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sVirgo5
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posted January 12, 2019 07:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My Mom is 82 years old. She is worried that she is about to die, she started talking too much. She does not sleep in night and awakes everyone. In day, she is sleeping almost all the time. She does not like to take shower, just like to keep laying on bed. She needs help to get out of bed. She stopped watching TV or listening to music. She asks everyone to help her in die because she is scared.
What could we do to keep this age group happy?
I don't know what is going in her mind.

I have seen other elders in my family dying, and some of them had Alzheimer nearly 2-3 years before death. They started talking about their own young age, etc, and stopped recognizing their family members.

I feel helpless what could I do except praying for her from far. She is in India with her son's family.

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posted January 12, 2019 07:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anonymidarkness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My grandparents are around the same age, and they too go through this perhaps daily, grandfather is more accepting of it even though he has always been rather fearful of death, perhaps his love for money even now(some taurus placements I think lol) also helps to give him some hope, whereas granny has this tendency to not eat, says she lost her appetite for morning and day meals, but enjoys the dinner. It's sad though for me to watch them in their prime, when they were full of life to watching them slowly staring at life in dismay. The best company they have is each other really, they still nag each other even today and grandpa even skips meals over some quarrels even today lol. I think the best thing would be to listen to them and communicate with them, give them some company, even if they talk about death, its ok.

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posted January 12, 2019 10:43 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That’s good, your Grandfather and Granny has each other company.

I hope that I could keep my Mom involved in something to be motivated to be alive. In past I used to keep giving her some good news or so to keep looking in future, now she says she has no interest anymore except catch people around her to talk. Not everyone has patience to listen her and talk about death and her sickness all the time. We four siblings all are talking to her everyday a few times but her stamina to talk has increased.

I am discussing here that may be I could get some idea to change her mind and thoughts. I am keeping her in my prayers.

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posted January 27, 2019 07:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted January 27, 2019 08:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ballerina     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
sVirgo5

I left you a message in
Astrology 2.0, on your
topic...

I have missed you so much!

I am sorry to hear about your
Mom...
This is what I felt as I read
your words...
She is talking about death
so much, because she wants to
know how you all feel about it..
In order to die, we must agree
that we are ready to move on...
I feel she hasn't decided!
Perhaps due to fear...

..and she wants to make sure
you're all going to be alright...

I can tell you that there is
nothing to be afraid of,
when it comes, you become
unconscious, there is no
fear, there is the most
beautiful peace, and you
have come home to God Source...

Can anyone take her out
and about? For an ice-cream,
or something, or someplace
she really enjoys?

Big hug of Love...

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All my love, with all my Heart
lotusheartone/Emeraldopal

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posted January 27, 2019 08:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for your presence! I missed you too.

Yes, I am sVirgo and you are the heart of lotus, if I am correct.

Yes, I feel the same what you are saying. My all brothers and sister had started fighting in themselves due to her. She is behaving weird, and the whole family started fighting and pointing fingers on each other.

That is why I suggested to take her to old age home, at least then I might be able to talk with her in peace else I feel I have called in fish market,, everyone fighting and using abusive words.

Thank you so much! Your words mean a lot for me.

Glad to see you here!

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posted January 27, 2019 08:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ballerina     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
O my gosh, I am literally
jumping up and down, and
trying to type ..
I am so glad to see you!!!

The only problem with a
nursing home, is the stigma
of going there to die. ...
I'm not sure she's ready,
she's a fighter...

I would calmly ask your
siblings, if this is what
they want her to see and
hear before she goes...
Even if it's not for another
20 years!

O, and yes, it's me!!!

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All my love, with all my Heart
lotusheartone/Emeraldopal

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posted January 27, 2019 08:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I want my Mom leaves this life in one of my siblings lap comfortably. You are absolutely right as you are always, "my Mom is a fighter"

I totally agree that it's not good for her to go to nursing home. My mom calls me, crying that she is laying on wet bed and no one there to change her clothes. She didn't have her food etc. on time, which all makes me feel helpless.

Then I call my siblings to go and check on her, and they all start arguing.

I will also send light of love to my siblings and my mother.

I will talk again with them, and see if something works out for her.

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posted January 27, 2019 09:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ballerina     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Or send someone else from
the family, maybe a friend,
to come once a day and check
in on her.
Please don't be hard on
yourself for not being there,
she knows your Heart...

I still have the same email,
if you don't have it, let me
know...

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All my love, with all my Heart
lotusheartone/Emeraldopal

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posted January 27, 2019 09:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, I have your email id.

You read my heart, I was thinking to send an email to a friend in India. I was just hesitating to bring him in.

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posted January 27, 2019 09:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ballerina     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do it!
Giggles

My heart is all warm and fuzzy...

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All my love, with all my Heart
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mirage29
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posted January 28, 2019 11:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You said you are trying to cheer her up?

Could I suggest?
Maybe just LET her talk about her fears, talk about death, and her being afraid she will die.

The best thing you could do is "listen".. Listen with strength-inside you and an open heart. Be a "presence" while she processes her emotions.

Our emotions are a VERY very important part of ourselves. These should not be suppressed (for her) as it ADDS to her fears and sends her into a state of isolation-- depressions.

Time for your family to 'get it together' and allow it to be about 'her' and who she IS as a soul who senses fear right now.

BE her open and loving Strength.
Give permission for a breakdown of tears, and all the honest words she would say. These are her FEELINGS that need to be heard, and witnesses.

When you really "listen" .. then the person is incredibly relieved-- AND, they find the spark of hope again inside, which ADDS to health and being alive.

Honor your mother .. as a Being .
There is wisdom you can glean for your self through watching and processing (in yourself, and privately with the others you trust) what you are feeling.

"IF" she has dementia or mind disease, then "she" can't help it. But she will STILL sense your reactions and maybe deeply inwardly be triggered by what she unconsciously 'fears' about what she 'perceives' in your own behavior toward her.

SOMETIMES, there are transits (long but get overcomed) that can cause 'confusions' for a while, fuzziness-- or anger/frustration transits.

Check out her chart!?

Here is an article I found that talk about Elder Transits (but doesn't quite go up to your grandmother's age??.. she could still be in the influence though).

This will be good for your OWN appreciation too.

Saturn-square-saturn, and Jupiter Return, cycles
AND
at 82 years old---
Neptune opp Neptune, and Uranus Returns

- http://www.pathofthemother.com/the_archetype_of_an_elder_127196.htm

Other references for general--
- http://www.wellbeing.com.au/mind-spirit/what-does-your-astrological-generatio n-say-about-you.html

- http://www.astro.com/astrology/in_midlife_e.htm

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posted January 29, 2019 11:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks mirage29!

I try everyday for her to speak, and I think she is afraid, she does not speak much. I feel crying, when I hear her talking to me like 6 year old child and scared of some school teacher, or bad parents. She was ok a month ago.

She complains all the time she is hungry and wants fried food, ice cream etc.

We are arranging for her old age home, and she will be going their today. I think now she is happy that she is going somewhere, where she will get some company of other old age females.

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posted January 30, 2019 02:00 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Shulia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

I would say first of all try to not feel guilty because that feelings won't bring her light.

You love her and she knows that in her soul, and that is the only real thing more than if you are phisically there or not.

Its difficult to keep yourself happy and going on with your life when your family members are sick.

But its the only way to actually help them. To keep yourself happy so you have happiness to give to them.

I am sure you mom feels proud and happy that you have your projects and have maybe a family and your own life even if it is somewhere else, and she feels your love.

If you call her and show her your love and try to make her feel that she doesnt have to just surrender to death , I think thats the best.

With my grandmother ... she was so sick but she got better when me and my cousins were going there singing her songs from when she was young because she was a great dancer.

With the enthusiasm of trying to sing and dance the songs she could move her paralized leg again and she recovered her voice.

I felt guilty sometimes when I was away from her but she always said that seeing her daugther and grandaughter happy is what gave her the most peace and feeling of having had a meaningfull life.

So... try to love yourself a lot, to know that you are doing everything you can and to try to give her hope throught the distance.

The will power can imdeed make miracles.

Doctors said my grandma's leg was lost.
That she will never move again.
She was so stuborn that she said she will move it again and she did.

My prayers are with you.

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posted February 02, 2019 09:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
sVirgo5 .. I hope your Mom will be happy in her new home. Maybe she was feeling 'the transition' that she maybe knew had to happen?

You said
"I totally agree that it's not good for her to go to nursing home.
My mom calls me,
crying that she is laying on wet bed and no one there to change her clothes.
She didn't have her food etc. on time,
which all makes me feel helpless.

Then I call my siblings to go and check on her,
and they all start arguing."
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sVirgo---- *Heart*

WHO was taking care of your Mom???
Was it one of your siblings (her children)??

You said she was 'in' a nursing home...??
So, you are actually transferring her to a different one?

I'm confused.

You say that 'you' felt helpless?

I'd say, gently, consider that 'she' felt MORE helpless, laying there wet, unchanged, and unfed??

sVirgo… that can be categorized as "abuse."

Her acting (regressed) like a 6 yr old might have been out of extreme-fear (psychologically)!

The age of 6 years old is usually a "transition" age too. Back in the days when she was a girl in school, 6 years old was the first step OUT of the family home, to meet people/strangers who were not your relatives or recognizable extended family.

If her basic needs were 'not' being taken care of-- whether at a nursing home, or inside the care of one of your sibling's home-- then, she must have been scared out of her wits???!! On TOP of that??, then to be picked-out as 'the object' of the children's fighting and terrible words and arguments???

It's a good thing that you placed her 'in a Home' .. because the home she was IN, was not taking proper care and responsibility for her, in her MOST vulnerable state of being!

Was she brought to the USA out of the home with son in India?

Coddle her a while (if she's regressed), WITHOUT "faking" it and making her feel like she's patronized. As she snaps out of it, she 'may' return back to a more 'normal' state. Don't treat her like she's a loon. She can 'sense' that!!, no matter what you "think" she looks like out the outside. Treat her with LovingKindness and Compassion.

Are you 'assuming' it is medically Alzheimer's?
(Some elder-transits can "mimic" those symptoms-- then they try to "medicate" unruly-appearing symptoms away, and the side-effects of certain psychotropic drugs can make them MUCH worse??)

Let it be a real Nurturing and Genuine Affection that you give her... Watch her 'come back' to her self-- It could be that WITH your Love, and her being IN a place that gives her security, a 'regular' predictable schedule, (and some fellowship and entertainment with others her age), that she can find herself again.

Hugs & PRAYERS for Your Mom, AND for You!


And, I hope you are making good recovery from your own surgery. Good to have that stress off your life now? *hug*

(music) Sending You Light (Melanie Demore) [3:39] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSNQFstyu_s

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posted February 02, 2019 09:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Shulia .. I was charmed by your story.
And amazed by her recovery.
Surely, what your little group did for her, added to that!

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posted February 02, 2019 11:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks mirage29!

I am sorry, I was mumbling too. Let me share, as I always feel Linda land as my friendly place.

I am in US and my brothers and sister are in India. My mom always lived alone in India after my Dad's death(17 years ago).

One of my brother took her to his place in December to take her care because she was having nightmares that someone was in her rest room, and laughing on her, she was scared alone.

When she went to my brother's house, all of .a sudden she started changing and said that she is dying and she could see someone and wake up at 3 am and scream and cry for help.

I call her everyday, and slowly I found she started complaining against my brother and his wife that they are not taking care of her. The she started speaking in abusive language to them(which I didn't hear) but I heard from my brothers family and from my sister.

In front of me, her story was like a little child and begging me to send her to hospital because she could not breathe well. I arranged from here her hospital and ambulance in India to take her because no one was believing her.

Then she was brought back from hospital after some time spend in intensive care unit and when she went to hospital her hemoglobin level was 2.5 and now it is 8.

Then she was dropped in her home alone again. where she was crying and started begging in front of me again that she could not live there and no one there to take care of her. My brothers and sister complained against her that she speaks in abusive language to them and they can't stand it. She never spoke to me in abusive language.

So finally I have arrange for her old age, it's been a few days living there, I feel change in her. She wants to listen music and watch TV and now she is behaving again normal.

I have no idea what happened to her around Dec till end of January. She lived alone from so long, with no complains, I wish she stays the same.
I visit her almost every year.

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posted February 02, 2019 11:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you so much, I believe in prayers, and I am praying for her too. I asked her too to pray for herself.

"Hugs & PRAYERS for Your Mom, AND for You!"

It's working!

She is feeling much better.

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posted February 03, 2019 04:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
SVirgo.. I want to compliment you for your interventions for your Mother's sake. You took compassionate authority, and from the US!!!!! wow, you called India and GOT results.

That son she lived with seemed NOT to be taking care of her! (negligence)

And at 82 years old, maybe it was time that she NOT 'be all alone' in her house anymore, without some kind of companion or daily visitor that looked after her wellbeing.

She wasn't kidding when she was saying that she felt she was going to die! With her hemoglobin being THAT low, she was really factually feeling low-energy, and this could have also been behind some of the "seeming-psychological/behavioral" symptoms being described. It was physically based!!
{{Her SON, whom she lived with, should have picked up on that! Instead, he was ready to call her a mental-behavioral case??!!! ..
He was not "fit" to take care of her. }}

I'm GLAD there was a 'medical' intervention, and that you oversaw her going into a place that specializes in caring for elders and the whole gamut of their needs.

You did the Right thing by her! ..

Blessings and big hug!
She has started to recover. Fantastic News!!!

Makes me Feel Like Dancing!!

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posted February 04, 2019 12:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks mirage29!

It's sad to see and hear all this for me.

"She wasn't kidding when she was saying that she felt she was going to die! With her hemoglobin being THAT low, she was really factually feeling low-energy, and this could have also been behind some of the "seeming-psychological/behavioral" symptoms being described. It was physically based!!
{{Her SON, whom she lived with, should have picked up on that! Instead, he was ready to call her a mental-behavioral case??!!! ..
He was not "fit" to take care of her. }}"

I totally agree, her behavior was due to her health problems.

I wish that my siblings too understand the happiness for mother.

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posted February 04, 2019 10:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It might just be a lack of knowledge and awareness of mother as a person, her own person and what an elder begins to have to unravel and face as 'end of life' comes.

There are health concerns that come that had never been faced before, with the slowing down of abilities with the body.

Way before I had been into astrology (and understanding some of the apparent and even consciousness-altering passing effects of outer-planet transits-- Neptune, Uranus),

I remember the 'sense' of my grandparents, and catching little snatches of things that were of concern with them-- but never really having figured it out, until I was older and able to see the pieces of their life from a more seasoned perspective.

There was, 'generally', some kind of shifting for them as they approached the final few years of their 60s to start of 70; then later 70s into 80. There was some kind of 'hump' or 'valley' they passed through.

I myself (of course) have entered the start of elder years. I am "alone" as my own children turned their backs on me several decades ago, for being 'poor' (financially). I see stories of 'abuse' and am personally low-level background terrified. I don't have an 'advocate', like YOU were able to do and be, for your own mother-- and I am sooo impressed, that you were able to accomplish what you did from half-way around the world. You deserve AWESOME credit for that...

Anyways. I'm kind of in a space of smaller milder heart-brokenness today.. so, please excuse me. Dealing with my 'own' losses, the loss of sense of original family that would have been-there for me. I'd be lying to deny the far-background sense of terror I experience, being alone in life.
I must have more Faith, .

I absorbed a LOT of information from the atmosphere of my family and extendeds, while I was with them growing up. My original family relocated, and we were cut-off from them, from their 'village-type' support.

There are 'little' things I still remember, and my heart breaks-over in tiny ways. As a more mature adult, I now 'understand' a whole lot more of what my grands were psychologically moving through during the times I remembered.

Just generally, part of what I perceive in society right now? .. is that folks are sooo DRIVEN by money, and working and ambition, of hoarding, excluding (cutting), and of surviving, that a coldness, stoneheartedness, or detachment has occurred as an unintended consequence? We've started regarding the rest of the world, as though it is 'just a movie'?

I ADMIRE families that are really tight-knit, and who are caring and concerned for each other. Not everyone had toxic dysfunction.

Most people are just "too busy." Driven, and busy.
Need to slow down... and, feel and consider.

(music) Cats in the Cradle (Harry Chapin) [5:02] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=etundhQa724

My family (of immediate origin) was really dysfunctional.. oh nooo. I HAD learned a very valuable lesson from my dad (who basically ignored me for being 'a girl'! He had his 3 sons to pour into. *smile*).

He was a mechanic (and a woodworker). I overheard him saying that if something isn't fitting, then don't force it. You must stop, and look around. There's something else wrong than what you think.

This really came home to me one day, as I was helping my year-old daughter put on her little winter coat. She was fussy. We were leaving a crowded restaurant. It was her nap-time too.

I started putting her arm into the jacket.
She began squalling, screaming, and fussing and crying.

In suspended freeze-frame, I started to remember how my own mother (in the same situation) would have SHOVED this child's arm INTO that coat, and FORCED her. This child's seeming "resistance" would have been read "behaviorally" as being rebellious of wanting to put her jacket on-- as though it were a personal affront to her own authority.

Then, I remembered 'hearing' my dad's voice saying that when things don't fit, then stop and look around for another reason rather than 'force' it.

Very gently, and lovingly, I retracted the child's arm from the sleeve, and found that some nylon threads had tangled and caught-up around her tiny fingers.
.. HAD I 'been my mother', and FORCED her arm through the sleeve, the child would have had bleeding cuts in the webs in-between her fingers.

I've NEVER forgotten that moment!

But that's the image that came forth while I was reading your siblings' reaction to your mom. There was "something else" going on with her, that the others had failed to perceive. They read her behaviors as an affront to them personally, interested in 'shoving' their own agendas and thoughts. Unconsciously not knowing, they did not have the awareness to consider instead, that 'something else' could have been going on-- not the thing that was "apparent."

I think that copious forgiveness, and some humility, are in-order for those siblings, as a "lesson learned". NO judgment. Grace!! and letting go.

It ALL is working out.. Working out better than anyone could have thought of?

Hopefully, this will be a good place, a professional place?

Your mom will have activities there, and be able to feel a 'part of' something with 'familiarity' (which would be the vibe of others in her own age-bracket). The practice of nostalgia IS very important. It helps to Process their life, and 'taste' what had happened, and share.

Through the sharing, it is possible for folks of younger generations to glean some wisdoms for their own lives.

Anyways-- I send you *hugs*, and sweet Blessings on your day, and over your Life.

You did a very Good thing.

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posted February 05, 2019 12:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for sVirgo5     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks mirage29 for sharing your beautiful thoughts!

You have explained so well and how open your heart is.

As you said "I must have more Faith"

I believe the same, I have faith too.

"
There was, 'generally', some kind of shifting for them as they approached the final few years of their 60s to start of 70; then later 70s into 80. There was some kind of 'hump' or 'valley' they passed through."

I observed that too, when every year I saw my Mom growing old, all I did is to give her lots of hugs, and cook food for her, dry-clean her clothes, and drink cup of tea in her company - the most loving moments and listen her same story multiple times and enjoy.

"is that folks are sooo DRIVEN by money, and working and ambition, of hoarding, excluding (cutting), and of surviving, that a coldness, stoneheartedness, or detachment has occurred as an unintended consequence?"

I think there is similar pattern in my case too, my siblings were also not well financially at one time but now their children are grown up and earning well. However, considering parents as your own family member is the missing realization.

My Mom is coming back in her senses, which is great for me. I feel blessed to have parent on my head.

I can't forget the days when my Dad missed his responsibility to take care, and my Mom used to knit sweaters to pay her children school fees and arrange some food sometimes just one meal a day. I loved both my Dad and Mom.

However, whatever I saw, I kept talking to God since I was little and just wanted to concentrate on my studies and that's how I reached here as a Software Engineer 19 years ago.


It's nice to share and hearing your thoughts.

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posted February 10, 2019 05:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I've enjoyed your posts very much too.
Thank you for so graciously reading my input-- even when it made you sad?
(THAT makes 'me' sad, too--??)
I abhor it when people Hurt, at any time. *hug*

You are a really fine Daughter.
So observant, too!

You noted the patterns I talked about, with your own relatives. Thanks for the validation.

Celebrate You!!!
You helped your mom {and solved problem with siblings} with the highly stressed and difficult situation they were ALL in-- doing so, from half-a-world away!!

Software Engineer.. for 19 years?!!
Another reason that your Mom {and hopefully entire family} would be Proud that you accomplished this.

Seriously.
Please realize, that YOU saved her Life.
{{And God is Pleased}}

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You're from Washington???
Heard that they were dumped with one year's worth of snow 'ALL in ONE day' there, the other day.

Stay Bundled, Dry, and Warm! *heart*

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