posted February 25, 2014 02:21 PM            

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Synstry:

posted February 25, 2014 06:15 PM            

I do not like the sensation off the Sun-Mercury conjunction to the planets around the DSC. Like one person never wanted to take the relationship that far. From the synastry and natals, for the guy, commitment was like in the far distant non-existent future. It seems like that they are perfectly taken with you, but then there is a large gap in expectations and motivations. He is happy in the relationship, you I think would like to get things on track to a formal commitment. So there is a massive disparity in aims. He is not in the mindset maturity wise for a committed relationship though he could take it on. Because you are so focused on it, I think you could burn out your interest with frustration. You want to have momentum going towards a more committed relationship and he just won't be answering and acting in accordance with what you will perceive as focused on the same goal. He could actually be a potentially life lasting relationship.

You seem to be not so committed as you think. I feel like you would want the pizazz and excitement and fuss and reputation of being on the road to marital commitment, however there is a sensation that it is really just the achievenment of it that you are after and you potentially could start affairs and dissipate in interest by about 8-10yrs. At the moment it is not quite realized, however, you will potentially be disappointed with his prospects. They might not quite measure up to the high mark that you will eventually be driving for. Its strange though, as it feels like you will continually raise the benchmark, you are ambitious and happy to be the power behind the throne - obligating and driving the guy forward - so that you can feel satisfied with your combined status and achievements - which for you would chiefly be how well you are coaching the guy to be successful.

You could have a great relationship, but you will potentially forget about love, or you will love on a reward basis.

The guy is not without his weaknesses either, which is not unlike any of us. In his favour, for you, he can potentially be successful and he can ride your perceived demands on him. He could come to a crisis of integrity a few times though. Examples of such are, that he may look outside the marriage for involvement as consolation and a kind of payback for the demanding high expectations atmosphere of the marriage. And secondly, he could secretly invest in something of his own or put money aside in attempt to gain a bit of security. The nature of the relationship will give him the message that if he doesn't do what you expect and continually drive on upward and successfully, you may ditch him and leave him with next to nothing.

This is of course only my view on things. He does feel like a genuine lovely guy and there is potential for a long lasting wonderful relationship but I think he would like to have more say in reaching both maturity and achievement under his own steam but with loving support. If he feels he has to become like a mindless robot to fulfil your goals he will become subversive.

Conversely, if you are able to gain your position of authority and control over every facet of your relationship and over him - it will be like a bottomless pit - you will never be satisfied as you will continually raise the bar.

If you don't get your way to be able to manage his success as if it was your own career and you were his personal life coach and task master, so yes, if you don't get to do that, you potentially will lose interest due to not being able to get your teeth into something.

I sound harsh, but remember it is not a definite that I would even be right. If it sounds like a possibility then I have looked for advice due to the nature of the dilemma.

It seems that generally you are very set in your ways, its your way or the highway - though most people would be oblivious of this and in fact it is only embryonic to you at the moment to be like this. Mostly everything would still be about fun and lightness. You have a stubborn barrier to shift in yourself - you refuse to take responsibility for your own success, that is why you would rather be the power behind the throne so it all rests on another's shoulders.

So the barrier, and how to shift it...the barrier is that you will not release money to pay for something - it could even be through an education scheme that you would have to pay back - but in your mind it would already be money that you do not want to release - again you would rather use another person and there resources - you do not want something accounted to you - you want to be free of expectations, the burden of having to reach the success you want etc. The advice is to start small, you need to nurture yourself into small achievable targets that don't 'cost' you too much. At present the image is that you have these scales whereby all achievement ideals, success etc is like this huge ten tonne weight on where the partner sits (it might modify with different person's however). And on your side your expectations that you have to try and deal with a things like, getting a scrapbook together, or making sure that this year you do send out half a dozen Christmas cards. Oh and you will give someone a lift for a few days while there car is broken down, if they do your tax for the year and maybe next year too.

posted February 26, 2014 10:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Chryseis:
In the composite, I like the Jupiter to Moon from the 1st to the 10th, its a real winning aspect in terms of attraction and compatibility. Even with Chiron there, it is really good as it has a lot of comfort to it - like you really support each other emotionally.

I do not like the sensation off the Sun-Mercury conjunction to the planets around the DSC. Like one person never wanted to take the relationship that far. From the synastry and natals, for the guy, commitment was like in the far distant non-existent future. It seems like that they are perfectly taken with you, but then there is a large gap in expectations and motivations. He is happy in the relationship, you I think would like to get things on track to a formal commitment. So there is a massive disparity in aims. He is not in the mindset maturity wise for a committed relationship though he could take it on. Because you are so focused on it, I think you could burn out your interest with frustration. You want to have momentum going towards a more committed relationship and he just won't be answering and acting in accordance with what you will perceive as focused on the same goal. He could actually be a potentially life lasting relationship.

You seem to be not so committed as you think. I feel like you would want the pizazz and excitement and fuss and reputation of being on the road to marital commitment, however there is a sensation that it is really just the achievenment of it that you are after and you potentially could start affairs and dissipate in interest by about 8-10yrs. At the moment it is not quite realized, however, you will potentially be disappointed with his prospects. They might not quite measure up to the high mark that you will eventually be driving for. Its strange though, as it feels like you will continually raise the benchmark, you are ambitious and happy to be the power behind the throne - obligating and driving the guy forward - so that you can feel satisfied with your combined status and achievements - which for you would chiefly be how well you are coaching the guy to be successful.

You could have a great relationship, but you will potentially forget about love, or you will love on a reward basis.

The guy is not without his weaknesses either, which is not unlike any of us. In his favour, for you, he can potentially be successful and he can ride your perceived demands on him. He could come to a crisis of integrity a few times though. Examples of such are, that he may look outside the marriage for involvement as consolation and a kind of payback for the demanding high expectations atmosphere of the marriage. And secondly, he could secretly invest in something of his own or put money aside in attempt to gain a bit of security. The nature of the relationship will give him the message that if he doesn't do what you expect and continually drive on upward and successfully, you may ditch him and leave him with next to nothing.

This is of course only my view on things. He does feel like a genuine lovely guy and there is potential for a long lasting wonderful relationship but I think he would like to have more say in reaching both maturity and achievement under his own steam but with loving support. If he feels he has to become like a mindless robot to fulfil your goals he will become subversive.

Conversely, if you are able to gain your position of authority and control over every facet of your relationship and over him - it will be like a bottomless pit - you will never be satisfied as you will continually raise the bar.

If you don't get your way to be able to manage his success as if it was your own career and you were his personal life coach and task master, so yes, if you don't get to do that, you potentially will lose interest due to not being able to get your teeth into something.

I sound harsh, but remember it is not a definite that I would even be right. If it sounds like a possibility then I have looked for advice due to the nature of the dilemma.

It seems that generally you are very set in your ways, its your way or the highway - though most people would be oblivious of this and in fact it is only embryonic to you at the moment to be like this. Mostly everything would still be about fun and lightness. You have a stubborn barrier to shift in yourself - you refuse to take responsibility for your own success, that is why you would rather be the power behind the throne so it all rests on another's shoulders.

So the barrier, and how to shift it...the barrier is that you will not release money to pay for something - it could even be through an education scheme that you would have to pay back - but in your mind it would already be money that you do not want to release - again you would rather use another person and there resources - you do not want something accounted to you - you want to be free of expectations, the burden of having to reach the success you want etc. The advice is to start small, you need to nurture yourself into small achievable targets that don't 'cost' you too much. At present the image is that you have these scales whereby all achievement ideals, success etc is like this huge ten tonne weight on where the partner sits (it might modify with different person's however). And on your side your expectations that you have to try and deal with a things like, getting a scrapbook together, or making sure that this year you do send out half a dozen Christmas cards. Oh and you will give someone a lift for a few days while there car is broken down, if they do your tax for the year and maybe next year too.

So yes, the advice seems to be, to just start evening things up a little but in small manageable bits like do small attainments and pretty soon you will find you will have less of a punishing drive for a partner and more happiness rather than emptiness for yourself.

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posted February 26, 2014 06:35 PM            

I often feel severe with my interpretations but I just read it as it comes and hope people are not devastated or affected negatively, I don't try to modify it to suit myself but try to read it as it presents itself to me.

Relationships confuse me, I have to admit. As said, I really like the composite Jupiter-Moon trine in mutual reception from the first to the 10th, its glorious and will go along way for tempering some of the hard aspects etc.

posted January 11, 2015 05:28 PM            

The composite has a love stellium sun, venus and libra which is very nice. I've read on here this is the best arrangement. Not sure how neptune on the descendant would play out. Squares from uranus and saturn are present but the love stellium would help make up for that. The venus saturn square could be binding, a bit of saturn isn't a bad thing.