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future_uncertain
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posted August 20, 2006 01:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
You'll have your ultrasound right about the time my baby is coming! Can't wait to hear what kind of baby you're having.

I've noticed you've been in and out. I was MIA for a while in the beginning of my pregnancy, too. Too sick to sit upright!

We've decided to name the baby Indeliza Grace... we wanted to call her Indie (or Inde-- better numerology. Haven't decided yet) but I wanted something longer for her full name. We kicked around Indigo Daisy for a while, which I really loved, but ultimately went against. Early on my honey brought up the name Eliza and I liked that. After much searching for a full name for little Indie, I just stuck the two names together and came up with Indeliza.
Hope she likes it!

I love naming babies. Isn't your daughter named Claire Willow, or something similar? I don't remember exactly, but I remember thinking it was really pretty.

Take care!


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posted August 21, 2006 12:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message
Indeliza Grace!!!
Wow, it's so unique! I love it! She might not love it when she's young ( people at school misprounouncing it, etc) But will definately appreciate it when she's older.. I like the sound of that! Good job!

Yes, exactly, my daughter's name is Claire Willow.

I'm thinking Simone for a girl. Cohen for a boy?
Although I dunno... yesterday, I saw some friends, and someone thought I'd said 'Colon' I HOWLED!!! And of course said "No, Lower Bowel would be a nicer name."
hahahaha
Names are hard...
I've just been tlling people when they ask...
"We're thinking 'Shrek' for a boy and 'Fiona' for a girl."
They usually just laugh and carry on.. but someone polite ( and out of the loop) said "oh, that's a nice name!"
Completely missing the shrek joke.
Ah well.

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posted August 22, 2006 08:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
I like your names. I've always thought Simone was a beautiful name... Cohen I've never heard and I think it's perfect. Boy names are so hard and this one is unique, yet still masculine.

Good luck!

*Indeliza will be helped by the fact that she'll be called by the simple, two-syllable "Indie."

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posted August 30, 2006 05:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for maklhouf     Edit/Delete Message
Did it hurt to have your baby?

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posted August 30, 2006 08:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
I'm not sure whom you are addressing, but my answer is YES! YES! YES!

Harpyr has also written about her birth experience somewhere on this thread. Her post beautifully describes how the process, while painful, takes you somewhere inside yourself that most people rarely have a need to go. It's really a transformational experience. Truly amazing thing. Terrifying and exhilarating...

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posted August 30, 2006 01:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for maklhouf     Edit/Delete Message
Thanks FU. Funny how some people feel nothing, don't even know they are preg.

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posted August 30, 2006 01:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for future_uncertain     Edit/Delete Message
You know, I was just talking to a friend about this the other day. You're right. Some people don't feel any pain, although I'd be willing to bet they are the rare exception.

I don't think it has to do with pain tolerance, either. I know of two people who gave birth with very little pain, but, otherwise, don't deal with pain well. I, on the other hand, generally deal well with pain, but found childbirth to be excruciating.

Strange...

My future mother in law didn't even know she was in labor, even near the end of it. Her doctor had to convince her that her baby was almost here. She said she didn't feel a thing. No meds, either.

You're also right about some people being unaware that they are even pregnant. I can't imagine how surprised they must be when they find out!

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posted September 08, 2006 01:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for D for Defiant     Edit/Delete Message
I will do my best to read all the post in this thread and reply to you folks in time, hopefully.

salome,

Thank you for this thread- as a woman, I, too, am concerned about motherhood, including pregnancy and how to best take care of my future children, if my future significant other wants to have children with me, of course!

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May not be able to get back to you...appreciate your say nevertheless...D

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posted September 08, 2006 01:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for salome     Edit/Delete Message

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posted December 03, 2007 12:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TINK     Edit/Delete Message
oh zaanyaaaaa ....

are you still around?

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zanya
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posted December 03, 2007 01:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanya     Edit/Delete Message
are you baking another one Tink?

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posted December 03, 2007 04:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TINK     Edit/Delete Message
I wish I were.

But I did realize that I never gave you a proper thank you for this generous dose of mama info. So thank you. The birth went well. I managed to stay home until I was ready to push, then hightailed it to the Birth Center. Quick. I never managed to explore hypno-birthing the way I wanted to, but my Bradley instructer proved to be truly wonderful. The relaxation techniques she shared were fantastic. I never felt like I needed any drugs. The classes were so imformative and empowering.

I have only two regrets ... I should have signed up for the Center's quick discharge program. Although the Birthing Center and my mid-wife were great, later in the day I was moved upstairs to a room in the regular maternity ward. I spent two miserable days fending off doctors with hepatitis vaccines and arguing with nurses who wanted to "give me a break" by bringing the baby to the nursery. And I should have gone with the cloth diapers.

Btw I ended up with a Snugli, a Hotsling, a Storch and a Ergo. I adore them all. Well worth every penny.

But my other reason for flagging you down is this - Being as I'm endlessly picking Eleanore's brain for Waldorf and Waldorf-like homeschooling methods, I thought I'd give the poor woman a break and have a look-see into your head. The bambino is only 14 months but I like to be prepared. I've done some prerequisite googling and there's a lot out there. Too much almost. What goodies do you have?

thanks again

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posted December 04, 2007 01:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanya     Edit/Delete Message
i found a lot of great waldorf education books at amazon.com.

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posted December 04, 2007 01:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanya     Edit/Delete Message

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posted December 13, 2007 07:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for TINK     Edit/Delete Message
Thank you, zanya. I knew you'd have wonderful suggestions. I did catch them and began a long winded reply ... but an unexpected lightening bolt hit, in the form of a medical crisis, and I've only now had the chance to look in again.

I have copies of Beyond the Rainbow Bridge and Seven Times the Sun. I love them both, particularly the first.

I've given this a bit of consideration the past few nights and I realize I've fallen prey to the notion of a curriculum. Wandering about orthodox home schooling sites I can't help but notice that they are following the same general curriculum as that found in public schools only, well, at home. Perhaps they take a bit more of a hands on approach - more in the way of field trips and that sort of thing. Maybe the order of the day is a bit more open to suggestion. That's nice, but I'm looking for more. Anyway, that's a considerably shorter version of my long winded ramblings.

Thanks zanya. And sorry again for the late reply.

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posted December 13, 2007 10:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanya     Edit/Delete Message
what 'more' are you looking for?

along the lines of John Holt or A.S. Neill perhaps?

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posted December 14, 2007 02:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanya     Edit/Delete Message
as much as anything, i wish to infuse my babe's life with a deep and abiding spirituality. not the retributive, fake and utterly hypocritical christianity that people attempt to pass off as spirituality, rife with delusion and self-importance.

but the truth, gentleness and inherent kindness of such a master as JC. in addition to a deep respect for all creation. that, to me, would encompass a true education.

i'd love knowing how to teach him to be true to himself, and thus to others...to find love and divinity in all that surrounds him. that, to me, would entail a truly successful growth and mastery program.

would that there were a curriculum for such as this.

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posted December 14, 2007 09:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for TINK     Edit/Delete Message
Yeah that sounds about right. Can I have that too?

"more" looking outside the box, I suppose. But I'm not sure where to start. My Steiner studies have never included his education methods. I never had any reason. So now I find myself at a loss. I could make life easier on myself and enroll him in a Waldorf school, but the two closest are each an hour drive away. Circumstances have forced me to figure things out for myself.

I don't know much about John Holt. I've run into his name several times so I suppose I should do a search. A.S. Neil ... hmmm .... I sympathize with his critical observations of orthodox schooling but only occasionally agree with his method of fixing those problems. He's approach feels to me to be based too much in pyschology and too little in spirituality. This is why I appreciate the Waldorf method.

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posted December 14, 2007 11:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanya     Edit/Delete Message
sad really, that the waldorf homeschoolers site is gone. loved that one.

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posted December 14, 2007 12:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanya     Edit/Delete Message
we have a waldorf school in close proximity. would probably have to move closer to attend, but not that far. but the tuition is equivalent to that of a good private university. i've looked at waldorf schools elsewhere, and they don't have the same sense of elitism and haughtiness as this one. they vaguely explain their enrollment as consisting of a pool of hopeful candidates. apparently most hoi polloi don't qualify...once in a great while, one highly special child will be selected to be considered, and then must be processed through a barrage of tests, interviews and appraisals, to determine if the child qualifies for consideration. after that, he is placed on 'hold', for which a $600 fee is required to remain. this doesn't go toward the tuition, or any of the other enormous fees plopped on top of the tuition. it's for the privilege of waiting to be considered only. then, his candidacy is up for acceptance or rejection. that's for candidacy, not the actual enrollment acceptance.

to be accepted seems the eqivalent of gaining a desirable position in a court of royalty. something bestowed by royal favor, and subject to revocation at any time. i return to their website every so often, thinking that i missed something the previous visit, and every time i am struck at this air of haughtiness and condescension toward would be waldorf adherents. the energy of this elitist place probably would wash us down the nearest ravine before we could even be within walking distance of the grounds.

it's so unlike what i think of as waldorf-style education. no other waldorf school site that i've seen exhibits this aura. am thinking that the children of cigarette factory workers would not be eligible here lol.

there might be waldorf homeschooling groups in your area. have you found any?

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funny thing is, elitist college prep schools do not seem to have the same quality of privilege and entitlement due and required as this waldorf school. i'm wondering if that's because of some kind of spiritual superiority that they feel they possess.

while to me, it is the very nature of this sort of spirituality infused education to have an absence of this kind of elitism.

weird.

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posted December 14, 2007 02:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for zanya     Edit/Delete Message
you might like this guy ~

http://millennialchild.com

FROM PLAYING TO THINKING

How the Kindergarten Provides a Foundation for Scientific Understanding

Eugene Schwartz

How do we educate the child in accordance with principles that ask us to honor and work with the soul and spiritual nature of the youngster? Must teachers be clairvoyant in order to be certain that they are teaching in the proper way? Clairvoyance is needed, but at first we need only the “clairvoyant” faculties that we are always using without being aware that we are using them. For example, a mother can always tell when her child is not feeling well; with some experience, she can usually tell in what way the child is not feeling well. And every teacher knows the “glow” radiated by a child who is healthy and, as we say, “full of life.” All of these judgments are based on perceptions of the activities of the child’s etheric body, whether we know it or not.

What is essential here is that we are dealing with activities, with processes, rather than with “products.” To understand the etheric body is to begin to understand those forces usually termed “creative” in the world and in the human being. Our etheric body is active in a way that our physical body is not. We go through life as physical beings in an inert, “cause and effect” manner. The etheric body works to reverse those effects suffered by the physical body in the course of daily life; it is a body of renewal and regeneration. In relation to the physical body we could also say that the etheric body works as an architect and sculptor. One need only watch children at play in the sandbox or at the seashore to see this sculptural-architectural power unconsciously at work. In later years some individuals find themselves gifted with a surplus of etheric forces, and are naturally drawn, as architects, to form majestic “bodies” in which thousands of people can worship or live, or, as sculptors, to continue to replicate their bodily form in endless permutations.

In its capacity as the “body of formative forces” the etheric body holds the memory of the form of our physical body, so that we retain a recognizable physical identity throughout our life. In spite of aging and the vicissitudes of life, fingerprints and blood types and certain facets of our body chemistry remain the same, a “signature” of the form-creating and form-maintaining activity of the etheric body. It is this particular aspect of the etheric body which goes through an important transformation after the first seven-year period in life. As the etheric body is released from its intensive and ceaseless work upon the formation of the physical body; as that body’s growth (when compared, for example, to its growth in the womb, or in the first three years of life) slows down, etheric forces are “freed” to be utilized as our power of memory.

Rudolf Steiner’s description of the etheric formative forces at this time in the child’s life is intriguing. The very same forces that “member” us, that place our heart and lungs and liver in relation to one another, that “organ”ize us into a decidedly human form, are now released to re-member, and to “organize” our life of memory. We could say that the forces of memory are at their most powerful in the first seven years of life, but Steiner is at pains to stress that they are not meant to be accessed for the purposes of memorization. In these first years of life, these forces are meant to serve the child’s growth, pure and simple. It is certainly possible to divert these forces in order to teach a young child to memorize the alphabet, or to memorize a simple reading vocabulary, or to memorize times tables. Once diverted, however, these etheric forces no longer serve their primary mission, and the membering and organization of the child’s body — the foundation for its health and vitality in later years — will be less perfect than if those forces had been allowed to go their own way. It is its recognition of the sacredness of these health-giving, creative forces that live in the child that gives the Waldorf Kindergarten its unique character.

The paradigm of “education” developed by Generation One[1] is intellectual and didactic. In this model, the teacher, and, especially in the last few years, the parent as well, is always supposed to be imparting information to the child. Much of this imparting is actually “correcting,” adjusting the child’s imperfect understanding of the world in the light of modern knowledge, and particularly modern scientific knowledge. This approach is so pervasive as to be almost invisible. How few toys are left that do not profess to be “educational toys”? How much software is sold for young consumers that is not advertised as “educational software”? Parents are encouraged to create environments for even the youngest child in which letters and numbers, abstract geometrical shapes (in mobiles or puzzles) and dolls depicting endangered species of animals will “educate” the child even when an adult is not in the room. The spectre of Generation One, the worship of the one-sided Intellect who whispers that “Knowledge is Power,” haunts the kindergarten classroom, the theme park and even the nursery.

The atmosphere of the Waldorf Kindergarten appears, at first, to be devoid of any of “educational” accoutrements. The kindergarten teacher Charlotte Comeras describes a typical Waldorf setting:

The room is warm and homelike and the teacher is busy doing one of the many tasks involved in the life of the Kindergarten. If there is another adult in the room, he or she also will be occupied with something or other — maybe carding wool to make a puppet, or mending a torn play-cloth. Around the room are baskets filled with pieces of wood, fircones or large pebbles from the beach. Others are piled high with play-cloths or pieces of muslin in beautiful soft colors, all neatly folded and waiting to become whatever the children need them to be: the roof or wall of the house, the sea, pasture for sheep to graze, a shawl for a baby or a veil for a queen. The possibilities are limitless. On a shelf stand many puppets: a prince, a farmer and his wife, a child, a wise old woman...They can bring a castle to life or make a farm, re-enact a scene of human activity or be used to tell a story. These are just a few of the many things that the children will see when they come into the Kindergarten.[2]

Of no less significance than what is in the kindergarten room is what is not in the kindergarten room: there are no “educational toys,” (there are vey few objects that could be construed as “toys” at all), there are no books, no posters, no bulletin boards, no computers. There is none of the hardware issued by the Industrial-Educational Complex, and there is no software (unless we want to count soft dolls of wool and cotton as “software”). For eyes accustomed to the Generation One model of mainstream education, there is nothing recognizably “educative” about such a space; pedagogically speaking, it would appear to be something of a Black Hole. It is no wonder that a respected independent school headmaster, serving on an accreditation committee that was visiting Green Meadow Waldorf School in New York State, remarked after his initial visit to the kindergarten, “This room is like something out of the nineteenth century!”

Unlike the assertively educational objects and spaces that fill a mainstream kindergarten room, the environs of a Waldorf kindergarten take on meaning only when there are children present who can imbue them with meaning:

...the children will each find their own way in their own time. Some, drawn to the adults and whatever they are doing, will want to do it too, or to help; whilst others, possibly the very youngest, will be happy to watch silently, taking in every detail, every movement. Other children will know exactly what they want to do: build huge suspension bridges with planks, logs and bits of woolen rope, or make a house for themselves, using clothes horses and colored play-cloths. It may take a while for the children to sort themselves out and find their playmates. Sometimes a little unobtrusive adult-guidance is needed to bring this about, but as much as possible the adults carry on with their own work, yet, at the same time being aware of everything going on in the room.[3]

The “play-cloth,” mentioned often by Comeras, is the “archetypal plaything” of the Waldorf kindergarten. This is a large cloth of cotton (or cotton gauze, or sometimes silk) which has been dyed with natural plant colors. Compared to a plastic action figure, it is soft and devoid of form; compared to an “educational” pull-toy, it is immobile, has no parts, and so specific function. The play-cloth is as close to a non-thing as a child can come; it is almost nothing; but, as Faust tells Mephistopheles, “Within that Nothing I will find my All!” Even Mary Sheedy Kurcinka, in discussing choices made by “spirited” children among the predominantly plastic educational toys available in a completely conventional setting, observes that

. . . . most spirited kids like toys that allow them to use their imagination. Items such as little toy people, blocks, Legos, Fisher-Price play houses, musical and story tapes, and dress-up clothes are favorites. These are all toys that can be used in many different ways. There isn’t one correct answer. Most spirited kids won’t look twice at toys that have one “right” way to play with them. This includes puzzles, many board games, cards, and peg boards. If your spirited children enjoy puzzles, watch how they actually use them. In most cases the pieces are being employed as pretend food, space ships, and other inventive creations![4]

Following a lecture given to an audience of parents unfamiliar with Waldorf educational ideas, I visited the home of a family I’ll call the Smiths. As we sat and talked, little Cynthia Smith, a vital and awake two-and-a-half year-old who has already opened her front gate and taken walks (on her own) quite some distance from home, was exploring an even stranger world — that of educational toys. She had come upon a toy composed of several sections of plastic pipe. Each section had a “male” and “female” end, as they say. Cynthia had taken the sections apart and was now attempting to put them back together. For some time, she tried to place two male ends together, undoubtedly perceiving that since they looked alike, they must “belong” together. She tried, and tried, and tried again, but the sections fell apart. Finally she matched a male end to a female end and the sections slid smoothly together. Repeating what she had just learned, Cynthia was able to reassemble the whole pipe; once that task was done, she moved on to something else.

A child psychologist would probably proclaim Cynthia’s discovery to be a “developmental step,” or “a watershed in growth;” one school of psychology might even assert that she had gained some understanding of human sexuality through her interaction with those male and female endings. But in learning that there is only one way in which to combine those sections of pipe, Cynthia had also accepted a contraction in her realm of possibilities, a cramping of her creative potential. One pipe-fitting does not make for a prison cell, of course, and Cynthia soon found her way to a formless and yielding pile of leaves in which she played happily by the hour. Yet toy after toy, “educational experience” after educational experience slowly but surely teaches the malleable soul of the child, so filled with possibilities, that life is but a series of one-way streets which never converge and have no destination.

The play-cloths and other objects found in the Waldorf kindergarten are deliberately “incomplete” in nature. A lot of room is left for the child’s active imagination to “finish” the plaything, but that process of completion is never dictated by the object itself. The etheric forces of the child, engaged in ceaselessly imbuing the child with life, are mobile enough to imbue any object to which the child turns her attention with “life” as well. If the object broadly suggests a human or animal form — and we need think only of the venerable rag dolls and wooden hobby horses of childhood past (they are still to be found in the Waldorf kindergarten!) the child is well able to give the plaything a voice, a personality, moods and appetites.

A kindergarten teacher who had been trained in both the Montessori and Waldorf methods took a leave from teaching in order to raise her own family. After several years she started a home playgroup for children of nursery and kindergarten age. Since she still had the supplies and accoutrements gathered during her years of practicing both methods, she set up two rooms in her house as a “Waldorf Room” and a “Montessori Room.” She learned that whenever a newcomer joined the playgroup, the experienced children would point to the Waldorf Room and say, “That’s the room where you’re allowed to pretend,” and then point to the Montessori Room and say, “And that’s the room where you’re not.”

Toys that are already formed to provide an exact semblance of physical life, e.g., dolls that are “anatomically correct” (a beloved educational tool), whose eyes open and close, whose innards contain synthesized “cries” and “voices,” or “action figures” whose hard limbs are encased in futuristic armor, etc., leave the child with little or nothing to add. Play with such toys is merely physical, for the life-forces have no outlet when confronted with a finished product. Boredom sets in easily, and the only solution appears to be buying yet another toy to add to the collection. The kindergartener is already learning how to become a consumer, rather than a creator.

In the past, children played with their toys; today, we might say that the toys do the playing, and the child watches. Television, of course, heightens this experience. Within the tube, people (or their cartoon equivalents) are running, dancing, juggling, flying, swimming and, of course, wielding very powerful weapons. Outside the tube the child is sitting, or reclining, moving only his eyes. Children are fast losing their instinctive sense for play. Learning how to play must become an essential element in the life of the kindergarten. Charlotte Comeras describes the children’s activities:

We use the word creative, but really, what they are doing for a large part of the time is recreating. They play house, cooking, cleaning, taking care of babies, or they make a shop with everything carefully laid out for the customers to come and buy. Children visit friends in other houses and sit drinking cups of tea and they will all leave their houses to ride on a bus or train that is just about to leave the station. All these things are part of their daily lives and now they re-enact what they have seen the grown-ups doing and thereby enter into the activities in their own way.

For the young child there is no separation between work and play — all play is work and all work is play...We see how strong is the necessity, in each child’s own being, to imitate what they experience around them and thereby find their relationship to the world. Through this recreative play, they start to gain a healthy orientation to life, and through this process of learning, and understanding their environment, they can feel more secure and at home in it.[5]

One of the more popular attractions on the Waldorf kindergarten playground is the seesaw or teeter-totter (many kindergartens have an indoor equivalent for rainy days, as well). This is an eminently social plaything; each child depends on her companion, at the other end, to shift the balance sufficiently so that she can rise or descend. Now and then a mischievous child will discover that, by leaning back when he is on the ground he can keep his counterpart up in the air, or that by crawling along the plank towards its center-point, he can make it very difficult for his friend to lift him up. Such a playground experience offers many lessons about the “give-and-take” of social situations, in the kindergarten and beyond. These are lessons which go more deeply than the best-intentioned teacher’s imprecations to “please share with your friends, please wait for others to go first, please be considerate of those around you!” The teeter-totter works on the non-verbal, pre-intellectual “visceral” level which is the most active component of the kindergartener’s nature; through her will, the child embodies a relationship to the world which will only later awaken in her feeling life and still later in her conscious life of thoughts.

Several years later, many of the same children return to the kindergarten playground with their seventh grade teacher. She allows them to play freely for a few minutes, and then has them gather around the seesaw. Now she directs them to observe carefully what happens as two seventh-graders, equal in size, sit at opposite ends of the plank and move each other up and down. Two youngsters then sit at one end: can they be lifted by one child? What has to change for this to happen? Is anything altered when youngsters sit at different places on the plank? The next day, a stump and a long four-by-eight plank are used to create a much larger seesaw with a moveable center point, and on the third day groups of seventh graders are working in the classroom with calibrated “New York balances” to reproduce their outdoor experiments with accurate measurements and corroboration from their classmates. Now the algebra that they have recently learned is put into service and they learn the Law of the Lever:

Effort times Effort Arm Distance equals Weight times Weight Arm Distance

or

E(ED)=W(WD)

The children’s kindergarten experiences on the somatic level of will have percolated through the life of their feelings for seven or eight years and are now ready to “bubble up” in the form of thoughts in seventh grade. The highly abstract equation which expresses the Law of the Lever is nothing but an abstraction for all too many of today’s American children who have had little experience interacting through active play. For a child who spent two or three years in a Waldorf kindergarten, E(ED)=W(WD) is nothing less than the expression of a rich store of memories that live on in the youngster’s etheric/physical nature. Indeed, we might say that the child who plays creatively in those formative first seven years of life will have the potential for a far more “inner” and living grasp of the laws of physics than a child who was little more than a passive observer in that period of life.

The importance of play as an element in scientific understanding – indeed, as an essential part of scientific discovery – is powerfully illustrated by an incident in the life of the physicist and Nobel laureate Richard Feynman. In his autobiographical collection, “Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman!” he describes a period in his life when he found himself at an impasse concerning his research work:

Then I had another thought: Physics disgusts me a little bit now, but I used to enjoy doing physics. Why did I enjoy it? I used to play with it. I used to do whatever I felt like doing – it didn’t have to do with whether it was important for the development of nuclear physics, but whether it was interesting and amusing for me to play with. . . . I’d invent things and play with things for my own entertainment.

So I got this new attitude. Now that I am burned out and I’ll never accomplish anything, . . . I’m going to play with physics, whenever I want to, without worrying about any importance whatsoever.

Within a week I was in the cafeteria and some guy, fooling around, throws a plate in the air. As the plate went up in the air I saw it wobble, and I noticed the red medallion of Cornell on the plate going around. It was pretty obvious to me that the medallion went around faster than the wobbling. . . .

[Feynman then describes the extensive research in which he engaged in order to understand the wobbling phenomenon.]

It was effortless. It was easy to play with these things. It was like uncorking a bottle: Everything flowed out effortlessly. I almost tried to resist it! There was no importance to what I was doing, but ultimately there was. The diagrams and the whole business that I got the Nobel Prize for came from that piddling around with the wobbling plate.[6]

The neurologist Oliver Sacks has enumerated the rich variety of experiences that can be had by the child or adult in swimming, as the human will encounters the classical “element” of water:

Duns Scotus, in the thirteenth century, spoke of “condelectari sibi,” the will finding delight in its own exercise…There is an essential rightness about swimming, as about all such flowing, and, so to speak, musical activities. And then there is the wonder of buoyancy, of being suspended in the thick, transparent medium that supports and embraces us. One can move in water, play with it, in a way that has no analogue in the air. One can explore its dynamics, its flow, this way and that; one can move one’s hands like propellers or direct them like little rudders; one can become a little hydroplane or submarine, investigating the physics of flow with one’s own body.[7]

The passive attitude encouraged by toys that do everything for the child, but nothing with him, is further exacerbated by the prevailing urban and suburban modern lifestyle in which there is no longer time for chores to be learned and performed. As time seems to accelerate and socio-economic pressures lead to two-career families, the many hours a week that it would take to teach a child to help prepare a soup or wash the dishes are given over to homework, or “recreation” in front of the TV or stereo. As mechanical and electronic “servants” appear to bear most of the burden of cooking and cleaning, the young child has no human model to imitate in relation to the simplest tasks of life. The archetypal movements and rhythms that underlie such activities as sweeping, stirring, kneading and washing, gestures which have formed the bodies and wills of human beings for countless generations, are rapidly disappearing in the lives of American children. The Millennial Child, who carries such powerful will impulses, is provided with little that can tame and form and heal them.

For this reason the Waldorf kindergarten fosters an atmosphere akin to that of the “home and hearth” that is fast disappearing from American family life. Every day of the week is devoted to a different cooking or baking task (Monday is “Bread-Baking Day,” Tuesday is “Vegetable Soup-Cooking Day,” etc.) taken up by the teachers. For the most part, children are not asked to help; the teachers know that as they begin to slice the vegetables or knead the dough the children’s curiosity, imitativeness and, above all, their playful love of work, will lead to ask if they can help. And so they learn to slice vegetables evenly, to see, and smell, and taste their transformation as they are stirred and boiled up — and seven or eight years later, as they study the phenomena of organic chemistry, the powerful sensory experiences of kindergarten will arise and foster the adolescent’s ability to grasp them on a conceptual level.

By first educating the will through providing the child with experiences of playing and doing, the Waldorf kindergarten gives the Millennial Child the physical and etheric foundation for her future development. By respecting the work of the etheric “life” forces upon the physical body, the kindergarten teacher assures that all that the child learns in these years will be alive and will have a relation to “real life.” It is not a matter of “teaching morality” to young children, but rather helping the child to imitatively develop habits which awaken her to the powerful forces of will that she possesses as a birthright. By recognizing that in this first seven-year period the child is predominantly a being of will, we can understand that the kindergarten she attends is not only responsible for nurturing her health, but for cultivating her future relationship to her own deeds. Thus creative play and the cultivation of meaningful habits can become the foundation for moral action in later years.

It is ironic that many observers of the Waldorf kindergarten, such as the headmaster referred to above, initially perceive it as a “sheltered” situation. To a degree, this is true: during the school day, Waldorf kindergartners are protected from the media, electronic devices, synthetic noises and processed foods. On the other hand, unlike most urban and suburban preschoolers, Waldorf kindergarteners are exposed to a great deal as well: the realities of food preparation, the wind, the rain, warmth and cold, brambles and briars (on their daily walks); in some settings, they encounter sheep and goats, chickens and ponies, birds and fish, in all their raw reality, uncaged and unlabelled. (Encountering animals who are unaccompanied by explanatory labels or animated software may not be “educational,” but such meetings are memorable and very real.) So which child is the “sheltered” one, and which is the child really meeting life? Returning to the independent school headmaster I quoted earlier, I will note what he said on the last day of his visit:

When I first saw the Waldorf kindergarten room, I thought to myself, “This room is like something out of the nineteenth century!” But after spending a week on your campus, watching the little children play and watching the older kids learn, I realize now that this school is providing education for the twenty-first century!

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