posted March 09, 2004 11:12 AM         

Well, as I previously mentioned, we have "issues". It's pretty bad (just in the sense that if things don't improve very soon I'm leaving). There's no abuse there, just a huge immaturity on his part, some other unrelated issues, we're both high strung, etc.

We're supposed to pick this dog up today from the pound after they spay her, etc. But we had this huge fight this morning - and I'm just wondering if we shouldn't get the dog, if its just this hugely bad decision - like having a kid when your marriage is fked up.

He's absolutely awesome w/ dogs - if he had the kind of patience in general that he has w/ dogs we'd live happily ever after. Anywho, any advice? The pet lover in me so badly wants to just get the dog. The mommy-lady in me as I like to refer to her, says "no, it's not responsible".

Now there is no issue of the dog's care, regardless of what's going on with us the dog would have a warm, clean, well fed loving home... we've even discussed if things went south w/ the two of us who would get the dog, etc. But I mean is this just a train wreck coming or what?

posted March 09, 2004 11:21 AM         

Four leggeds are emotional beings as we are. If you were to bring s/he into a tense relationship, s/he will feel it and have emotional issues as well. From my experience, it wouldn`t be healthy for the dog simply much like it would be unhealthy for a baby to be in such a tense unhappy home If the pups welfare is of the highest concern, I know I would wait until the tension has abated.

Kudos to you both for looking into a shelter pup

juniperb

posted March 10, 2004 11:49 AM         

Hubby and I had a lengthy talk about things and already had a counseling session scheduled this Thurs anyway.

We've made a committment to one another to remember her when we want to get all bitchy with each other. She brings so much joy into the home, and I know in my heart that we're going to make great doggie parents (and hopefully eventually people parents too!). We just have to grow the **** up and quit being bickering children. Ahh, easier said than done

Thanks everyone for your input - things w/ he and I are aren't quite as fatalistic as I may have painted them in the heat of anger and frustration. I hope you can relate, the heat of the moment, venting if you will.

But I am SOOOO happy we have her And once we buy a house we plan to get several more (I'm originally from the midwest so I want a veritable farm - goats, llamas, cows, cats, fish, chickens, etc)

Someday

posted March 10, 2004 09:22 PM         

I am glad to hear you adopted her. How about entereing her on Dogster.com so we can see her?

I just re-entered my dog there as they lost her original webpage. If you are interested you may view her here; http://www.dogster.com/dog_page.php?j=t&i=15873

posted March 12, 2004 12:44 PM         

No, I don't go to the city much. However, maybe we could meet with the dogs one day like at Crissy Field or something. Do they let the dogs run free there?

posted March 12, 2004 10:13 PM         

There's a dog park in Novato called "Dogbone Meadow". It is huge. It has grass although some parts are chunky (dirt). The perimeter has permanent agility equipment. A lot of dogs go there. It has no shade though and this week has been in the 70-80's.