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Topic: Marriage Is Outdated!
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LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 23, 2011 04:50 PM
  
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Originally posted by Randall:
Weddings: For the brides, it means showers; for the grooms, it's curtains!
Had a very long depressing rant but deleted it for now, 
In a nutshell;Marriage benefits men more than women based on my personal experiences to date. I am feeling very jaded on the marriage thing. IP: Logged |
emitres
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posted July 24, 2011 12:06 AM
and here i was thinking of some appropriate words for you Lexx...  i can understand why you deleted your initial post though...
i think any relationship that is ultimately based upon inequality can not function past certain preliminaries - there can never be anything beyond a certain superficiality... but i don't believe that this is true only in marriages - we are simply not as aware in short term commitments because they are just that - short term...
i don't have a traditional view point of marriage in the first place - i've never given importance to the ceremony or piece of paper ... i think we all can think of many people who are perhaps "married" by ceremony only and not by commitment to each other...
i am sorry Lexx that you have been struggling to find an equal partner and am sending you many hugs ((((((Lexx))))))
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" Some define good as that which preserves, and evil as that which destroys; but destruction can be cleansing and purifying, for there is such a thing in both men and races as spiritual constipation, which comes from too much preservation of the status quo." ( Dion Fortune ) IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 24, 2011 02:15 AM
Thank you emitres 
Love and Blessings to you ------------------
~Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you ♥
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла
~There is no box.~H♥
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
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LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 24, 2011 03:22 PM
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If you are afraid of loneliness, do not marry.
~Anton Chekhov~
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There is a difference between putting up with someone's faults just because you love them, and ignoring their bad traits just because you don't want to be alone.
~Unknown
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Randall
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posted August 09, 2011 09:30 AM
The first quote is clever.------------------
"To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing." Aristotle IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
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posted August 09, 2011 11:15 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
The first quote is clever.
Too often it is very very very true of marriage though. ------------------
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла
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Stawr
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Registered: Nov 2010
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posted August 10, 2011 07:16 PM
That must mean I'm marriage material then. LoLIP: Logged |
Randall
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posted August 11, 2011 12:47 PM
Haha!------------------
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childofzeus
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From: Jupiter
Registered: Aug 2011
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posted August 12, 2011 03:36 AM
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Originally posted by Stawr:
That must mean I'm marriage material then. LoL
Me too! IP: Logged |
charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
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posted August 12, 2011 09:34 AM
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Randall
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posted August 12, 2011 04:16 PM
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Randall
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posted August 13, 2011 03:15 PM
You marrying type people, you!------------------
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LEXX
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posted August 13, 2011 03:27 PM
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~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла
~If its love, you'll have a desire to give. If it's lust, you'll have a desire to get.
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childofzeus
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posted August 16, 2011 10:15 AM
 It'll be nice to have a partner and settle down.I'm growing tired of the dating game.The problem is finding a good guy!!!! Are there any out there???IP: Logged |
charmainec
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From: Venus next to Randall
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posted August 16, 2011 11:33 AM
This topic makes me think of shows like the Bachelor, where those women go with the intention of being the chosen one and marriage. The part that puzzles me is, why do they get all upset and cry when they are eliminated? They guy could have a brain the size of a meatball and they wouldn't care as long as they think they stand a chance at getting the guy. I mean really, the one guy on the show isn't the only man on this planet. I think they're just desperate, but that's my two cents worth..and I'm babbling now. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted August 16, 2011 04:31 PM
It's more about winning. Women are naturally competitive given that type of environment.------------------
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Randall
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posted September 24, 2011 02:14 PM
Over 50 percent of all marriages fail. If half of all planes crashed, would you ever fly?------------------
I have CDO. It's like OCD, but the letters are in alphabetical order, as they should be. IP: Logged |
emitres
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posted September 26, 2011 11:59 AM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Over 50 percent of all marriages fail.
yes...but - is the "institute" of marriage at fault... or is it the persons involved?
does it make a difference if they've had a ceremony or not? people walk away from relationships all the time... so does it become fair to say that, based on this, relationships are outdated? ------------------
" Some define good as that which preserves, and evil as that which destroys; but destruction can be cleansing and purifying, for there is such a thing in both men and races as spiritual constipation, which comes from too much preservation of the status quo." ( Dion Fortune ) IP: Logged |
BelligerentPygmy
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posted September 26, 2011 11:30 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Okay, so I'm not a fan. But now that I have your attention, I have a solution for all of the problems with marriage. I will call it a Life Partnership. What that would be is official recognition of a relationship for legal reasons. All we need is a simple federal law that requires that those unions be given the same rights as marriage. Just a simple registration process (and de-registration). No divorces. No courts. And it solves the problem with gays without offending those who oppose gay marriage. Marriage would still exist, as well. Many heterosexual couples would choose an LP over a marriage. We could also have a Life Partnership Contract to predetermine any custody and property issues in case of a split. And even Life Partnership ceremonies (symbolic only). Opinions?
Or...if it's not for you, YOU could just not get married as opposed to trying to outlaw marriage as a whole or drastically change it. Marriage does work for some and they should be allowed to do it if they want it. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted September 27, 2011 10:36 AM
As the words you quoted of me state, marriage would still exist. ------------------
I have CDO. It's like OCD, but the letters are in alphabetical order, as they should be. IP: Logged |
juniperb
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From: Blue Star Kachina
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posted September 27, 2011 03:47 PM
marriage is alive and well and I`m enjoying it ; bumps and all  ------------------
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~Rumi~ IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted September 28, 2011 01:58 PM
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Randall
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posted September 29, 2011 01:59 PM
When marriage works, it works well. Good to see.IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
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posted October 05, 2011 01:13 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
Okay, so I'm not a fan. But now that I have your attention, I have a solution for all of the problems with marriage. I will call it a Life Partnership. What that would be is official recognition of a relationship for legal reasons. All we need is a simple federal law that requires that those unions be given the same rights as marriage. Just a simple registration process (and de-registration). No divorces. No courts. And it solves the problem with gays without offending those who oppose gay marriage. Marriage would still exist, as well. Many heterosexual couples would choose an LP over a marriage. We could also have a Life Partnership Contract to predetermine any custody and property issues in case of a split. And even Life Partnership ceremonies (symbolic only). Opinions?
I don't even know if there was a period in time when there was a real purpose for a contractual legally binding union ever in history. When I need answers to questions that reflect our conventionally restrictive society I look towards nature. Why is it impossible for some people to live simple lives free from legal contracts and institutions. We've created such a conventionally suffocating society we're blind to alternatives. Any response to why marriage isn't a conventional delusion and any other legally binding contractual agreement is a response out of fear for degrading an institutionalized block of civilized society that many have been psychologically conditioned to believe in. Instead of restricting ourselves and being self disciplined and self reliant, we accept restrictive practices and agreements to keep our lives structured, limiting our own freedom. I accept democracy, but give me anarchy any day of the week. Of course in today's day and age we've created such restrictive and oppressive societies globally that anarchy would be tyrannical for all those involved, completing going against the philosophies of such a practice. In some non-conventionalized ancient cultures they performed ritual ceremonies, spiritual ceremonies, with the blessings of spiritual deities and the Great Universe. Of course every culture varied in its practice of ceremonial rituals. The blessings and benefits granted by these ritual ceremonies were spiritual not material as in the situation of legal contractual unions. There is nothing wrong with celebrating life and unconditional love, however why do we have to create legal agreements as a way to validate these bonds. Unless of course those who created these institutions and those who agree to participate within these institutions are looking to get more out them then just lifelong companionship. In other words if it were strictly for celebrating the union of unconditional love why turn it into a legal agreement? When you die the Universe won't make a note that you were married for 20 years, but the Obituary writer will and possibly the registrar where you got your marriage license documentation. IP: Logged |
LEXX
Knowflake Posts: 9743
From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted October 05, 2011 04:28 PM
Because of stupid privacy laws;
if your mate gets hurt or ill and hospitalized;
you are not allowed to find out anything.
So for now, legal marriage is one of the things that allows one "some" access to their partner during such times.
However even that access is very limited.
It is all a legal mess no matter how one looks at it. IP: Logged |
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