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Topic: Marriage Is Outdated!
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Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted March 05, 2011 04:56 PM
  
I really don't know whether "weddings" are for the woman or not.You'd be surprised how traditional some men are - particularly in certain cultures.
If she has a ring on her finger - she is owned and branded. In any case -- I am not interested in marriage. I could care less either way. I do believe in God but I don't feel as though the marriage ceremony or the contract itself would bring me closer to a person. When it comes to social acceptance -- de facto couples are not looked down upon in my generation (Although, if they were it still wouldn't phase me).
And legally, at least in Australia you have very similar rights to a wife - if you have lived with a man as a de facto partner for a certain amount of time. It's neither here nor there for me. The guy I am with now wants to marry me. If I do marry him one day - it will be like a party from my perspective -- just like any other party, but with me and him as the -focus-. IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 06, 2011 10:59 PM
A party is a good way to look at it.IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted March 07, 2011 10:19 PM
At least there is cake!  IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 07, 2011 10:28 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
At least there is cake!
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abcd efg
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From: India
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted June 06, 2011 11:04 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Negative. I've had long-term relationships, but I am always up-front about my views on marriage. Marriage doesn't benefit the guy. Weddings are for the woman.
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Originally posted by LEXX:
Well in my experience.....
and personal observations......
seems the men get most of the benefits.
The woman is not appreciated because he feels he owns her, and it is harder for her to just leave him.
I don't think I will get married again.
Some legal arrangement/agreement perhaps......
but not married.
At least that is how I feel at the moment.
I do not like being owned and unappreciated and being a legal drudge slave.
Guys usually treat girlfriends and mistresses way better.
Same pic here in India. Phewwwww! Is there any other world where we can choose to be born in the next birth? LOL (I mean a world where these things don't happen?) IP: Logged |
gijoe728
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From: Columbia, SC, USA
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 20, 2011 12:46 PM
I like your thoughts Randall they reflect much of my own. I have been engaged twice in my short time on this planet and I thank the powers that be that it didn't work out because both would have ended in divorce. Which I have watched many and none have been pleasant!Taking into account the separation of Church and State I don't feel like marriage should prove anything legally since it is before God. A Civil Union or as you put Life partnership is what should matter in legal reference. If people choose to get "Married before God" on top of that, I have no problem acknowledging there commitment spiritually. I personally oppose marriage for the fact that it has no justification legally and I don't believe in the Christian God so I shouldn't have to get married before him to make my partnership with someone legal. Making a legal contract in and out of a partnership sounds much better to me. ------------------
Joe We have good days and bad days but they are all beautiful in their own way! :yinyang: IP: Logged |
Venus
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posted June 21, 2011 01:51 AM
i dont get it, if two people are in love and vow to spend the rest of their lives together then whats wrong with getting married?i think people who oppose it are simply not confident of their comitment, they always keep a safe way out.. IP: Logged |
gijoe728
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From: Columbia, SC, USA
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 21, 2011 12:50 PM
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Originally posted by Venus:
i dont get it, if two people are in love and vow to spend the rest of their lives together then whats wrong with getting married?i think people who oppose it are simply not confident of their comitment, they always keep a safe way out..
I have nothing against those that want to get married and it isn't that I want a way out because as previously stated it isn't hard to get divorced. I don't agree with the ceremony itself. I shouldn't need to have a christian ceremony to legally prove my relationship with someone much like Lexx said. ------------------
Joe We have good days and bad days but they are all beautiful in their own way! :yinyang: IP: Logged |
Stawr
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From: N. America
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted June 21, 2011 03:16 PM
I love weddings, ya get to dress up, and free open bar!  IP: Logged |
Venus
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posted June 22, 2011 03:42 AM
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Originally posted by gijoe728:
I have nothing against those that want to get married and it isn't that I want a way out because as previously stated it isn't hard to get divorced. I don't agree with the ceremony itself. I shouldn't need to have a christian ceremony to legally prove my relationship with someone much like Lexx said.
i can see your point Joe, but i dont just mean "religious" marriages whats wrong with civil marriages? btw where i live there are no Civil Marriages! i know, right? the couple has to elope to Cyprus (20 to 30mns away by plane) get married and come back.. that is especially sad since in the small country that this is we have 18 different religious groups all of which consider inter religious marriages a taboo so basically u have to go through your whole life nit picking at possible partners from your own sect... my point is there’s nothing wrong with making your commitment official by law, the problem today is not with -weddings- and -getting married- it is with society's broken image of being married, every day we hear a statistic of how many couples got divorced or broke up, how the bad economy agitated everyone and that caused more domestic problems etc.. i think people should be less selfish and take life altering decisions less lightly whether it be marriage or divorce! IP: Logged |
Stawr
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From: N. America
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted June 22, 2011 06:54 PM
I have a feeling that if I had a traditional wedding with lots of planning, that I would be a "Bridezilla".It would be hard not to flip the **** out, if your paying with your money and what you want gets messed up. Like if I want blue frosting and they give ya yellow. THATS NOT WHAT I PAYED FOR!! To me that is an injustice. You only get Married once. (HOPEFULLY. LOL) I love weddings though. But for the sake of not having "Bridezilla" episodes I would think just getting hitched in Vegas, or going to the City County Building would be best. That would be the only reason I would not want a taditional wedding. IP: Logged |
charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 23, 2011 06:05 AM
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sand
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Registered: May 2011
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posted June 23, 2011 10:54 AM
people always say i dun look like the type to get married. i think they mean that as a compliment or whatever but i always correct them i'm the type to get married 4 times.  IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 23, 2011 01:02 PM
Haha @ Charmaine!IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 24, 2011 12:44 PM
I think every female wants marriage.IP: Logged |
emitres
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Registered: Aug 2010
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posted June 24, 2011 10:05 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
I think every female wants marriage.
oohhh i think i may have to call you out on that comment... every female indeed!  i wasn't aware that many US states didn't recognize common-law unions... where i live it's fairly normal - i believe you can be considered in a common-law partnership after 6 months of co-habitation... file joint income tax etc etc... also, unless the Harper gov't repeals it, gay marriage is sanctioned within Canada... has been for a number of years now...
so am i accurately interpreting - within the US the only "marriage" recognized is one performed within a religious context? you don't have civil services? ------------------
" Some define good as that which preserves, and evil as that which destroys; but destruction can be cleansing and purifying, for there is such a thing in both men and races as spiritual constipation, which comes from too much preservation of the status quo." ( Dion Fortune ) IP: Logged |
cathy
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From: canada
Registered: Jul 2009
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posted June 27, 2011 03:42 AM
I'm in my second marriage, first was in church, after 8 years being happily single I had a civil ceromony. Personally, I did'nt feel any commitment while we lived together for 2 years. It's true that in Canada common law couples have the same rights as married.IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
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posted July 20, 2011 09:55 AM
America seems to be a bit behind other countries in that regard.------------------
"To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing." Aristotle IP: Logged |
Venus
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posted July 20, 2011 10:12 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
I think every female wants marriage.
i have to say thats pretty sexist.. IP: Logged |
LEXX
Knowflake Posts: 9743
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2011 12:22 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
I think every female wants marriage.
Well I have noticed both men and women do pretty much equally.
I know I have been proposed to several more times than I accepted. Even had a mother ask me to marry her son.
I do know if I remarried, it would have to be with a person who totally wants me and truly loves me and my company and I have to feel the same. No more "making do" with "almost", or "good enough".------------------
~Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you ♥
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла
~There is no box.~H♥
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
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Randall
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posted July 21, 2011 06:13 PM
Is it sexist if it's a true statement? I mean, I said "I think."------------------
"To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing." Aristotle IP: Logged |
LEXX
Knowflake Posts: 9743
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 21, 2011 06:35 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Is it sexist if it's a true statement? I mean, I said "I think."
No, it is not sexist if it is your opinion based on your personal observations of most women you know.
Your usage of "think" was your disclaimer of absolutes. 
However if you said it is absolutely true 100% then yes, that would be sexist.
If it were 100% true, it would not be a sexist statement;
however it is not 100% true.
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~Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you ♥
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла
~There is no box.~H♥
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
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Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
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posted July 22, 2011 01:53 PM
Most women in America want to get married...most.IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted July 22, 2011 04:35 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
Most women in America want to get married...most.
Quite likely. IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: Saturn next to Charmainec
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posted July 23, 2011 01:35 PM
Weddings: For the brides, it means showers; for the grooms, it's curtains!IP: Logged |
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