone shifts, or she even had assumed a very different tone or context than you did (but then maybe it really was a mind game, just to get herself off before entering self-righteous mode to make it clear she's "not like that" when she is but can't own up to it yet, or perhaps straight up trolling men for her own amusement). If you saved the conversation I suppose you could share it here (the board will blank out the vulgar stuff assuming it's spelled right) though I can understand why you wouldn't want to do that, and if you did then you should make sure her identity is NOT revealed.

But I did look up Tinder on Urban Dictionary and this was the most popular definition:
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Tinder

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A dating app in which 95% of the guys are looking for casual sex or nudes to jack off to, and 95% of the girls are either looking for bae or just want to make friends... resulting in pretty much consistent disappointment and frustration for both parties...

Kinda like real life

*Dude matches with girl*

Dude: "Hey wanna meet up?"

Girl: "You worthless pig, I'm not just on Tinder for hookups, I'm here to have valuable conversation and try to find Mr. Right"

Dude: *unmatched* "Well, better luck next time"

#hookup app #dating app #college #casual sex #sex life summed up in an app #disappointment

by JakeTheSnake5 March 27, 2015

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From: Wankety Wankerson
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posted March 30, 2019 03:49 PM            

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After questioning on my part, she changed her story. She said she is just not interested in a guy with roommates. But why would she flip out and act like I said something wrong? The whole thing doesn't make any sense. And rejecting a 20-something college student because he has roommates is pretty nuts too. That kind of comes with the territory.

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posted March 30, 2019 10:27 PM            

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Hmmm...the only thing I could guess is that she'd feel bad about suddenly turning you down so she tried to make it out to be your fault (more of an instinctive reaction). But I agree your having roomies does seem irrelevant, especially if she was just interested in having some fun (even if she didn't want witnesses then she could push for the classic cheap motel room or some other place).

You do have my sympathy.

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posted March 30, 2019 10:51 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Hmmm...the only thing I could guess is that she'd feel bad about suddenly turning you down so she tried to make it out to be your fault (more of an instinctive reaction). But I agree your having roomies does seem irrelevant, especially if she was just interested in having some fun (even if she didn't want witnesses then she could push for the classic cheap motel room or some other place).

You do have my sympathy.

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And I told her that I have a private bedroom (of course) and my roommates are never home. They both have girlfriends and are always up their arses. But what can I do? These women just keep getting pickier and pickier.

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posted May 08, 2019 07:14 PM            

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That sucks.

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posted July 04, 2019 02:23 PM            

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Update?

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posted July 05, 2019 07:30 AM            

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Hmmm....I could see myself do that, and most likely have. I’m the type of woman that likes to initiate “things” and will get hugely turned off and even stone cold if the guy comes on too strong. I could bet all my money that’s the last he will hear from me too!
Yes, she was in on the convo with you and yes, it appeared as if you both were on the same page but in HER mind she was most likely steering the convo to that point.
Your “dirty talk” would have probably crossed her “invisible don’t-go-there-line”...and how should you have known not to cross it!?
She was fishing for attention, sexual attention, and she got it. Then she did a 180 on you.

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posted July 05, 2019 12:33 PM            

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Some like doing that, infact I have definitely met this sort of person before...hell I was the one who apologised at the time, it happened during other times too with her, hell I felt like ripping her head off at times because of constant 'this sort of' IDk, it's known as "shiittests" rite? In their own pretty little words, but I didn't which I regret but also don't, cuz she was a sensitive lil bitvh, and I felt affectionate towards her in a way, but man she was frustrating, and this is frustrating!!! With capital multiple G and multiple exclamation marks!!! ... ... ... ... ...

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