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mercury05
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posted June 04, 2005 03:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mercury05     Edit/Delete Message
hey all,
im turning 18 in 3 months and i have just discovered that i am pregnant! my boy friend and i are very excited and serious about raising our child together, but i have some questions about what to do during pregnancy...

*are there any particular scents or oils that are good for pregnancy?

*what music is best to listen to whilst pregnant for fetus stimulation?

*which are the best herbal teas to drink while pregnant?

All advice would be greatly appreciated - esp from experienced mothers!


Thanks all
Neek**

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steelrose
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posted June 04, 2005 09:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for steelrose     Edit/Delete Message
Hi Neek!!!

Congratulations for your coming baby!!! I ‘m not an expert in this matter, I haven’t had a baby yet but I have aclose friend who is going to give birth in a few days, so I have been hearing a lot about the subject in the past few months…

Apparently, it is highly recommended to listen to the baroque Grand Masters… Mozart, Vivaldi, Bach, Händel, Scarlatti, Albinoni… Just classical music is not good, it should be from that period…
http://www.prenatalmusic.com/prelude.htm

Regarding essential oils, you can safely use: Tangerine, Mandarin, Grapefruit, Geranium, Chamomile Roman, Rose Bulgar, Rose Maroc, Jasmin, Ylang-Ylang nd Lavender (Remember to dilute them, of course…). Check on this: http://www.aromacaring.co.uk/essential_oils_and_pregnancy.htm


Careful with the ones in the ones mentioned in the following link (AVOID THEM), as they coud provoke abortions: http://www.essentialoils.co.za/abortifacient-oils.htm


I don’t know much about herbal teas but I would keep away from them unless you are 100% sure what there is inside the sachet or you make your own concoction of safe ingredients. Avoid tea as it contains teine (caffeine-like substance) which is a stimulant and therefore a drug… http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/pregnancy/pregnancynutrition/3537.html

AVOID these herbs: http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancyhealth/herbstoavoid.html

Good luck!!!

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fayte.m
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posted June 04, 2005 04:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fayte.m     Edit/Delete Message
mercury05!
Steelrose is right...be careful with the herbs! And there are reflexology points that should not be worked during pregnancy! I'll look some things up on that, and good things too.
Congratulations!
PS.I know it is a wee bit early...but are you going to try and go natural or otherwise?

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leoelf
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posted June 05, 2005 09:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for leoelf     Edit/Delete Message
I didn't take any herbs or listen to any music, or read.

But everyday I'd go to Wendy's for a Junior Bacon Cheeseburger with extra pickles, onion and mayo and squirt Blue cheese dressing all over the burger OOOOOOOOH YEAAHHHHH.

My son is gonna be three and is very intelligent.

When he hears someone (including me) use a bad word, he goes "don't say that" LoL.

I'm so happy for you sweetie, lots of love and light

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sue g
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posted June 05, 2005 10:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Loved your take on it Leoelf!!!!

I took folic acid about 6months before I conceived and then throughout the pregnancy. I am a healer and aromatherapist and used lavender a lot and did Reiki on the babe - I looked after myself well, gave up the cigs, booze and ate as well as I could. I felt as proud as can be throughout my pregnancy and gave birth to a lovely scorpio baby boy on 15 November 1998. I had just turned 40 so life really did begin for me!!! As for music, I am addicted to it, listened and danced a lot and funnily enough our son is music and dance mad too. I also talked a lot to him when he was inside me, and OMG does he talk now (Gem rising)...........he never stops "mummy, mummy,mummy". My spirituality increased too and I have never felt the same since becoming a Mum - I live on a prayer it is awesome! He is gonna be 7 in November and I still cannot believe we made him - I feel honoured to be blessed with him

Good luck Mercury, be healthy and happy and enjoy this very special time, there is nothing else like it girl - please dont hesitate to ask if theres anything else I can help you with. I think the most important thing is to be grateful - gratitude helps us to grow - love to you, your man and babe Sue xxx

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sue g
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posted June 05, 2005 10:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
Hey Leoelf, you made me laugh about your little one and hearing bad words. At times, I am so bad for swearing and my son always seems to creep up on me when I do it and says "Mummy that is really bad" dont say that! Do you know what, I have visions of him when he is a teen being really prudish and correcting me all the time and me thinking WTF? I think its gonna be like having my bloody mother living with me LOL (sorry mammy) A rebel with a different cause I feel !!!!!!

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leoelf
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posted June 06, 2005 06:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for leoelf     Edit/Delete Message
Hey, I'm a New Yurka, Tranquil Poet understands
Yeah, I understand. But, in all honesty, foul language doesn't bother me as long as a person understands there's a time and place for it. I wouldn't be too anal about it with my son, as long as he knows not to use it at certain times amongst certain people.

I always said when I had kids, they would be organic babies, no junk, sweets, or red meat. Then reality sets in.

My son is a Cheeto, and M&M freak LoL. His chart denotes that he needs siblings so in the next 2-3 years I'm gonna have more children, God willing. Maybe I'll do the fancy stuff with the music and all, but I don't think that stuff makes a difference. I was always a straight A student, so my children will be natural geniuses (and hot, LoL I make HOT kids) I need to post some pics for you guys

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mercury05
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posted June 06, 2005 08:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mercury05     Edit/Delete Message
thanks guys!

its nice to have some positive support now and again, because im only very young i get alot of criticism from friends and other ppl but i think its the most wonderful thing to happen to me!
I was told that exercise such as jogging and running and netball (and sex) is bad news during the first trimester..is this true?

again many thanks! you brought smiles to my face!
neek**

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mercury05
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posted June 06, 2005 08:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mercury05     Edit/Delete Message
bye the way fayte.m
i would prefer a natural birth...id very much like it if i could give birth under water! Yet when i told that to my parents they just looked at me funny!

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Devilfish
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posted June 06, 2005 08:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Devilfish     Edit/Delete Message
I had my first(i have four) at 18 too
congrats

with your age watch your calcium and your iron levels
the smell of peppermint oil helps with upset stomach
rasberry tea is good for the LAST two weeks of pregnancy
its said to help tone the uterus muscles

for labor pain i found real relief through meditation (picture the ocean tide coming in and out as you breath)
also picturing a circle growing bigger is said to help
in labor pay attention to your hands and jaw if they are clenched so is your cervix

i played/ sang all kinds of music
the main thing is try to relax and be positive and .........

Enjoy.

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Randall
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posted June 07, 2005 10:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message
Great advice from everyone.

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"There is no use trying," said Alice; "one can't believe impossible things." "I dare say you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast." Lewis Carroll

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leoelf
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posted June 07, 2005 02:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for leoelf     Edit/Delete Message
Mercury,
I was pregnant at 21 and I got alot off bullsh!t too. Especially because of the fact that I looked and still do about 18-19, but 21 would've still been too young to other people.
I don't want to discourage you, but yeah
you are very young to have a child. There are so many things to learn and experience.
However, at 18 we usually think we have it all "figured out", we don't. I'm going to be 25 and feel like I know less then what I thought I knew 7 years ago. I'm learning and experiencing all over again with my child, which is ok, but just a little more challenging than if I were alone.
Aside from that, I am happy for you, but realize that you will do alot of self sacrificing now. Being a mother is beautiful, but difficult, especially being a single mother. I wish you and your partner the many blessings and love

In my opinion, take it easy in your first trimester, try not to go crazy with the working out. The second trimester would be a little better, not to mention thats the BEST trimester! It's sooo much fun!

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SunShyne
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posted June 08, 2005 07:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunShyne     Edit/Delete Message
Congratulations

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pixelpixie
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posted June 08, 2005 10:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Congratulations indeed!

Mercury05, I was pregnant with my son at seventeen as well.. I had him Dec 1st, and I turned eighteen just a bit over a month before that ( October 28th )
Hmmmmmmm....
The social stigma is everpresent.. but it could be worse...
I think because I had something to prove, I was a better mother then, to my son, than I am now... *he is now ten, and I have a daughter as well, who is four and a half*
I was one of those people who, when faced with opposition ( actual or undercurrents) will strive harder, learn better and do everything to prove myself. *mostly for me*
So I did. Man, it was hard...and wonderful! As long as you are ready to embrace a rebirth of yourself as well, you will do just fine.
You have the tools, you just have to utilize them. You might forget some, and relearn others...
Here's a very important thing. I know everyone is telling you you don't know half as much now as you will later.. and that's true.. it is true of age thirty to age thirty five, age five, to age ten.. we always learn as we experience life. You can do anything though.. and living in the now does not diminish the wonder that you can experience.
Just prove daily to yourself and especially to your child that you can do it.
My most telling moment is after bedtime. When I reflect on my day, if I see things I could've done better, I will evaluate, and promise myself to utilize those lessons the next day.
Everyone has different parenting styles and keys that work for them. Find what works for you. If it comes from a place of love and goodwill, you will do just fine.
Read alot!

My caution and inspiration...
I am twenty eight.
I have a ten year old.
*and a four year old*
Most people are making their way in the world, finding their legs, finding a partner and talking about making a family now ... I have been doing it my entire adult life.
I can understand the motivations, the special challenges, and am quite honest about the fact that I have unique challenges ... I have been doing it so long that it is now a time for myself. Saturn is returning in my chart, and as it delves ever closer to my first house, I am very aware of things I have done, things I need to change, and the fact that I am unsettled, as I missed out on opportunities others had. I am very much torn between my impulse to be young and discover things now, and my need to stay a loving dependable parent.
Of course, it is no competition. My children I chose, and I adore..
But the unsettledness is there.

I wish you clarity, and the ablity to be the best you can be.
If you ever need to unload, or for me to share experiences if it will help, please just let me know.
Congratulations, and good luck!

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leoelf
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posted June 08, 2005 08:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for leoelf     Edit/Delete Message
Pixie,
Show off!

LoL, just teasing, that was so well said, sweetie. Good for you

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taurean_scorpion
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posted June 18, 2005 12:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for taurean_scorpion     Edit/Delete Message
hey mercury05, congratulations.

best wishes

Esther

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sue g
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posted June 20, 2005 12:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sue g     Edit/Delete Message
I SO admire all you young mums God knows what I would have been like being a mother at 18!!!!! I was a mad thing then (still am lol). I always knew I would be an older mum, 40 was perfect for me, but each has its advantages of course - love and light to all xxxxx

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miss_apples
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posted June 20, 2005 01:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for miss_apples     Edit/Delete Message
light exersizing like jogging and sex is not harmful at all. I cant believe someone told you that!

I had both of my children when I was quite young, my first 3 months after I turned 19 and the second 3 months before I turned 21 and I had problems with anemia. So I agree with watching your calcium and iron or else you could end up losing too much blood during labour and end up passing out. Believe me I know...it happened to me!

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